This week's Friday Five is a bit of a play on words. We not only have a list of five points, but it's based upon Ephesians chapter five. Here are five reasons the Bible says you should go home and love your wife.
#1: 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Men, I know there are times when your wife looks more like a porcupine than someone with whom you'd want to cuddle. But it's at those times she needs your love more than ever. Step out in faith and give up your right to be right. Love her the way you'd want to be loved, with understanding, patience and affection.
#2: 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Many men misinterpret this to mean that they are the ruler of their household. That their wife and family should blindly submit to their "God-given authority". This is wrong thinking, men. You are the head of the household, God has designed and ordained you to be in that position, but that does not mean you are lord. No, it means that you are the servant-leader and your example is Christ. Christ, the Son of God, was willing to wrap a towel around His waist and wash the nasty feet of the disciples. That is your example. Are you walking it out?
#3: 15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. As the servant-leader of your home, are you striving to be a good steward of your blessings? When we think of stewardship, we think of money, of assets. Men, you are also called to be good stewards of your opportunities, not just financial, but also of the opportunities God has placed in your path to serve Him, your family and to be a testimony to those around you, always reflecting the love of Christ.
#4: 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. Husband and wife are designed to become one flesh once they are married. There's nothing you have knowledge of that you could hide from yourself, right? You know the deepest, darkest corners of your heart and in marriage, your spouse is supposed to know them too. If you're hiding something from your spouse, it will drive you towards isolation. As hard as it might be, drag whatever it is into the light. However, you should be wise about how you proceed. Get Godly counsel, find someone you can trust and ask them to help mediate the discussion. Above all PRAY!
#5: 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her Until recently, I didn't know the extent to which God expects we husbands to walk this out. In the event you haven't heard before, Christ is the bridgeroom and we (His church) are the bride (see John 3). Let me ask you a question: Do you believe that we, the church, could ever sacrifice on the same level or in a greater manner than Christ Himself did for us? Of course not, but the point I'm trying to make is that if Christ is the bridegroom and we are the bride, then it follows that as the bridegroom to our bride we are expected by God to sacrifice at a higher level than is expected from our wife.
Men, as husbands, we are going to be held accountable one day, not only for what we did with the time given to us as an individual, but also for our wife and family. We are the pastor, the shepherd, the servant-leader and protector of our home and family. It's a serious responsibility. Let's take it seriously. I'd encourage you to read the entire book of Ephesians to gain a better insight as to who we are as men in Christ.