Proverbs 31: The Good Wife


That woman described in Proverbs 31 sounds pretty formidable, doesn't she? What is a good wife, really?

My journey to become a 'good' wife started long before I read Proverbs 31. As I read different chapters and verses in the old and new testament, when I listen to Jesus, all of it informs me in my journey. Admittedly, it is a verse in Proverbs 31 that I had latched on to early in my walk as I was standing for my marriage.

Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come. ~Proverbs 31:25

In good days and bad, this verse reminded me who I am in Christ and who Christ is in my life. Through it, Jesus gave me hope beyond my understanding that regardless of the outcome of my marriage with Scott, I would rejoice in time to come. In fact, I came to realize that I could rejoice in every day, despite my circumstances, as I dressed in Jesus' strength and chose to honor Him with my thoughts, words and decisions.

That truth is for you, too. Regardless what you face today, put on Jesus' strength. Know who you are in Him, and who He is in your life.

31 These are the words of King Lemuel, the message his mother taught him:

2 “My son, I gave birth to you. You are the son I prayed for. 3 Don’t waste your strength on women or your time on those who ruin kings. 4 “Kings should not drink wine, Lemuel, and rulers should not desire beer. 5 If they drink, they might forget the law and keep the needy from getting their rights. 6 Give beer to people who are dying and wine to those who are sad. 7 Let them drink and forget their need and remember their misery no more. 8 “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; defend the rights of all those who have nothing. 9 Speak up and judge fairly, and defend the rights of the poor and needy.”

The Good Wife

10 It is hard to find a good wife, because she is worth more than rubies. 11 Her husband trusts her completely. With her, he has everything he needs. 12 She does him good and not harm for as long as she lives. 13 She looks for wool and flax and likes to work with her hands. 14 She is like a trader’s ship, bringing food from far away. 15 She gets up while it is still dark and prepares food for her family and feeds her servant girls. 16 She inspects a field and buys it. With money she earned, she plants a vineyard. 17 She does her work with energy, and her arms are strong. 18 She knows that what she makes is good. Her lamp burns late into the night. 19 She makes thread with her hands and weaves her own cloth. 20 She welcomes the poor and helps the needy. 21 She does not worry about her family when it snows, because they all have fine clothes to keep them warm. 22 She makes coverings for herself; her clothes are made of linen and other expensive material. 23 Her husband is known at the city meetings, where he makes decisions as one of the leaders of the land. 24 She makes linen clothes and sells them and provides belts to the merchants. 25 She is strong and is respected by the people. She looks forward to the future with joy. 26 She speaks wise words and teaches others to be kind. 27 She watches over her family and never wastes her time. 28 Her children speak well of her. Her husband also praises her, 29 saying, “There are many fine women, but you are better than all of them.” 30 Charm can fool you, and beauty can trick you, but a woman who respects the Lord should be praised. 31 Give her the reward she has earned; she should be praised in public for what she has done.

Proverbs 31 New Century Version

Ladies, being the 'good' wife is the fruit of your walk with Jesus, and will influence those around you- your husband, your children, your friends, your coworkers, and the clerk at the department store or gas station.

Gentlemen, loving, encouraging, protecting, and nurturing your wife will empower her in ways you cannot imagine; and will have a profound influence on those around you.

Grab a verse to carry with you today to inform you and speak to your heart. And then dive into Proverbs 1 tomorrow!

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