Everyone has an opinion, and plenty of people around you have advice, usually unsolicited. What do you do with it all?
Back when friends and family were learning of my husband's adultery, I got lots of advice. Most of it was for me to 'kick him to the curb' because he was a _________ (fill in the blank!). So I did a couple of things- I asked people not to talk about Scott that way, because I didn't want any bad seeds sown (after all, words frame our worlds!), and I pursued Jesus.
When reading the Proverbs, seeing the contrast of the wise and the foolish, you can also see that when getting advice, it's important to check two things: the source and your heart.
First, check the source: is the person giving you advice godly? Is he or she grounded in the word, such that the advice lines up with the Word of God? If it's contrary to God's Word, file that advice in the trash.
Second, check your heart: are you teachable? Is your heart pointed towards reconciliation? If the advice given lines up with God's Word, are you willing to walk out what He calls you to do, even if it doesn't feel good? It may even require you to seek forgiveness from someone when you don't want to, but need to.
The Wise Take Advice
Anyone who loves learning accepts correction,but a person who hates being corrected is stupid.
2 The Lord is pleased with a good person,but he will punish anyone who plans evil.
3 Doing evil brings no safety at all,but a good person has safety and security.
4 A good wife is like a crown for her husband,but a disgraceful wife is like a disease in his bones.
5 The plans that good people make are fair,but the advice of the wicked will trick you.
6 The wicked talk about killing people,but the words of good people will save them.
7 Wicked people die and they are no more,but a good person’s family continues.
8 The wisdom of the wise wins praise,but there is no respect for the stupid.
9 A person who is not important but has a servant is better offthan someone who acts important but has no food.
10 Good people take care of their animals,but even the kindest acts of the wicked are cruel.
11 Those who work their land will have plenty of food,but the one who chases empty dreams is not wise.
12 The wicked want what other evil people have stolen,but good people want to give what they have to others.
13 Evil people are trapped by their evil talk,but good people stay out of trouble.
14 People will be rewarded for what they say,and they will also be rewarded for what they do.
15 Fools think they are doing right,but the wise listen to advice.
16 Fools quickly show that they are upset,but the wise ignore insults.
17 An honest witness tells the truth,but a dishonest witness tells lies.
18 Careless words stab like a sword,but wise words bring healing.
19 Truth will continue forever,but lies are only for a moment.
20 Those who plan evil are full of lies,but those who plan peace are happy.
21 No harm comes to a good person,but an evil person’s life is full of trouble.
22 The Lord hates those who tell liesbut is pleased with those who keep their promises.
23 Wise people keep what they know to themselves,but fools can’t keep from showing how foolish they are.
24 Hard workers will become leaders,but those who are lazy will be slaves.
25 Worry is a heavy load,but a kind word cheers you up.
26 Good people take advice from their friends,but an evil person is easily led to do wrong.
27 The lazy catch no food to cook,but a hard worker will have great wealth.
28 Doing what is right is the way to life,but there is another way that leads to death.
Proverbs 12 New Century Version
WOW! So much goodness packed into one chapter! I've got to say, my favorite is verse 23, which I often paraphrase "Fools are known by the flapping of their gums." Isn't that true?
Which verse will YOU take with you today?
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