Smoking. A seemingly harmless habit in Scott's eyes early in our marriage. I thought it was repulsive, disgusting and foolish beyond words. Ironically, we can both look back now to see that smoking was the beginning of the end of our marriage.
Sound crazy? Let me tell you, as repulsive, disgusting and foolish as I thought Scott's smoking was, my response to him was equally repulsive, disgusting and foolish. So he tried to hide it, and sought out opportunities to be without me so he could smoke without me disrespecting and guilting him about his choice. You can read more (or listen) about where that path took him, and us, here.
Walking through the Proverbs, and chapter nine's summary of the first eight chapters, gave me God's perspective, showing me in real life ways how God's wisdom leads to life, and foolishness, personified as the adulteress in the Proverbs, leads to death. I love how clear Proverbs 9 is...
Being Wise or Foolish
9 Wisdom has built her house; she has made its seven columns. 2 She has prepared her food and wine; she has set her table. 3 She has sent out her servant girls, and she calls out from the highest place in the city. 4 She says to those who are uneducated, “Come in here, you foolish people! 5 Come and eat my food and drink the wine I have prepared. 6 Stop your foolish ways, and you will live; take the road of understanding.
7 “If you correct someone who makes fun of wisdom, you will be insulted. If you correct an evil person, you will get hurt. 8 Do not correct those who make fun of wisdom, or they will hate you. But correct the wise, and they will love you. 9 Teach the wise, and they will become even wiser; teach good people, and they will learn even more.
10 “Wisdom begins with respect for the Lord, and understanding begins with knowing the Holy One. 11 If you live wisely, you will live a long time; wisdom will add years to your life. 12 The wise person is rewarded by wisdom, but whoever makes fun of wisdom will suffer for it.”
13 Foolishness is like a loud woman; she does not have wisdom or knowledge. 14 She sits at the door of her house at the highest place in the city. 15 She calls out to those who are passing by, who are going along, minding their own business. 16 She says to those who are uneducated, “Come in here, you foolish people! 17 Stolen water is sweeter, and food eaten in secret tastes better.” 18 But these people don’t know that everyone who goes there dies, that her guests end up deep in the grave.
Proverbs 9 New Century Version
You've got a choice, every day, every moment, to see and respond with wisdom or with foolishness to the people and situations in your life. Which are you, wise or foolish?
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