Proverbs 5: Warning About Adultery

warning about adultery

I confess, reading Proverbs 5 was tough eleven years ago, when my husband was entangled in adultery. It slowly became less painful when I chose to pray it into my husband, Scott's, life, calling forth things that were not as though they were. Then, and now, I also see the adulterous woman representing the enemy, luring us away from what God wants for our lives. He wants us to stay far from sin and temptations, and faithful to Him. What if you read Proverbs 5, replacing "adulterous woman" with "Satan"?

It was apparent in Scott's life how the ropes of his sin had tied him, how he was dying inside, how the adulterous relationship may have seemed attractive to start, but slowly brought him nothing but pain, addiction, an abortion, eventually contemplating ways to take his own life. As our divorce court date approached, he became angrier and more sullen than ever.

Adultery leads to death

Perhaps you are the one contemplating or steeped in adultery. It's never too late to turn around and run from the arms of death into the arms of Jesus. You will have consequences to work through, but God promises to use them to shape you to be more like Jesus.

God promises to guide those who obey and trust Him. To obey, you've got to actively explore God's Word.  I'm so grateful for the women in my life who encouraged me to swim deeply in God's Word every day, so I could see with God's perspective that Scott's anger was not about me, but a consequence of his indulging in his sinful lifestyle. And in the midst of it, God broke my heart for Scott, because I knew that Scott was on his way to death with the enemy.

And I've gotta say, verse six made me choke up every time...and pray for the woman Scott was involved with, because honestly, she didn't want to see that what she was doing was wrong. She wanted to follow her feelings....she loved him, and allowed her feelings to make decisions. She was following the enemy to death, too.

Warning About Adultery

5 My son, pay attention to my wisdom; listen to my words of understanding. 2 Be careful to use good sense, and watch what you say. 3 The words of another man’s wife may seem sweet as honey; they may be as smooth as olive oil. 4 But in the end she will bring you sorrow, causing you pain like a two-edged sword. 5 She is on the way to death; her steps are headed straight to the grave. 6 She gives little thought to life. She doesn’t even know that her ways are wrong.

7 Now, my sons, listen to me, and don’t ignore what I say. 8 Stay away from such a woman. Don’t even go near the door of her house, 9 or you will give your riches to others, and the best years of your life will be given to someone cruel. 10 Strangers will enjoy your wealth, and what you worked so hard for will go to someone else. 11 You will groan at the end of your life when your health is gone. 12 Then you will say, “I hated being told what to do! I would not listen to correction! 13 I would not listen to my teachers or pay attention to my instructors. 14 I came close to being completely ruined in front of a whole group of people.”

15 Be faithful to your own wife, just as you drink water from your own well. 16 Don’t pour your water in the streets; don’t give your love to just any woman. 17 These things are yours alone and shouldn’t be shared with strangers. 18 Be happy with the wife you married when you were young. She gives you joy, as your fountain gives you water. 19 She is as lovely and graceful as a deer. Let her love always make you happy; let her love always hold you captive. 20 My son, don’t be held captive by a woman who takes part in adultery. Don’t fondle a woman who is not your wife.

21 The Lord sees everything you do, and he watches where you go. 22 An evil man will be caught in his wicked ways; the ropes of his sins will tie him up. 23 He will die because he does not control himself, and he will be held captive by his foolishness.

Proverbs 5 New Century Version

How would you pray this into your husband's life?

Lord Jesus, I am so grateful my husband, Scott, is faithful to me, his own wife, just as he drinks water from his own well. He doesn’t pour his water in the streets; and he doesn’t give his love to just any woman. These things are Scott's alone and I'm so thankful they shouldn’t be shared with strangers. Jesus, I thank You my husband, Scott, is happy with me, the wife he married when he was young. I'm grateful for the opportunities You give me to give him joy, as a fountain gives him water. Lord, I'm so grateful you've made me as lovely and graceful as a deer, that my love will always make Scott happy; and that my love always holds him captive. Thank You, Jesus, that my husband will NOT be held captive by a woman who takes part in adultery, nor does he fondle a woman who is not his wife. Thank You, Lord Jesus, for seeing everything Scott does and watching where he goes. Thank You for rescuing him from his wicked ways and from death! In Your precious name I pray, AMEN!

Which verse in Proverbs 5 speaks to YOU today?

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