Can’t Buy Me Love

The Beatles sang about a lot of weird stuff, and most of it was, in my book, just ridiculous. But they had a few songs that were okay in my book, and were at least partially on the right track with this one:

Say you don't need no diamond ring, and I'll be satisfied Tell me that you want those kind of things, that money just can't buy I don't care too much for money, for money can't buy me love

Can't buy me love Everybody tells me so Can't buy me love No, no, no, no

Okay, I imagine you’re possibly singing the tune out loud right now. Hah! Gotcha!

…but I digress.


It’s true. You really can’t buy love. You can’t even earn it.

…insert record scratching sound here… (okay if you weren’t born before 1980, imagine car brakes locking up or something)


Think about it. The Bible says God is love. And He loved us so much that “while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Doesn’t sound much like we earned that. In fact, if we earned, anything, it would probably be the opposite of love.

{{{{Oh, and the opposite of love is not hate, it’s apathy - think about it.}}}}

We can only give and receive love.

And again…right back to scripture for this: For God so loved the world that he gave…“ (John 3:16). “But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name” (John 1:12).

When it comes to salvation, we usually get it. It’s pretty clear. God’s economy is all about giving and receiving. Yet in marriage we often get into this mindset of thinking that our spouse must somehow earn our love. And if they mess up...ooohhh, then they must PAY, and pay dearly!

Shame on us!

Does God’s economy change inside of marriage?

Absolutely not. Isn’t marriage intended to be a mirror or picture of Christ’s relationship with the church – His bride? Absolutely. And how does Christ treat his bride? I refer you to the scripture passages above. Then take a look at Ephesians 5 carefully - pay close attention to verse 32.

In truth, there’s nowhere in all of society that should be more about this practice of giving and receiving love than within marriage. It is not something any of us can earn. Still not convinced? Check out Philippians 2:1-8:

Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose. Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God,did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

Now, trust. That’s a different issue. Trust must be earned. Maybe I’ll write more on that one at another time...

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