Plan for Success in Marriage!


I didn't want to get up this morning. I didn't want to get out of bed at 5AM to run. I wanted to stay snuggled in bed. I hit the snooze button over and over, having compelling conversations with myself, rationalizing why staying in bed was better. Indulging in snippets of sleep, justifying running tomorrow instead of I could sleep in.

I'd just about convinced myself it was a good day to stay in bed, when something greater pulled me out of bed. Obedience.

Obedience to the plan. The training plan.

You see, earlier this year, I committed myself to a training plan. I knew that in order to run the full marathon in October, I had to be obedient to the plan. I had to trust the plan to prepare me to be able to run 26.2 miles in October. Each run in the plan is essential. To skip a run would mean jeopardizing training well and finishing strong. My running this morning is an important part of my marathon in October, even though this morning the only crowd cheering me on are tobacco fields, bunnies, cows and farm dogs along the roads.

So I got out of bed (sigh) and ran.

When I run, I talk to Jesus. He awakens things in my heart and brings things to my understanding. It really is precious time with Him. This morning He showed me that being obedient to my training plan is a lot like being obedient to His plan for my marriage.

Let me say that again. Being obedient to a running plan is like being obedient to God's plan for marriage.

To go the distance in marriage, you've got to know the plan, be obedient to the plan and trust the plan.

What does that mean? What's the plan?

KNOW God's Plan for Marriage: study His Word, get to know His character, purposes and plan for marriage. You'll find some of our favorite resources in our Marriage Toolbox; some of our favorite getaways are The Art of Marriage, FamilyLife's Weekend to Remember and Love Like You Mean It Cruise.

BE OBEDIENT to God's Plan for Marriage: how often do we really feel like doing the right thing? As I struggled this morning with getting out of bed to run, I struggle just as much some days speaking respectfully to my husband. Yet, when I choose to be obedient, my feelings follow my obedience, and I am grateful I chose to speak respectfully as I see my husband's countenance change. Sometimes the feelings follow quickly, more often it takes a lifestyle of that obedience. That lifestyle of obedience will grow a discipline to desire to delight!

TRUST God's Plan for Marriage: There's an old school hymn called trust and obey. It's a beautiful hymn, but from my walk with Jesus through His Word, He wants us to obey first. As we obey His Word for our lives and are obedient to His plan for marriage, trust in Jesus and his plan grows.

God's plan for marriage is better than the world's. God's plans always lead to life, the world's plans always lead to death. Which plan will you choose to be obedient to?

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