New Name

New Name. Sometimes I suspect that Jason Gray knows a lot about the difficulties of marriage and hardships of life. At the very least, he tends to write about difficult situations and finding hope through them. Perhaps this is why you will find that so many of my posts include his songs. newname

Your past does not define you.

I feel as if he has lived in our shoes; specifically with regards to addictions and strained marriage relationships. His songs are so powerful and he doesn't write your typical Christian music. It goes much deeper than that. Beyond the surface. His lyrics touch at the heart of man. At our inmost struggles, thoughts, pains, and sinful desires. He addresses how we beat ourselves up, with lies the enemy spews at us, or for some of you, lies your spouses tell you as they live in sin, and how we are so much MORE than the lies tell us. In fact, we are not at all what the lies tell us we are.

From his song, "I Am New," which will forever remind me that my past does not define me, Jason Gray wrote this line at the end, with words that describe who we REALLY are:

"Forgiven. Beloved. Hidden in Christ. Made in the image of the Giver of life. Righteous and holy. Reborn and remade. Accepted and worthy. This is our new name."

Old Name

All the names I used to call my self, names that I finally learned to recognize were really lies from the mouth of Satan himself, are completely contradictory to that list above. Here is how I used to see myself:

Unforgivable. Unloved. Hidden FROM Christ. Made in the image of all the mistakes I had made. Unrighteous and unholy. Confined to a life of sin, unable to change or have one more second chance. Unaccepted. Completely unworthy. Those, among many others, were my names.

New Name

But along with counseling and understanding my story, Jason Gray took me deeper. He took me so much deeper into the heart of God-into the love of Christ-and helped me to understand that I AM NEW! I am no longer the person I was--the one who lived under the weight of adultery. I am in the refining process, being remade, by the Master Craftsman. I am a new person. The old Jamie is long gone, and the new Jamie, who understands who she was and who she is, is here to stay. I am chosen by God, holy only through God's righteousness and grace, and dearly loved.

That last one.

Dearly loved.

That one was the biggest hurdle for me.

But thank God for showing me how real and sincere his love really is. Through my husband, through Christ's death on the Cross, through thinking I was only loved by another man, I have learned the truth behind this concept that I am dearly loved.

It doesn't mean that I don't struggle. I have my days. We all do.

But I can't hear Jason's song "I Am New" without feeling as if God is personally reminding me that His words about me are TRUTH. His words are what matter.

It doesn't matter what the world says I am--I'm an adulterer and a hypocrite.

It doesn't matter what Satan says I am--I'm meaningless, unworthy, beyond forgiveness.

Only how God defines me matters.

That, and nothing more.

I am new.

And you can be too.

If you have lived under the weight of similar lies, take this moment to try to see yourself the way that God sees you. That He cares about you so much, that He loves you so much, that He let His son Jesus DIE for you. To demonstrate the depth of His love.

You don't have to be defined by your past.

God wants you to understand that you can be made new. And that He is the God of second and third and fourth and fiftieth chances. He will NEVER turn His back on you, no matter how far you may stray.

He will always pursue you.

He will always take you back from your lovers (whether they be physical, emotional, or material).

He doesn't care what you've done. He just wants your heart devoted to Him, and even if it is shattered to pieces, He wants you just as you are.

He wants to pick up the pieces and remake you.

He wants to give you a new name.

Will you let Him?


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