When I invited Jesus to be Lord of my life, life got so much more difficult. Because I was learning the truth and choosing to follow Jesus, I couldn't quit when life got chaotic. My marriage seemed particularly hopeless, and so many days I wondered if standing for my marriage while my husband was living with his girlfriend was worth it. Some days I wanted to quit, especially when those days weren't going according to my plan.
But I didn't quit. I choose to read a Proverb a day and let Jesus frame my perspective with His Word. Typically I had my plan for the day, and often saw that plan derailed by lunchtime if not sooner. Sometimes I'd plan how conversations or situations with Scott would go that day, only to find they looked nothing like I'd hoped, and I'd find myself with my head in my hands, tears streaming, asking God to redeem what He could from our interactions. I found myself praying throughout the day, asking God to show me His plan so I could partner with Him in it. Daily, I found direction in Proverbs...
If you quit listening, dear child, and strike off on your own, you’ll soon be out of your depth. ~Proverbs 19:27
Those who respect the Lord will live and be satisfied, unbothered by trouble. ~Proverbs 19:23
Now, more than years later, our marriage restored, redeemed, submitted to Jesus, I daily have to remind myself to not quit listening. The enemy would love to get a foothold and tell me it's not worth it when we encounter disagreements or difficulty. When you and your spouse are seeking God, not only will you draw closer to Him, you'll draw closer to each other. If your spouse is not on a journey with Jesus, do not despair, do not quit- the closer to draw to God, the more equipped you will be to love your spouse through those difficult situations when you want to quit.
Whatever storm you are weathering, don't quit. Follow Jesus, pursue Him, rest in Him, let Him guide You through each moment of each day. Honor Him with your words. Respect Him. Keep listening, to God and to your spouse, children, family members, friends and co-workers- listen to and through their words to their hearts.
If You Quit Listening
19 Better to be poor and honest than a rich person no one can trust.
2 Ignorant zeal is worthless; haste makes waste.
3 People ruin their lives by their own stupidity, so why does God always get blamed?
4 Wealth attracts friends as honey draws flies, but poor people are avoided like a plague.
5 Perjury won’t go unpunished. Would you let a liar go free?
6 Lots of people flock around a generous person; everyone’s a friend to the philanthropist.
7 When you’re down on your luck, even your family avoids you—yes, even your best friends wish you’d get lost. If they see you coming, they look the other way—out of sight, out of mind.
8 Grow a wise heart—you’ll do yourself a favor; keep a clear head—you’ll find a good life.
9 The person who tells lies gets caught; the person who spreads rumors is ruined.
10 Blockheads shouldn’t live on easy street any more than workers should give orders to their boss.
11 Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget.
12 Mean-tempered leaders are like mad dogs; the good-natured are like fresh morning dew.
13 A parent is worn to a frazzle by a stupid child; a nagging spouse is a leaky faucet.
14 House and land are handed down from parents, but a congenial spouse comes straight from God.
15 Life collapses on loafers; lazybones go hungry.
16 Keep the rules and keep your life; careless living kills.
17 Mercy to the needy is a loan to God, and God pays back those loans in full.
18 Discipline your children while you still have the chance; indulging them destroys them.
19 Let angry people endure the backlash of their own anger; if you try to make it better, you’ll only make it worse.
20 Take good counsel and accept correction—that’s the way to live wisely and well.
21 We humans keep brainstorming options and plans, but God’s purpose prevails.
22 It’s only human to want to make a buck, but it’s better to be poor than a liar.
23 Fear-of-God is life itself,a full life, and serene—no nasty surprises.
24 Some people dig a fork into the pie but are too lazy to raise it to their mouth.
25 Punish the insolent—make an example of them. Who knows? Somebody might learn a good lesson.
26 Kids who lash out against their parents are an embarrassment and disgrace.
27 If you quit listening, dear child, and strike off on your own, you’ll soon be out of your depth.
28 An unprincipled witness desecrates justice; the mouths of the wicked spew malice.
29 The irreverent have to learn reverence the hard way; only a slap in the face brings fools to attention.
Proverbs 19 New Century Version
So many amazing verses to choose from today! Which one(s) will you allow to inform your day?
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