What Are You Giving Your Kids?

What legacy do you want to leave your children? I remember hearing this question in a sermon. It really resonated deep within me. So, I began to think about the things I prioritized in their lives, how we spent our time, the rules of our home, and much more. I tried to put myself in their shoes to see what they would likely remember when I was gone. Well, I quickly realized there were some things I needed to change.


Let me share my journey to motherhood. As a young girl at the age of 15, I started to have lots of female problems and complications. I had four surgeries by the age of 22, and the doctors found cervical cancer by the age of 23. For years I was told it was highly unlikely I would ever have children ....... BUT GOD!!!!

I had an intense desire to be a mom more than words can describe. So, I began to quote Mark 11:24 daily and stand on God's word. I had a wonderful christian woman who prayed with me regularly. One day when I was still in high school, she shared a vision that God gave her. She told me to stop worrying and trust God with all my heart because He had a beautiful son He would send. Soon after that she also said that the little boy would have a little brother, and they would be like John and James in the bible. It was like God immediately spoke peace to the storm raging within my hear


t. So even when the devil tried to throw a monkey wrench into my life, I trusted that He had it all under control.

Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. ~ Mark 11:24

Well, fast forward to the depths of motherhood, and you would find two great boys that God blessed me with just as He promised many years before. The reality is that I have been far from perfect as a mother. I have made lots of mistakes on this journey. The biggest mistake was running from God for many years and not having a Godly home and marriage.

Admitting that is so embarrassing, after seeing how mightily God moved in my life time and time again. However, part of me was confused, upset, and even angry because my youngest son had numerous medical and special needs. I had a hard time taking him to church. I didn't feel like I could leave him with others because they didn't understand him. You could have described me as a "helicopter" mom.

My husband and I dealt with parenting very differently. He pretended the problems didn't exist, and I was fighting to find answers and get our son the help he needed. Unfortunately, neither of us turned to God. So our boys also witnessed an unhealthy marriage and divided parents.

Thankfully in 2008 I ran back to Jesus, and He welcomed me with open arms. Soon after, I began to think about the legacy I would leave my children. At one point, my boys probably would have said I kept a clean house or I worked really hard at my job. Well, I realized that those things were not what I wanted them to remember. Most of all I wanted them to remember they were raised in a Godly home with a mother that loved them and Jesus with her whole heart. So, I quickly began to re-prioritize things.

You see, at this point in my life I don't care if the house is perfect or about my "to-do list". I want to spend as much time as I can loving my boys, sharing the love of Jesus with them, making wonderful family memories, and teaching them to become mighty men of God. That is the legacy that I aspire to leave my boys. It is also important to note that although my boys are growing up in a single parent home right now, they are not from a "broken home" because God has mended our home with His love. It is built on His SOLID rock.

What legacy will you leave your children?

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