The Power of the Pause Button

I was MIFFED! And rightfully so. Tiffany had criticized me unjustly without stopping to consider my viewpoint, and in front of our son.  Miffed? No...I take that back. I was angry!

Okay, so she had done most of the preparation work for our family's breakfast - as she usually does. So I came in, took care of myself, and sat down while there were still things to be done. That still didn't give her reason to be critical! All she had to do was ask for help, I would've gladly responded. And besides, I was working on more important matters in that moment. I was looking up our devotion for the day! She didn't even stop to consider that! And I was all up in the middle of telling her all the reasons she was wrong!

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"Can we just pause for now?" came her quiet question.

NO WAY, I wanted to yell! I had a point to get across, how dare she interrupt and ask to pause!

But then again, I was getting a little worked up. Maybe she had a point.

"FINE", I replied, with anger still on my breath, "we can pause for now. When would you like to resume!?!"

"How about at 7:55?" Came her calm replied.

"Okay - 7:55 then!"

We soon sat down, had a fairly enjoyable breakfast together as a family - including the devotional I'd prepared (okay, so I didn't exactly prepare it, I pulled it up on my phone using the YouVersion app).

But in my mind heart, I was keeping an eye on the clock! 7:55 was coming, and I would be ready!

After finishing breakfast, taking care of the dishes, brushing my teeth, seeing the kids off for their respective bus stops, and really just pacing the house, it was finally 7:55. We were gonna finish this discussion!

Except something had changed.

I wasn't so worked up. I still felt wronged for being criticized. But I realized how ridiculous most of my objections really were. While I wasn't intentionally being selfish, I certainly wasn't behaving with care or understanding. I could've very easily pitched in and could've been much more helpful.

We both came to the talk ready to share our viewpoints, but ready to apologize. Or at least we both got to that point pretty quickly. And the hugs and kisses on my way out the door weren't too bad either!

Good thing one of us had the presence of mind to hit that pause button!

...let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. ~James 1:19

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. ~Proverbs 15:1

It is an honor for a man to keep aloof from strife, but every fool will be quarreling. ~Proverbs 20:3

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