Help! What do I do?

Ever felt unsure which way is right? Receiving conflicting advice? Struggling with decisions? Feeling unstable? In times of conflict or hardship, doing what is right can be difficult – especially when we’re just not sure what that is. Ever cry out, 'help, what do I do?'

Help! What do I do

Scripture tells us “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” James 1:5-8

I have SO been there! Feeling so unsure of my every move - even my every thought! But that is not how God intends us to live.

So, maybe you’ve been praying for wisdom and discernment but you feel like you’re not getting an answer.  Maybe that’s because He’s already given the answer in His Word. I think sometimes we search for the answer we want rather than His answer.

In Psalm 119:97-105, we can read this powerful passage:

Oh how I love your law! It is my meditation all the day. Your commandment makes me wiser than my enemies, for it is ever with me. I have more understanding than all my teachers, for your testimonies are my meditation. I understand more than the aged, for I keep your precepts. I hold back my feet from every evil way, in order to keep your word. I do not turn aside from your rules, for you have taught me. How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth! Through your precepts I get understanding; therefore I hate every false way. Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.

What does it mean to meditate?

My understanding is this: to continually think on something. Ponder it from every conceivable angle. Read a passage and then keep it in the forefront of your mind throughout the day – or week, or month! And when it comes to scripture, it is also important to understand its context within the whole of scripture. The Word never contradicts itself. So, if something seems unclear or muddy, keep digging! Keep pondering. Keep praying and meditating. Who wrote it? When was it written - what is its place in history/culture? To whom did it specifically apply at that time? What general or specific truths can be gleaned from it today?

Study truth, recognize the lies

I’m reminded of the fact that counterfeit experts are so good at what they do because of one thing: they know the real thing better than anyone else. To know what a counterfeit dollar bill looks like, they study every inch and know every fact about the real dollar bill. Then it becomes increasingly easy to spot a fake. Likewise, in order to know what is right and good, we need to meditate on the Word until we know it so well, we know when something we hear, read, or see is contrary to it.

In 2 Timothy 3:16-17, we read that “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work. Wow! Complete, equipped. Ready for whatever comes our way. How powerful is that!?!

So, what are some passages that really teach the Christian life? Passages that come to mind include Philippians 2, Ephesians 5, the entire book of James (chapters 1 & 4 are chapters I return to over and over). And of course the Psalms and Proverbs are FULL of great instruction and wisdom. But it is important to read all scripture with the idea that everything you read points to the person of Jesus Christ. HE is the “big picture” to keep in mind through it all. As it is written so well in Hebrews 12:

...looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.

And then, as we study God's Word, we must continually invite the invasion of the Supernatural into our lives - asking the Holy Spirit to guide our every step, every word, every thought. Trusting that we are prepared, ready, remaining steadfast in His Word and in His love.



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