It's a good thing we don't look like what we've been through. Every time I hear my husband share God's truth, hope and vision for marriage, I am in awe of how much discernment, wisdom and compassion God has poured into my husband to be shared with others. Scott is such a strong man of God...now. Scott boldly shares that he is the man of God he is today because of my choice to begin to relentlessly sow the indestructible seeds of the Word into his life back in 2004, despite what he was doing.
God will not protect you from that which He will perfect you through.
By 2003, we had been married for almost 12 years, I had made my commitment to Jesus Christ less than a year before, and God had been softening my heart with His Word to prepare me. He was preparing me to learn that my husband, who I already knew was an angry man, was also an alcoholic, steeped in adultery, and abusing prescription drugs. God prepared me by breaking my heart for Him and for Scott, so that when I confronted Scott about his choices, it was gentle, kind and in love, seeking to hear his heart, not seeking to condemn. But I didn't need to condemn Scott, he was condemning himself- he felt worthless, so he chose to continue to live worthlessly.
Surround yourself with good, godly counsel.
God put four amazing women in my life to walk alongside me on that difficult road. It was so important to have those people around me to help me stay grounded in the Word, focused on God, believing HIS promises REGARDLESS of the circumstances I saw around me. If I had tried to make decisions for my life based on what I saw from my husband, Scott, I would have been exhausted. I LEARNED I HAD TO TAKE MY LEAD FROM GOD. He was my Rock. He was my Strong Tower. He does NOT change. I learned to believe HIM for EVERYTHING. I learned that the words and actions of my husband were NOT an indication of what God was doing!
So I clung to these scriptures (and so many more), praying them into my life and believing them, believing that God was working all the crazy things in our lives for my good and His glory:
We take our lead from Christ, who is the source of everything we do. He keeps us in step with each other. His very breath and blood flow through us, nourishing us so that we will grow up healthy in God, robust in love. Ephesians 4:14 Msg
So then, we may no longer be children, tossed [like ships] to and fro between chance gusts of teaching and wavering with every changing wind of doctrine, [the prey of] the cunning and cleverness of unscrupulous men, [gamblers engaged] in every shifting form of trickery in inventing errors to mislead. Ephesians 4:14 Amplified
NOW FAITH is the assurance (the confirmation, the title deed) of the things [we] hope for, being the proof of things [we] do not see and the conviction of their reality [faith perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses]. Hebrews 11:1
The fundamental fact of existence is that this trust in God, this faith, is the firm foundation under everything that makes life worth living. It's our handle on what we can't see. Hebrews 11:1 Msg
Abraham was first named "father" and then became a father because he dared to trust God to do what only God could do: raise the dead to life, with a word make something out of nothing. When everything was hopeless, Abraham believed anyway, deciding to live not on the basis of what he saw he couldn't do but on what God said he would do. Romans 4:17 Msg
As it is written, I have made you the father of many nations. [He was appointed our father] in the sight of God in Whom he believed, Who gives life to the dead and speaks of the nonexistent things that [He has foretold and promised] as if they [already] existed. Romans 4:17 Amplified
Speak God's Word into Your Life and Marriage!
I prayed Ephesians 5:22-33 and 1 Peter 3 into our lives and marriage so many times a day! As much as I wanted Scott to be the husband God created him to be, I wanted so much more to be the wife God created me to be for Scott- I wanted to cast off my harsh, controlling character and put on the gentle, peaceable spirit that would win my husband over to Christ.
I kept Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie O'Martian in my purse, it was a weapon in the battle, the pages dog eared and tear stained, and instead of growing angry with Scott, I prayed for him when he was mean and hurtful. Not just one day...but for two years. Do you plant a seed, then walk away from it and ignore it? NO! You nurture it, protect it, care for it until the harvest. You don't give up on it!
It blows my mind to realize that Ephesians 3, particularly verse 20, is so unfathomably true. Scott has become so much more than the man and husband for whom I prayed relentlessly. As a man and a husband, he is so much more than I could have have imagined, requested or dreamed! The Word of God I sowed into his life at a time when he was truly an agent of the enemy, has been coming to fruition since Scott chose Christ over himself in September 2005.
So no, I am not 'lucky' to have Scott as my husband. He (and our marriage) is the harvest of an indestructibleunshakeable seed. God SHOOK my world to show me how indestructible and unshakeable His Word is as seed planted in my heart. Lord, thank You for the real, indestructible seed you've planted in my heart. SHAKE MY WORLD, GOD!
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