Okay so yesterday in Freedom: Part 1 we talked about submission to Jesus. Today we’ll talk about submission to your husband.
God has given your husband authority and responsibility. Authority and responsibility in the marriage go hand in hand. Because your husband has authority in the marriage it does not mean that he is more important than you. Husband and wife are equal partners, but as in the Trinity there is a head, God established the husband as the authority in the marriage. Guess who gets to stand before God and answer for everything your family did at the end of time? Your husband. He has authority and responsibility in your marriage.
Submission does not mean you are stupid. Scott will tell you that he thinks I’m smarter than he is! In fact, since we’ve been submitted to Christ, he brings every major decision that he has to make to me and says “Honey, this is what we’ve got to decide. What do you think?” so I can share my thoughts with him and speak into the decision. And then he decides and implements the decision. Is it easy? Not always, but I rest knowing my husband is going to stand before God and be held accountable one day. There’s freedom in that understanding.
Submission does not mean you are weak. Remember in 1 Peter 3:1. It says, “Wives, in the same way…” What does that mean? In 1 Peter 2:23 it says “When they hurled their insults at Him (meaning Jesus), He did not retaliate; when He suffered, He made no threats. Instead, He entrusted Himself to Him who judges justly.” Jesus entrusted Himself to God in the midst of His circumstances to pay for our sins. Jesus was the roaring Lion of Judah, but remember He was also the submitted Lamb of God…which is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of tremendous strength. It takes strength to submit to your husband even if he’s not submitted to God. Submission is knowing your husband to has godly control of the marriage.
I love Scott’s word picture of submission…he breaks it in to two parts- Sub and Mission. Husbands are to have a mission for the marriage and family, and we as wives are to come up under that mission, supporting it as iron girders would.
I also love my favorite word picture of submission…ducking so the Holy Spirit can smack my husband with the 2 X 4 of conviction. When you stay submitted to God and your husband, you leave room for the Holy Spirit to do what only He can do!
NOTE #1: Submission does NOT mean following your husband into sinful behavior.
NOTE #2: Submission does not mean that you remain in a physically abusive relationship. Get out of harm’s way to a place of safety, and work on your marriage from that safe place. Seek counseling for both of you.
NOTE #3: 1 Peter 3 does NOT say ”girlfriends submit to your boyfriends.” It was written for wives and husbands. This verse does not mean it is your duty to win over your boyfriend to Jesus…if you are dating a man who isn’t saved, your behavior is contrary to the Word. That is not behavior that will win anyone to Jesus.