Have you ever been asked to do something you didn't want to do? Or maybe you just didn't understand the purpose? As my relationship with Christ develops, I find that He sometimes puts me in uncomfortable circumstances in order to help me grow in Him.
Learning of my husband's infidelity was only the beginning of a very long and difficult journey; it was then I decided that I would completely trust God in ALL aspects of my life. I asked Him to show me His will, to teach me, to guide me, and to use me. I began to pray each day about the circumstances of my family. When faced with obstacles, I asked God to show me what to do. I learned to read His word and seek Him like never before. It was more than knowing of Him. I was truly getting to know Him and building a relationship. My journey has been about completely surrendering my will and obediently following Christ.
When my husband first left, our boys rarely went to stay with him, and he was very uninvolved. After a couple of years, he decided he wanted more time with them. He also wanted them to meet "HER"... the woman who helped to tear apart my family! Well, anyone who knows much about me knows that I am quite a "Mama Bear" when it comes to my boys. So immediately I became protective, and I honestly didn't want them anywhere near her if I could help it. Not to mention our youngest son was not even aware of her existence. I cried out to God to show me what I needed to do. He answered me clearly, but I wasn't quite ready for His response. He wanted me to meet HER face to face.
I wasn't sure how I would face this circumstance with grace. My human nature wanted to do mean things to her, but God's message was clear. This meeting was not about what she did with my husband. It was my job to model the true love of Christ and do what was best for my children. So, I set up a face to face meeting and asked a trusted friend to be there as a mediator. Much time was spent in prayer in preparation for this face-to-face meeting. My objective was to help her understand my boys, what they had experienced with the family changes, and to share the values and beliefs with which I am raising them.
I won't bore you with the details of our meeting, but let me share that the Holy Spirit was truly present the entire time. I was able to calmly talk with her about my boys, share my beliefs and family values, learn about her background, and to share God's truth about marriage. The whole time, I thought this meeting was going to be about helping her, and I certainly continue to pray that it did. However, it was so much more than that. God used that meeting to soften my heart and to see her through His eyes. I realized she wasn't some monster. She was actually a very confused, broken, and deceived woman that had led a difficult life. This meeting also was able to make her introduction into my boys lives a little easier.
After that meeting, God lifted a major burden from my heart! He showed me that it was not my job to fix my husband or this woman. I had done the job He asked me to do...I shared His message and His love unconditionally! After that meeting, I knew that I could completely give the burden of worrying over my husband to Jesus.
I have learned that where He leads me, I will follow because His will is perfect! He knows just what we need and when we need it.
"I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me!" ~ Philippians 4:13
Are you seeking God in all areas of your life? Is He asking you to do something that you are unsure about? I encourage you to walk in obedience. It will be a decision that really helps you to grow!
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