Loving Those Who Don't Love Me


Do you love me check YES or NO. Remember those little notes we used to pass in elementary school? The white ruled paper folded in half with the  two little boxes, the thick number two pencil, and that one definitive question.


All the while, you sat next to your grade school crush anxiously awaiting the answer.....  After a few times of getting my heart broke, I became a little discouraged. SO I put on my first grade thinking cap and changed mine to read, Do you love me check YES or MAYBE!  How is that for positive thinking?

Have you ever known someone that no matter how hard you tried, they just did not respond positively to you? Once I was anxious to share my calling and love for the ministry with someone I truly admired. Even after numerous text messages, lunch requests, and calls she still wouldn’t give me the time of day.  In all honesty, I felt like she did everything she could to ignore me.

I am just getting real. You know, Satan likes to use these type of situations to destroy your self esteem and  attack your thoughts. Just being candid, there were a few nights when frustrated and hurt I would lie awake, tossing and turning trying to come up with a reason for her rejection and negative response. Had I said something offensive? Was she talking about me behind my back? When that happens, it is so easy to be tempted to give up, give in to your hurts, get defensive and respond back in a negative way. My fleshly side, wanted to cry out in retaliation, "fine I don't need you, see who gets the cold shoulder now, you see if I invite you to any of my girlfriend parties!  Ahem...

God wants us to do just the opposite! OUCH! Here I go stepping all over my hot pink polka dot painted toes again. Pedicure, I am gonna need a pedicure!! It is one of the most confounding commands in the Bible, But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies..” Luke 6:27.  God calls us to pray for those who mistreat us and LOVE them at all cost. You're kidding me! Lord, you want me to love that friend who is speaking negative words about me? Or maybe it is a family member who is gossiping about you? Or  you may be reading this and it could very well be a spouse with whom you are seeking healing in a relationship and all you are getting is bitter words or harsh looks in return.....  "But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies."

There are times that I have to remind myself to respond with grace, pray and seek my God's understanding. When God steps on the scene anything is possible. Healing can come and the touchy situation just might change into a budding new friendship. I am decreeing now that she and I will one day be sitting in a café sharing deep fried pickles with ranch dressing and a sweet tea, laughing and enjoying a harmonious Christian relationship. Satan on the other hand, will be sitting in a corner somewhere with a black eye just a pouting and wondering what went wrong with his plan!!

"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy' But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who hurt you, and pray for those who spitefully use you & persecute you." Matthew 5:44 NKJV

Do you have a friend you need to seek out and love?

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