Did You Marry a Loser?

Did You Marry a Loser?

My husband has an entrepreneur's spirit. He has always longed to own a business, to be his own boss, set his own schedule, and to own something bigger than himself. I, on the other hand, have always preferred to live knowing that someone else is responsible for making sure my paychecks will clear, confident that my hard work would be acknowledged and rewarded. And frankly, once upon a time, in the early years of our marriage, I would tell Scott that his ideas for owning a business were unrealistic...and yes...(I said it)...stupid.

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Bye-Bye Granny Panties!

Bye-Bye Granny Panties!

Hold on to your blue jeans for this one,  here comes a mighty confession! As a matter of fact, someone just might want to call me up and take me out to lunch! Whoodoggie...forget the lunch, just drop by my office with a dozen cream filled doughnuts, a couple of jars of crunchy peanut butter and some chocolate bars. I am coming clean and it feels good. It's a day of revelation!

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Dangers of Discontentment

Dangers of Discontentment

Discontentment is one of the enemy's favorite tools. Remember in Genesis 3? Satan approached the sinless woman in the perfect world God had created just for her and her husband. She had everything she could ever possibly need, but he convinced her by planting a seed of doubt that the one thing she couldn't have (because God was protecting her) was the one thing she couldn't live without. Even though in reality that one thing God kept from her would kill her, break her world, strain her relationship with God and her husband, and create a legacy of brokenness for her children.

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Five Steps to Destroy Your Marriage

Five Steps to Destroy Your Marriage

God creates, Satan pervertsThe Five T's are the road that will bring you to intimacy beyond your wildest dreams with your spouse, as we mentioned in Five T's for Success. Before marriage and outside of marriage, the Five T's are like a road which leads up to and potentially over the proverbial "line". The problem with a line on the road is that it can be difficult to see until you're almost on top of and about to cross it.

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Proverbs 31: The Good Wife

Proverbs 31: The Good Wife

That woman described in Proverbs 31 sounds pretty formidable, doesn't she? What is a good wife, really?

My journey to become a 'good' wife started long before I read Proverbs 31. As I read different chapters and verses in the old and new testament, when I listen to Jesus, all of it informs me in my journey. Admittedly, it is a verse in Proverbs 31 that I had latched on to early in my walk as I was standing for my marriage.

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Proverbs 29: Wise People

Proverbs 29: Wise People

Have you ever been afraid to do something because of what other people might think or how they might respond?

I can remember countless situations when it was so much easier to follow the crowd or to make decisions I knew my friends would approve of, rather than consider a path I wanted to pursue. I'd like to say that was limited to my college days, or that since I'd surrendered to Jesus, I don't struggle with that anymore. But I do.

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Proverbs 23: Think & Be Wise

Proverbs 23: Think & Be Wise

For many years early in our marriage, I thought my husband was kind of a loser. I didn't say that, but I spent a lot of time wishing he was more this, that and other thing; and less this, that and the other thing, based on my expectations for him. As I thought those things and focused on them, it framed the way I spoke to him and treated him....disrespected him, really. Did these thoughts make him change for the better? No. What you think matters. What you meditate on and believe will frame your world. When you are journeying with Jesus, reading His Word every day, and meditating on it, the more you will know God and His character. The more you know God, the more you will be able to know who YOU are! YOU ARE HIS BELOVED SON OR DAUGHTER! When you know who God is and who you are, and you learn that you are living the greatest love story set amidst the greatest battle, it changes everything.

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Proverbs 22: Life

Proverbs 22: Life

Did you go through premarital counseling before your wedding? With a pastor or a priest? Whether or not you did, your whole life has been a journey of premarital counseling. From the day you took your first breath (and honestly, even before!), you were learning about what a man/husband/father is and does and what a woman/wife/mother is and does. It's true.

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