Grace is unfair
So you tell me; Your spouse has left, running around with someone new, living the high life. Suddenly, extreme grace doesn't look so attractive anymore. Maybe it's not revenge, exactly...but hey, some form of payment would be nice. Ok, let's call it a "consequence." Surely, God won't let them get away with hurting YOU like this. Will He?
I've been in those moments, of being more concerned with having my hurt validated than trusting and watching the amazing power of grace. How can you forgive something like that? How can you forgive it again? How many times are you going to go through this?
Injustice: Grace blesses your enemies
The truth is, I can't forgive anything. God can. He did. He is the one who sacrificed, not me. That is grace. I don't have to wish ill upon my spouse or anyone else. In fact, the Bible clearly instructs us to BLESS our enemies and not to curse them. If consequences were so important, why would God ask us to bless our enemies? Bless the source of our pain and heart ache? Bless those that curse us?
We have this twisted idea of grace and consequence. We want grace but we want others to experience consequences. Not just any consequences, but the consequences we think they should have to endure. We want to see people miserable for a set amount of time so that they learn their lesson.
There is something wrong with this way of thinking. It exalts ourselves above God. Suddenly, we know what is best for another. We know exactly what they need and how they learn. Somehow, we begin to believe that we know this person better than the creator of the universe. Better than the creator of their soul does.
We become not only the prosecutor but the judge and jury. The same thing happened to a woman who was caught in adultery. The law declared the consequence for her sin was death. The jury declared her guilty and was ready to exact the consequence upon her. We know that Jesus stepped in and saved her life.
Grace in the Love Triangle: A Bold Risk
What we rarely hear about is the other man involved in this scandalous 'love triangle'. John 3:8 states she was caught in adultery. Well, that had to have been embarrassing. If she was caught, the man must have been there too, right?
Their love triangle of shame is transformed into a real LOVE triangle of grace when Jesus enters the scene. The man involved is not seen, sought after, or even mentioned. What grace Christ exhibits for him. Do you think He didn't know who he was, his name, his habits, his identity down to his core?
God not only saved this woman, he saved an anonymous man. He saved a coward, who was allowing his lover to take the blame, unto death, for him. Christ stepped in, became the consequence, as the lover of his soul and paid the literal price of death, for a shameless man. Christ is the lover that takes our blame.
Christ did not expose, nor did he tell the jurors (scribes and pharisees) to find the man and bring him to justice. There was no justice. Again, the point? Grace is unjust. It is given when undeserved. It is the act of shamefully allowing another to pay the consequence of our dark deeds.
But he got away with it! What if he doesn't learn his lesson? What if he does it again? Gasp!?! It's a bold risk. What if...Christ had not paid the price? Are we then, putting ourselves in the position of being teachers and guardians of the law?
Perhaps, Christ is calling us to be guardians of grace?
The scribes and pharisees 'got it'. The adulterous woman 'got it'. Grace makes me hope the secret male lover 'got it'.
Christ thinks you, and he, and she, and they and us...are worth the risk.
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