Proverbs 1: Listen

Proverbs 1: Listen

Need a daily dose of mind renewal? God has given us the book of Proverbs for just that purpose, all we have to do is listen. In 31 chapters, God shows us the character of the wise and the foolish, helping us to distinguish between the two and choose which we'll pursue and emulate. He shows us that godliness is practical, as every relationship in life mentioned- our relationship with God, parents, spouses, children, neighbors and country- as He deals with the practical affairs of life.

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Be Held

Be Held

If I could go back and change anything about my affair and the 7 & ½ years I spent running from God, it wouldn’t be the affair itself. Hear me out. I’m not saying I am proud of what I did. I’m not saying that it was right or that I harbor some nostalgic feelings about that time in my life.  I do not. I am actually quite disgusted by the life I lived and the things that I compromised for the sake of being “happy.”

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Beautiful is a 'be', not a 'do'

Beautiful is a 'be', not a 'do'

Have you seen Chronicles of Narnia, where the four Pevensie children step through the wardrobe and into a great romance set amidst a great battle? It's a great story, even more so for me when I went to the Deepening Weekend for the first time, where I learned that my life (and yours) is a great romance set amidst a great battle. I walked away from that weekend with an new perspective on beauty, my beauty, and it had been gnawing at me to write about it, so when J. Parker from Hot, Holy, & Humorous invited me to be part of a series of blog posts on beauty, I knew it was time to put pen to paper, and share part of the journey God has led me through. Read on!

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Know & Be Known

Know & Be Known

I have been pondering the “one anothers” in the Bible lately. It started with the call to pray for one another; because praying is a gift that God has opened up to me over the past few years. I‘m realizing how hungry my heart is to really be prayed for and to experience others’ prayers for me through their writing them on Facebook, dropping me a note, texting it to me or their just praying over me in person.

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Showing Respect for the Separated Husband

Showing Respect for the Separated Husband

There are times, of course, when it feels easier to respect your husband. Such as when he is being loving, is well rested and polite, meeting your needs and being understanding. I know first hand how challenging it can be when your life and marriage are not living up to even basic expectations. Or worse--you are estranged or separated from your husband and he isn't exactly behaving respectable.

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Recovery After An Affair: There is Hope

Recovery After An Affair: There is Hope

I could sense the fear in his eyes, as the tears began to flow down the side of his cheek. “You just don’t love me anymore, do you?” I selfishly ignored the question and continued to drown the sound of his trembling voice with the vigorous  roar of the vacuum cleaner. Frustrated, my husband snatched the cord from the wall and began to cry out, “Tell me, I have to know do you still love me?” I stood there callously, unmoved by his daunting words and then without thinking or even showing the slightest remorse I blurted out my reply: "I just don’t “feel” a thing!"

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Take a Stand: Divorce is not the answer

Take a Stand: Divorce is not the answer

Surely you've heard the saying "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything." Little is more true than this when deciding to stand for your marriage even as the world gives you every reason to walk away and not to stand. Believe it or not, there are times that those who will discourage someone from standing will even use God's Word to make walking away seem okay. DON'T BE THAT PERSON! 

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How did I not know?

How did I not know?

"I feel like such a fool!"

We hear that all the time from spouses who have found out that their husbands or wives have been having an affair and they didn't know about it. And they feel like such a fool because they feel they should have known about it. They beat themselves up with the question "how did I miss all the signs?" They feel like everyone in the world knows except them.

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No Regrets: Living a Regret Free Marriage

No Regrets: Living a Regret Free Marriage

Divorce statistics are not surprise, we live in a selfish, impatient world that says 'I want what I want, when I want it.' We rationalize the consequences of our selfishness, deciding that children are resilient, we deserve to be happy and everyone is doing it. We make decisions made under the guise of no regrets, leave no path untravelled, no stone unturned, or doing things my way, as Frank Sinatra put it.

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Are You Paralyzed With Fear?

Are You Paralyzed With Fear?

Are you being attacked with paralyzing fear? Maybe it’s your marriage, job, health, finances, depression, struggles with a prodigal child, attacks of gossip, and you feel as if you are going under. Hold on! My God has heard your moanings and your groanings and He has seen your tears! Keep your head above the waters, kick with all you’ve got! Help is on the way!

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