Words Matter

Words Matter
Words Matter

Have you ever thought about the power of your words? So often we hear people say "I didn't mean it" or "they were just words". But I bet you can remember something discouraging that was said to you as a child, something your supervisor said recently, or that your spouse said last week, can't you?

Our words have power. We can't afford to just say "the power of life and death is in the tongue" tritely and move on to the next verse in Proverbs. Our words frame our world. As mentioned in Thoughts to Destiny, our words are a powerful part of choosing the direction of our lives; our words are shaped by our thoughts and determine our actions.

WORDS CREATE: From the first verses in Genesis, God is showing us the power of the spoken word. He spoke and it was so. He didn't think the world into existence, He didn't snap the world into existence, He spoke. When we choose our words carefully to breathe life into seemingly hopeless situations instead of choosing words that perpetuate them, new opportunities are created. Ill chosen words destroy, shred and cut those around us. What have got to lose? Start to choose encouraging words!

WORDS ACCOMPLISH: When we speak, Isaiah 55:11 tells us "So will the words that come out of my mouth will not come back empty-handed. They’ll do the work I sent them to do, they’ll complete the assignment I gave them." Your words are seeds, so ask yourself this question: what are you sowing with your words? Choose to sow love, truth, grace, mercy, and encouragement into your life and the lives around you.

WORDS STRENGTHEN: God shows us the power of our spoken words, He tells us that our words accomplish, so why pray out loud? When we pray out loud, we are also hearing our words, meditating on them, which strengthens our hope and faith. When you are praying with someone, they are encouraged and strengthened by your words. Consider, too, the power of kind words to change your day. Speak encouraging words to your spouse and children in the morning, to the cashier at the grocery store, to your waitress at lunch; your words may be the kindest words they've heard all day.

WORDS FOCUS: Our brains are such that they can only focus on what our mouths are saying. You can't even think your name and speak your address. Also, your words will shape your actions as you are focused on speaking life. Your actions will change to line up with your words.

Husbands, are you using your words to pursue and protect your wife or to pummel her? Love your wife (Eph 5:25) with your words, speaking kindly and gently to her. In fact, we learn in 1 Peter 3:7 that when you don't live with understanding with your wife, your prayers are hindered!

 In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.] 1 Peter 3:7

Wives, when you speak to your husband, are you speaking to the punk or the prince in him? When you speak to your husband like he's a punk, he will respond like one. When you speak to the prince in your husband, the prince will respond. I love the Amplified version of 1 Peter 3:2, when he describes reverence for your husband: "you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him—to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband." Can you imagine how your words would change if you CHOSE to reverence your husband this way? Speak to the prince in your husband, even when you can't see him...he's there and will rise up like a cork in a glass. The more you pour in, the higher he'll rise.

The book of Proverbs has 31 chapters and is filled with wisdom and insight on the power of words. I challenge you to read a chapter a day- starting today! Today is January 24, so break out Proverbs 24 and read it out loud. Latch on to one verse and really let it sink in. Write it on your hand and let God work on you through it all day. Tomorrow, read Proverbs 25. Let God work you over with His Word to change your words and your life!

How has your life been shaped by words spoken to or about you?

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