It was my neighbor Stan’s green grass- it looked and felt like a rich plush green carpet as I squished it between my freshly painted, bare toes. I had walked by it many times and I knew I was trespassing, but I just wanted to touch it! No one would ever know. JUST TRY IT OUT! Our grass always looks so dry and I hate those tiny little aggravating ant mounds that invade our lawn. Oh, and then there are the ferocious WEEDS! Seriously, it looks like I have discolored collards or some kind of thorny looking vegetable plant growing on my front lawn. The weeds have crept in and I just mow right over them. At least they are a semi-green color and fill in the bare spots!
Sometimes I sit on the front porch and laugh at Stan in that hideous oversized sun hat. No kidding though, it seems he tends the grass 2-4 times a week. Giving it just enough water, the right amount of chemicals and handpicking any weed that may survive his strict regiment. Wouldn’t surprise me at all if he sings to the grass to make it grow…
When The Grass Looks Greener On The Other Side
Why is it sometimes within our MARRIAGES the grass can APPEAR to look greener on the other side? We get our priorities so out of line, work, kids, church, sports, commitments… that we soon forget to communicate, to take time for each other, to “water OUR lawns.” We find ourselves enticed to the sights…oh if I could just have that lifestyle, enchanted and drawn to the sounds of a flirtatious remark, or even allured by the feeling you had when you received that compliment from a man or woman other than your spouse.
If our hearts are left unguarded it can lead to coveting, complaining, discontentment and soul draining, relationship killing ENVY. You see there was a time in my marriage many years ago that I became shackled to discontentment. It lead to self pity, anger, depression and self- centeredness. If we are not careful we can find ourselves right smack dab in the middle of falling into a death trap of sins such as devastating emotional or sexual affairs. Yes, I Was That Prodigal Wife.
Don’t Be Fooled, Every Marriage Has Weeds
My friend, no matter what you think, EVERY marriage has weeds! Your neighbor’s marriage, your church deacons', your Sunday School teachers', even your pastor’s marriage! No one is exempt. It is unrealistic to believe that you can live with another human being for any length of time without having relationship problems.
Tend The Lawn: PRUNE to Get Rid of the Weeds
Pray for your spouse. Praying together as a couple and praying individually for your spouse is one of the most powerful weapons you have against attacks from the enemy. (Power of a Praying Husband, Power of a Praying Wife)
Rid your marriage of the unrealistic expectations. You need to realize that your spouse can not meet your EVERY need. There is only One who can do that and His name is JESUS!!
Uninterrupted couch time. Take at least 15 minutes of communicating with no electronics, no kids, and no remote control...EVERY DAY! That’s right, we just need to take time to listen to each other.
Needed accountability. We all need Christian friends to hold us accountable to our marriages. Are your friends only telling you what you want to hear? If you are struggling in your marriage, you need to be cautious as to whom you are taking advice from. If the words being whispered in your ear do not line up with the Word of God, you need to run from them!
Enjoy regular date nights. We all have insanely busy lives. Couples need to reconnect emotionally and physically on a regular basis. Go ahead, write those date nights on a calendar and tape it to the 'fridge. Go dancing, to the movies, the dollar store, go parking, whatever you do use your imagination, laugh and have fun. Just GO, GO, GO!
You see sometimes the grass looks greener and we just need to water our OWN lawns. I love this one, “Sometimes the grass looks greener because you can’t see the MANURE from where you are standing! Think about that one...
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Colossians 3:5
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