Protect, Provide, Pursue

Men, we've all been there. You just get comfortable in bed and at the very moment you're drifting off to dreamland, your wife rolls over and says she thinks she heard a noise downstairs. What's your first reaction? If you're like me it's to say "I didn't hear anything." Which to your wife loosely translated means "I'm not really concerned about what concerns you, I just want to sleep." This does not promote a feeling of security in your wife's heart.

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Contrary to popular belief, money also is not a major source of security for your wife. Yes, we have to provide for our family, but if you're not pursuing your wife's heart and her desires, all the money in the world will not buy her security.

Men, we must provide for our wives on a much deeper level if we want to provide security for them. Feeling secure in the knowledge that we still want to pursue our wives and will continue to pursue them and their hearts until death do we part is the number one need of our wives.

Just getting candid, how can we expect our wives to provide for us sexually when we are not pursuing their hearts? Men, it's time for us to step up and protect our wives emotionally as well as physically. Ask yourself the hard question: does my wife feel as safe around me emotionally as she does physically?

Pursue her heart.

If I asked 100 men what they would do if a stranger entered their house and physically threatened their family the vast majority would talk very firmly and clearly about how they have a shotgun under the bed or a baseball bat by the door. But if I asked those same 100 men when was the last time they did something intentional to connect with their wives on an emotional level and to gently romance them, I have a feeling most of the men would respond with blank stares.

Protecting and pursuing our wives emotionally is not just our responsibility, it's an investment that pays great dividends! The more secure our wives feel with us emotionally the more open they'll be with us physically. It's a win-win! Conversely, it shouldn't be a great surprise to us when our wives are not interested or reluctant to initiate or engage in sex when we haven't pursued them, we haven't protected them and we haven't provided an emotional connection for them.

Your Mission: Protect, Provide, Pursue

Men, as husbands, our mission in life is to help our wives become everything God has designed them to be. That means the protection, the provision and the pursuit of our wife's heart is a God-given assignment. An assignment you agreed to take on when you said your vows on your wedding day. It's time we understood the gravity of that responsibility and treated it with the reverence it deserves. One day we'll stand before the throne and be asked how we handled the good gift from God gave us in the form of our wife: I want to hear well done when that question comes.

Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her... ~Ephesians 5:25-26 MSG

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