Dad & Mom, I love you both in ways I can't explain. You got me through divorce and snow and sun and rain. I'm so glad you are married to each other. You two are the best parents in the universe! Love, Steven
For years, in our little family of three, we have written each other love letters, folded them like paper airplanes, origami or rolled them like scrolls and stuck them in the Christmas tree. It's one of our traditions. Part of decorating the tree each year includes reading through the past love letters, and being reminded of how we have loved each other well...and not so well. Our son's letters, from when he could write, are filled with the innocent, bold love and the wild hope of a child. Some of the letters Scott and I had written were painful to read, so there are some we burned, putting them forever in our past. The letters Scott and I wrote to each other reveal that longing for something more, something we didn't know we needed.
As I read through letters written through our time together before we knew Jesus, you can hear the desperation in our words....
....Christmas 2002, can you believe it?? I love you so much, despite the levels of crazy that you make me. You mean so much to me that I can't bear the thought of you growing apart from me, yet there are often times that I feel as though I don't know what is going on in your life. Please include me... -excerpt from a letter from me to Scott, Christmas 2002
We could feel each other slipping away. The conflict we shared and the things that got under our skin about each other seemed so much bigger than any hope either of us felt, and it was reflected in our "love" letters. We didn't know how to love each other until we accepted God's love for us. And when we did, how our letters changed!
...All things are possible with God, I know that every time I think of our family and how He has restored each of us and our marriage. I thank Him every day for the changes He's made in me and how those changes have enabled me to love you in ways I'd never fathomed. - excerpt from a letter from me to Scott, Christmas 2006
What a difference four years and submitting to Jesus Christ makes! Our letters to each other are different, our letters to and from our son are different. I've heard different pastors call the bible God's love letter to us. Wow, how reading that love letter changes us!
I've got to share one of my favorite love notes to me from Steven in 2001. It's short, sweet and to the point:
Mom, I love you very much. You are cool. You are nice. You let me wear your mittens. Love, Steven
I wouldn't trade any part of our journey for anything, for ever step we've taken and every word we've spoken has brought us to this place in our lives. And we don't stand still here; we keep walking with Jesus through the tough stuff of life, keep loving each other and keep loving Jesus more. And we keep writing our love letters.
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. - 1 Corinthians 13
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. - 1 John 4:8
Merry Christmas, everyone!! Love each other well!
When was the last time you wrote each other love letters? Pray, asking God to reveal to you the way you love, pick up a pen and piece of paper and tell your spouse and children how much you love them!
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