Decisions: Majoring in the Minors


We are faced with countless decisions every day. Some are minor and insignificant, like which dish detergent to buy or what movie to watch. Some are major and life-changing, like whether to stay married or get divorced. No matter how significant, all of our decisions have one thing in common: we have to choose one direction or the other. Every decision we make either moves us closer to God or further away from Him.


Now, I'm not going to say that the shirt you choose to put on or perfume you wear are spiritual decisions you should bring to God, but if those seemingly minor decisions have something more behind them even they can have serious ramifications for our lives.

Decisions: When Minors Become Majors

For example: if you choose the color of your shirt because a woman who is not your wife told you it really brings out the color of your eyes, your minor decision about which shirt to wear has just become a major decision.

Or if you choose a certain perfume over another based upon the compliments of a guy who is flirty at the water cooler, your insignificant decision just became significant.

It all happens in the blink of an eye. The enemy is diabolically subtle. He will whisper in your ear that it's okay to seek a little extra attention, since your spouse has been too busy lately to spend time with you. He'll say that it's doesn't really matter that you're more excited to go to work than ever, simply because someone there paid you a compliment.

The majors are easy to spot and avoid. It's relatively easy to stay out of the ditches on either side of the road, to avoid oncoming traffic, but occasionally something is lying in the middle of the road that doesn't seem like a big deal until after we run it over.

Ever run over a board laying in the road only to find out later it was full of nails and gave you a flat? You might have even spun into the ditch after getting that flat, bewildered as to how you got so far off the road.

The Enemy Is Subtle

The enemy will use the subtle, minor obstacles or decisions we make to cause us trouble further down the road. We must be constantly on guard, even in the mundane. If you're headed towards the ditch, it's easier to make a course correction while you're still on the road than to wait until after you've crashed to make things right.

That's why getting still with God is so important.

Maybe you're not sure which direction God wants you to go in a given situation. Getting still is the solution. Seek Godly counsel. That doesn't always mean you have to go sit with a counselor, it just means to seek wisdom from those Godly folks around you. Some of them are even on Facebook!

One of the best ways I've found to determine which way God wants you to go is to get still, see which way the currents of the world would pull you, then move in the opposite direction. Our natural inclination is not to drift towards God, but away. We must be intentional to move towards Him.

Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love. ~1 Corinthians 16:13-14  

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