When You Want To Give Up

What do you do when you have seen too much, been through more pain than you ever thought possible, and you want to give up? DON'T.

I'm not sure that there is a way to say that any simpler.

Don't. Give. Up.


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I know that it hurts. I know that the scars run deep, and some days you think you will never heal or be able to move forward. For some of you, you believe that all of your hopes and dreams fled when your spouse walked out the door. And the only thing you want to do in that moment is to give up.

Or maybe you have seen too much loss or death in your life and you are wondering why you should even keep trying to make it through another day.

I don't know your individual stories, but I know that we all have pain. We all go through times in our life when it feels like we cannot take one more step. It feels like all hope is gone and your life will never get any better than this present moment.

Whatever your situation-no matter what your story is-I want to urge you that in the moment when you are hanging by a thread and ready to just let go and give up, DON'T. How will know what life and joy await you just around the corner if you give in to the defeat that the enemy has tried so hard to lure you into?

God has the power to meet all of your needs.

You can be sure that God will take care of everything you need, his generosity exceeding even yours in the glory that pours from Jesus.  ~Phillipians 4:19 The Message

Maybe it's time to look beyond all of the unmet expectations, and KNOW that all of your needs will be met. Whether it be spiritual, financial, or relational, there is One who can meet you where you are and provide spiritual leadership, financial peace, and relational stability. Sometimes I think we believe that God has our lives in His hands; but we think about it in abstract, big-picture ways, forgetting that He promises to meet every need.  

But here is the catch - He knows what we need better than we do!

I know for too long I expected my husband to provide on all levels: spiritual leadership, financial stability, emotional fulfillment. While I know I could have made better choices throughout most of my marriage, I am glad that God waited as long as He did to restore us. I truly am. Because it was only through the deep pain and the unknown that I learned what it meant to trust God for all of those needs. I learned that I was putting responsibility on my husband that I should have been looking to God for.

This funny thing happens when we rely on God for what only He can fully provide. We find that giving up is the last thing that we want to do. It is through our suffering that we grow in this way:  

Perseverance leads to character.  

Character leads to hope.  

And because of God's love filling our hearts, hope will never disappoint us or put us to shame.

There’s more to come: We continue to shout our praise even when we’re hemmed in with troubles, because we know how troubles can develop passionate patience in us, and how that patience in turn forges the tempered steel of virtue, keeping us alert for whatever God will do next. In alert expectancy such as this, we’re never left feeling shortchanged. Quite the contrary—we can’t round up enough containers to hold everything God generously pours into our lives through the Holy Spirit! ~Romans 5:3-5 MSG

Recently, I re-read the Mistborn book series by Brandon Sanderson, and I want to share some lines from it with you. One character, Marsh, worked to overthrow an evil ruler at the beginning of the series. But it didn't happen fast enough for him.

"...he had believed and yet when he needed hope the most he found only emptiness...Marsh had been its leader but he had given up. Just before the victory. No, he thought. Not again. No more giving up."

And towards the end-though he had given his mind fully to the enemy-in one single moment of clarity, he chose  to do the right thing.

"The enemy was enraged. In the end, Marsh had mattered. In the end, Marsh hadn't given up."

There are two things that we can take from this.

  1. #1 We can believe and be at the end of our rope, needing hope more than we have ever needed it before. And if we give up, we could miss the victory that may be only moments away.
  2. #2 If we find that we have given up, it is never too late to make the right choice. To break away from the traps of the enemy and get back on the right path.

In telling Marsh's story, Sazed (a man who taught different religions to the people) said "Belief isn't simply a thing for fair times and bright days, I think. What is belief? What is faith if you don't continue in it after failure? Better to trust and be betrayed; better to love and be hurt...what do these words mean? They mean hope."

When you want to give up, DON'T.

Because HOPE is only moments away!


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