IF THE GRASS LOOKS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE…….
It was my neighbor Stan’s green GRASS- it looked and felt like a rich plush green carpet as I squished it between my freshly painted bare toes. I had walked by it many times and I knew I was “trespassing”, but I just wanted to touch it! No one would ever know. JUST TRY IT OUT! I had never seen grass so green. Our grass always looks so dry and I hate those tiny little aggravating ant mounds that invade our lawn. Oh, and then there are the WEEDS!!! Honestly, it looks like I have collards or some kind of thorny looking vegetable plant growing on my front lawn. The ferocious weeds have crept in and I just mow them. At least they are a green color and fill in the bare spots! Sometimes I sit on the front porch and laugh at Stan in that hideous oversized sun hat. NO kidding though, it seems he tends the grass 2-4 times a week. Giving it just enough water, the right amount of chemicals and handpicking any weed that may survive his strict regimen. Wouldn’t surprise me at all if he SINGS to the grass to make it grow!!
Why is it sometimes within our MARRIAGES the grass can APPEAR to look “greener on the other side?” We let our priorities so out of line, work, kids, church, commitments… that we soon forget to communicate, to take time for each other, to “water OUR lawns.” Soon we find ourselves attracted to the sights…oh if I could just have that lifestyle, attracted to the sound of a flirtatious remark, or even the feeling you had when you received that compliment from another man or woman other than your SPOUSE. My friend, no matter what you think, EVERY marriage has WEEDS! Your neighbor’s marriage, your deacons, your Sunday School teachers, even your PASTOR’s marriage!! No one is exempt.
How do we as a couple get rid of the weeds?? We need to pray for our spouse, have regular date nights, at least 15 minutes of what we call uninterrupted couch time- communicating with no electronics, no kids, and no remote control! That’s right, we just need to take time to listen to each other. We also need Christian friends to hold us accountable to our marriages. Most importantly is the realization that your spouse can not meet your EVERY need. There is only One who can do that and his name is JESUS!! Sometimes the grass looks greener and we just need to water our OWN lawns. I love this one, “Sometimes the grass looks greener because you can’t see the MANURE from where you are standing!!! Think about it. :) Bev
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. -Colossians 3:5