There is so much pain. So many people are reading this blog and hurting.
The ache is so deep it feels as if it will never end.
Hope is distant; unseen.
Hearts are broken.
Marriages are destroyed.
Feelings of love and adequacy have long faded.
And you are left, holding the pieces of your broken heart, as it crumbles in your hands. The only thing you feel is betrayed, or despair. You look back and think, "What could I have done to fix this? What could I have done better to change his/her mind?"
Here is the reality. Living in the past is not truly living. Focusing on what could have been said or done, wondering how you could have fixed it, will do nothing except distract you from God and the truth He wants you to hear.
God isn't finished with you yet.
Just because you are hurting and broken and afraid does not mean that you are alone. It does not mean that there is no one who cares, and no one who understands. If I have learned anything through the pain and trauma of my own broken marriage vows, it is that my focus and perspective were wrong.
Sometimes the only way to truly begin to heal is the hardest place to begin. It requires humility and setting aside the anger and desire to lash out. It requires laying your burdens down at the feet of the One who already bore them on the Cross. Healing requires resting in Him. There may be absolutely nothing tangible that you can do to fix your current situation. Sometimes, in the midst of the pain and the chaos, we need to simply rest. I'm sure you've heard it before from a well-intentioned friend, or in a sermon..."Be still and know that I am God."
And maybe, if you're like me, you thought "What on earth does that mean? I mean, seriously?!? What does that even look like?"
Having been there before, I'd like to say that I can give you the answer.
What I can give you is a song.
A song that I hope helps you to understand what you may be called to do in this very moment. Right now, maybe what you need to do is to come and rest at the feet of Jesus. To let go of the weight you are carrying, set it down at Jesus' feet, and simply rest in his arms. There is safety in the arms of Christ. God can and will carry you through this. When life seems as bleak as it can be, and you are alone and your feelings consume you, may you remember this song and allow God to use it to put things back into perspective.
Come and rest.
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