Everything seemed so dark. I had found myself tangled in a web of deception and living a life that was flirting with sin. My marriage was broken and I no longer had the will or the desire to fix it. My mind had been plagued with thoughts of bitterness and unforgiveness. Over and over again I would ponder over the hurtful names that I had been called and the cutting words that had been spewed out towards me in moments of anger. I used them as justification to my wanting to end the relationship.
The Look of Hopelessness
I could see the look of worry, fear and doubt hovering over my husband’s thinning face. I tried to ignore it yet, I could sense his dire hopelessness. He had refused to give up on our marriage. I remember looking out Sunday after Sunday as he would make his way to the church altar and drop to his knees weeping, crying out to God to restore his family. All the while, I would sit up in the balcony, numbed and oblivious to my surroundings. I stood there frightened and insecure, still adamantly planning how to swiftly end the marriage so that we could both get on with our lives.
It has been several years since God miraculously restored and brought about divine healing in our marriage. My husband still shares with couples that we mentor how those days were filled with so much grief and pain. For the first time in his life he knew what it was like to feel that all Hope was gone.
Do You Feel All Hope Is Gone?
Maybe you have been there or possibly you are there even now. You find yourself right smack dab in the middle of a burning fire, a broken marriage, a parenting issue, unresolved hurt from your past, a negative doctor’s report, or a struggle in your finances, the debt just keeps mounting and you can not see any possible way out of your situation…
How to Cling to Hope
I want to share with you three things you need to do to when your strength is gone and you lose your hope, joy and security; feeling that you are about to go under.
Know that God is your source of hope! Let’s take a look at what Paul says in Romans 15:13 – May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope. My dear friend, Paul is saying that our GOD IS A GOD OF HOPE! If you trust in Christ you will always have that reason for hope. God can take the heart that is discouraged and broken, filled with uncertainty and He can change it so that we are filled with new hope.
As difficult as this tragedy, loss or storm in your life may be, you are not alone! God is with you always. He loves you, and cares about what is going on in your life. He hears your cries and sees your pain. More importantly, HE understands.
Reach out to people of God. You see, not only do we need God's presence in our lives, but we also need each other. Talk with your family or friends about the way you are feeling, so that you can share one another's burdens, and not feel so alone in your suffering. Reach out to your pastor, a godly mentor, counselor or friend.
In my past, I have been guilty of reaching out to people for advice when deep down I just wanted them to understand my side of the story or give me the affirmation I was seeking for my wrong doing.
I am sensing in my spirit even while I am writing this, that GOD is saying to someone right now that you need to RUN from advice that is being spoken to you that is NOT backed by the Word of GOD. Be careful who you are seeking advice from.
Keep standing. When you have done all that you can possibly do just stand!
When you wake up tomorrow morning and wonder how you will face the day, know that God is working it out. When you wonder how you can get through and overcome this difficult time, know that God is working it out. When you face an argument with that child, or ex spouse and your mind is attacked with the what ifs and whys, know that God is working it out. When you lay down at night, tossing and turning, breaking out in a cold sweat, wondering how you will face the challenges of tomorrow, whatever they may be, KNOW that God is already working it out!!!
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. ~Jeremiah 29:11
Keep praying, seeking God and meditating on the Word. Hope will give you back your energy, hope will give you that purpose you need for your life, hope will bring you out of that desert or that dark pit. Hope will give you the courage to go on. Hope will help you face that tragedy or that loss of a child.
My friend, God wants to give you new HOPE.
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