Warning: What you are about to read is a true story. The names have not been changed to protect the innocent.
My heart begins to pound as I reach for the nearest pillow to muffle my girlish squeal. I can sense my hubby’s excitement as I throw back the covers and pull him close to whisper in his ear. His eyes begin to roll back, his ears perk straight up, and his toes curl as I unnervingly make my big Saturday night reveal.
I mustered all my strength, prepared myself for hours by taking heavy doses of energy pills (Peanut M&M’s) and without dislocating my hip or fracturing any major bones I have managed to slip into an outfit with less material than a pair of tube socks……
Oh No, She Didn’t Just Say That!
Have Mercy!! Somebody pass me a jar of crunchy peanut butter, a sleeve of Oreos and a chocolate bar. I’m about to put a dent in my sweet little innocent reputation! Please, don’t send me hate mail, don’t call my phone and leave irate messages, give me a break and forgo toilet papering my mailbox. I’m well aware I have brought up the three-letter word and some of you will now think twice about inviting me into your homes for dinner.
It’s just Christian wives have few places to turn to for godly advice for adding spice into their sex lives. For too long we have been made to keep silent, feeling as if sex was a dirty thing. I mean seriously, think about this, how many of you sat in premarital counseling and were actually given advice that prepared you for what was expected as a godly wife in meeting and fulfilling your spouse’s sexual needs. Not me! As a matter of fact, I cannot tell you one time that word even came up in conversation.
Goodbye, So Long, Farewell, Adios to Ho-Hum Sex
Are you ready to take your love life to "HNL"? That is a 'hole notha' level! A friend of mine, Pastor Ferrell actually shared that acronym in one of his many great messages. He would probably faint if he knew I borrowed it to encourage women to have a more fulfilled sex life. Of course I won't tell if you don't.
Stop Making Love The Same Old Way
You see, for many years my hubby and I were so guilty of making love at the same time, in the same place, in bed, in the dark, and underneath the same old starched covers. Somebody shout BORING! Just being candid, our ho-hum sex was absolutely nothing to “hum” about.
Girlfriends, let me put it to you this way plain and simple. You know I'm a drama queen and I love illustrations... As a wife, I have a choice when I am serving my husband a meal. I can serve him a boring meal of just plain tators every night, or Honeychild, I can choose to spice it up! Throw in a little fried chicken, a little pinto beans, some Cajun hot sauce, a few jalapeno peppers and a little extra somethin’ somethin’ on the side, if you get my drift! Plain tators won't do nothing for him. They will barely make him lick his lips, but you let me spice it up a little bit, add a little flair and his tongue will wrap around his ankles twice and set his stomach to dancing! It’s the same way with our love-making we have to add spice and variety to make it more pleasurable.
I remember the first time we made out somewhere other than the bedroom. I felt almost like I had committed an unpardonable sin. Satan had my mind so tripped up! I was so wrong! Sex is God’s idea! God gave a man and wife this beautiful gift to bring pleasure and intimate oneness.
Forget the Harlequin Romance Novels: Read Song of Solomon
The first time I read Song of Solomon I blushed! I think I was tee totally shocked! How ironic that I had been searching for godly resources to add spark, when all along everything that I ever needed to know could be found in this amazing book in the Bible. I was so enraptured and captivated with the romantic words, the way they used the scents of fragrances and oils to enhance the room, the love names they called each other… Not once did I envision this king and his wife having anything remotely close to boring sex.
You want to make your husband's toes curl with delight? COMPLIMENT your man, add scented candles, turn on some romantic music, COMPLIMENT your man, get rid of those oversized jogging pants, snuggle under the covers with him, AND did I say COMPLIMENT and AFFIRM your man, grab a bunch of grapes, a few strawberries, a can of whip cream and read Song of Solomon together. You will laugh, you will gasp, and you will laugh some more!
Gather 'Round The Water Cooler, I've Got Good News
You can be sensuous, sexy and holy all in one! Don’t you think it is time that we as Christian women stop listening to what the world, Hollywood andthe check-out counter magazines tell us is romantic and sexy and turn to THE SOURCE, yes that’s right sista, the ONLY source and see what Godhas to say about sex. After all, He designed it!
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth,for your love is more delightful than wine.Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes;your name is like perfume poured out. - Song of Solomon 1:2-3
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