Not a Mind Reader

Not a Mind Reader

Don't have the argument by yourself. Those were words of wisdom from once upon a time when I worked in property management. It was Friday afternoon, and I'd gotten a voicemail from the vice president of a large firm and long term tenant in one of the office parks I managed, asking for a return call to discuss a letter he'd recently received from me. My mind raced. I spoke with the our lease administrator, running through the things I thought the VP could be calling about and how I would respond. A wise man, he reminded me that I knew this tenant's lease, I was good at what I did, and I should stop preparing for an argument that didn't exist. Don't have the argument by yourself.

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Expectations

Expectations

Growing up, my father knew everything and could fix anything- plumbing, electrical, carpentry, roofing, cars- you name it, he could do it. Yep, I grew up in Superman's house, watching him leap tall buildings and race with locomotives. So when Scott and I got married, I knew he couldn't possibly be Superman. Every time something required repair in our house, I would tell Scott he couldn't fix it and that he needed to call my dad. And most times, Scott lived right into my negative expectations.

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Button Pusher

Button Pusher

Are you a button pusher? Is your husband?You know what I'm talking about, it's that 'thing' you two just can't talk about without it becoming the biggest issue in the house, just short of exploding into World War III. And it may be over something as simple as pork rinds, how your husband chews his food, or the route you take to church.

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Do Sexy Wives Come In A Size 12?

Do Sexy Wives Come In A Size 12?

I tiptoed mischievously into the master bathroom and skillfully proceeded to fill the tub with lavender scented bath salts and a half bottle of pink bubble bath that I had taken hostage from my nine year old daughter’s bath and body supply. Snickering like a school aged girl, I reluctantly dropped my clothes to the floor and took one fierce look in the full length mirror. Immediately my grown up insecurities and wandering thoughts began to attack my mind, hound me and follow me around like a neighborhood stray dog.

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Chauffeur or VIP?

Chauffeur or VIP?

One summer weekend, when our son was three, I spent a weekend visiting friends, leaving my husband to be our son's primary care giver all weekend. Per usual, I'd written out all the detailed instructions for the proper care of our son- what to wear, what to eat, when to eat, sleep, play, a reminder of favorite things, everything. You know: the list. I even cleaned the whole house, precooked meals, and laid out clothes for our son. Imagine my surprise when I arrived home to a messy house, pizza boxes, and our son dressed in boxers, snow boots and a pajama top stomping in puddles in the backyard.

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Did You Marry a Loser?

Did You Marry a Loser?

My husband has an entrepreneur's spirit. He has always longed to own a business, to be his own boss, set his own schedule, and to own something bigger than himself. I, on the other hand, have always preferred to live knowing that someone else is responsible for making sure my paychecks will clear, confident that my hard work would be acknowledged and rewarded. And frankly, once upon a time, in the early years of our marriage, I would tell Scott that his ideas for owning a business were unrealistic...and yes...(I said it)...stupid.

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Bye-Bye Granny Panties!

Bye-Bye Granny Panties!

Hold on to your blue jeans for this one,  here comes a mighty confession! As a matter of fact, someone just might want to call me up and take me out to lunch! Whoodoggie...forget the lunch, just drop by my office with a dozen cream filled doughnuts, a couple of jars of crunchy peanut butter and some chocolate bars. I am coming clean and it feels good. It's a day of revelation!

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Five Steps to Destroy Your Marriage

Five Steps to Destroy Your Marriage

God creates, Satan pervertsThe Five T's are the road that will bring you to intimacy beyond your wildest dreams with your spouse, as we mentioned in Five T's for Success. Before marriage and outside of marriage, the Five T's are like a road which leads up to and potentially over the proverbial "line". The problem with a line on the road is that it can be difficult to see until you're almost on top of and about to cross it.

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Fill My Rolo-SEX!

Fill My Rolo-SEX!

Do you remember the Rolodex? For those of you who are under 35, it was little round desk accessory that had hundreds of cards in it. The cards held information from business associates and contacts. When you wanted to call someone, you spun through the alphabetized names, picked up the phone (which was attached to the wall/desk by a cord!) and called. We've already established through numerous previous posts that men and women think differently, and even if we hadn't, it's no mystery that we see the world through very different lenses. One writer says that men see the world through blue tinted glasses and women through pink. So just keep that in mind as you continue to read.

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Just Say NO To Sex?

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I grabbed my oversized sweat pants and tank top. With every ounce of energy left within my five foot four and a half-inch frame, I swiftly pulled back the covers and eagerly collapsed onto the bed. At that moment, the emotional exhaustion from dealing with twenty plus clients, the stress of laundry, dirty dishes, the disgruntled shouts of an I want it my way or no way teenager, the awaiting upstairs clogged toilet, the to do list that stretches my entire neighborhood block, the unanswered emails, voice mails, it all seemed to slowly diminish...

This is my time- rest, relaxation, a good book, the ipad, two dark chocolate Reeses Peanut Butter Cups, followed by the anticipation of much needed sweet dreams, but then out of nowhere I felt IT… the hand! My hubby’s fingers begin to crawl up my spine like a stealthy, sneaky, recluse spider. I know what he is expecting.

At that moment my fleshly side wants to shout out, I wouldn’t do that if I were you! Do you want to keep those ten fingers? Don’t you even think about it! You had it last week, to be sure that should last for a good month. What in tarnation are you thinkin’?

Every selfish instinct tells me to stand my ground, demand my sexual rights, not give in, and just say NO to sex!

I Am The Only One?

It's then I am reminded that I am the special gift that God gave to my husband to meet this need. You see, my husband can take his laundry to the cleaners, dine out for all of his meals, confide in a close male friend, and in doing all this he can still be in the will of God. Yet, if he chooses to have sex with anyone other than his wife-ME- it is sin! I am the only one who can minister to my husband in this area.

This love, intimacy, and the act of being completely transparent and naked before each other creates a oneness within our marriage that should take precedence over everything else; the iphone, ipad, commitments, chores, kids, chocolate, Facebook, EVERYTHING, with the exception being for a mutual short retreat for prayer. In reading 1 Corinthians, the apostle Paul goes on to caution that even this should be done for a short time.

The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. ~1 Corinthians 7:3-5

Getting My Priorities Back In Line

I am learning that my commitment to sexual intimacy in our marriage involves doing what is necessary to achieve it, and getting rid of whatever is necessary that hinders it. There will be times that I have to take control of my thoughts, lay aside my selfishness, and focus on the needs of my husband. In all honesty, there are times that I find myself praying these words.

Lord, I need you to help me. You know my faults, how I tend to overcommit myself, and can get my priorities so out of line. Help me to surrender any emotional or mental obstacles that may be hindering me from wanting to share this pleasure with my husband. Father, I want to meet my husband’s needs. God, give me a passionate desire to be intimate with him, and a fresh renewed strength. Thank you for choosing me to be his gift. In the name of Jesus I pray, Amen.

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Affair Proof Your Marriage

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Your marriage is like a vineyard, lots of room to romp and play, the sweetest fruit, it's a safe place of pleasure and growth. But we've got to guard that fruit from anything that will come against it that seeks to destroy what we're building together with God. It's time to affair proof your marriage!

Then you must protect me from the little foxes, foxes on the prowl, foxes who would like nothing better than to get into our flowering garden. ~Song of Solomon 2:15

The enemy is clever like a fox. We saw in the Garden of Gethsemane that he chose to slink away to wait for a more opportune time to come against Christ. If Satan was scheming that way against the Son of God, then you know he is planning attacks on you and your marriage. Adultery doesn't just happen. David didn't just wake up and decide to sleep with someone else's wife.

Do You Need to Affair Proof Your Marriage?

Don't think your marriage needs protection from foxes or affair proofing? Here are a few simple indicators that your marriage may require protecting:

  • You and your spouse don't eat dinner together regularly
  • You and/or your spouse work full time
  • You and/or your spouse watch a lot of TV
  • You and/or your spouse don't attend church together regularly
  • You or your spouse has had an extramarital affair, including emotional affairs
  • You and your spouse are human
  • You are married
  • You are breathing

So how do we protect and affair proof our marriages? Temptation has always and will always exist, so the best way to turn from it is to limit the opportunities to fail. Most adulterous relationships begin as friendships, as seemingly innocent business lunches or time spent alone with someone of the opposite gender. So you've got to protect and affair proof your marriage from the fox of adultery by deciding upon the ways you will avoid being in a position to fail.

Things we WILL NOT do with a person of the opposite gender:

  • Ride alone in a car
  • Dine- breakfast, lunch, dinner, coffee, etc
  • Go into the place of residence, unless spouse is home
  • Meet behind closed doors or confide in a person of the opposite gender. A person of the opposite gender cannot be an accountability partner or confidante
  • During business trips, no in hotel room meetings and the front desk to disable all pay movies and adult television stations. If you have to, ask to have the TV removed from the room!

It's not just a matter of choosing what NOT to do...in the course of transforming your thinking about the vineyard of our marriage, you must chose to do things that protect, enrich, nurture and grow a strong marriage with deep roots in the Word of God.

Things we WILL do with our spouse to protect and nurture our marriage:

  • Watch and remain guarded regarding platonic touches
  • Pour love, respect and attention onto each other
  • Share an email account and passwords to email/facebook accounts including work accounts
  • Have accountability software on ALL computers, with a third party accountability partner and discuss computer history BEFORE deleting it
  • Give each other the benefit of the doubt first, before assuming the worst

Well, here's a bonus...want to really REV UP your marriage and sweeten its fruit? Put the kids in bed, light the candles in your bedroom, get under the covers and read Song of Solomon together out loud. *wink*

Have you experienced the fruit of protecting your marriage from the little foxes?  How do YOU affair proof YOUR MARRIAGE? Tell us about it!

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Even Noah Looked Foolish!

WARNING: What you are about to read is a true story. The names have not been changed to protect the foolish, um, I mean innocent… It was another one of those can it, could it, would it, yes it can, it could, it would, and it DID happen to sweet, little, innocent ol’ me moments in my life. foolish 2 The passion was slowly disintegrating in my marriage and I knew without a doubt that this wife needed to implement some swift changes in the romance department where my marriage was concerned. I’ll admit, I had somewhat been a teeny, tiny bit, unknowingly deficient in the area of expressing my feelings and flirting with my hubby Rick. Shucks fire, I ain’t gonna lie, in my past I had hardly ever been the type of wife to send her husband a text or drop an email once an hour, or even on a daily basis just to say, “hey, I love you,” or to encourage him. Isn’t it amazing that we as women want to be pursued, and crave the romance from our husbands, yet we often forget that they desire the same thing!

Foolish in Love: Oh no she didn't!

foolishNervously, I got out my cell phone and sent my husband Rick the following text: You R a hunk! Thinking of u & I can’t wait 2 snuggle & get a hold of your luscious lips! I got a prize waiting for u when u get home!:)  Love , Bev   Within minutes, I began to fidget at my desk waiting eagerly for his response. I knew my text would blow my hubby’s mind, I just prayed it wouldn’t give him a severe life altering heart attack! The clock ticked, minutes passed, and it seemed like hours. Finally, I heard the “DING” sound for the incoming message, and scuffled to pick up the cell phone which in return displayed the following reply: Dear Bev, I am sure you intended to send this message to your husband & not to me, although I did get excited!

Have Mercy Sista!

Grab the peanut butter and chocolate, this is the part where the story gets water cooler, belly aching, giggling good! At that very moment, I dropped the phone and screamed out“Lord, help me Jesus!!!” I had inadvertently sent that steamy message to the last person I had dialed that morning. He was a contractor, a business aquaintance who I had called that morning to request his consideration in signing a proposal that I had submitted to his company. My office buddies gathered around my desk and laughed and joked about that one for days! Afterwards, every time I spoke with that contractor he would chuckle. Needless to say, I NEVER have forgotten that incident.

Looking Foolish: To Be Sure I’m Not The Only One

Have you ever done something FOOLISH? I mean down right, tee-totally embarrassing, let me cover my face, or crawl into a whole nearby, foolish? I am reminded there will be days in my Christian walk with God, when I take a stand for my Lord, that I may appear to some to look absurd, nutty or plain ol' foolish. Some of you are undoubtedly feeling that way even now as you take a stand for your marriage. Your friends are saying “Are you crazy? Drop him!” but yet you continue to STAND on the Word of God and claim His promises. Maybe you are looking foolish because you have been praying day and night for a breakthrough in your finances, your job, a relationship with someone in your family, a prodigal child, or a friend at your church, all the while the people you admire most are laughing at you.

Even Noah Looked Foolish

Can you imagine just how foolish Noah and his sons appeared to look when God told Noah to build the ark. That boat was 450 ft. long (the length of 1.5 football fields) 75 ft. wide and 45 ft. high (about the height of a five-story building). His neighbors and closest friends gathered around and they laughed their heads off. "Hey Noah, are you crazy!?! There ain’t but so many trout over there in that water. You are a foolish man building a boat this big! Oh and Noah, how do you expect to drag it to the water?” But Noah was obedient to God, he began to share how there was going to be a great flood and how they needed to repent. Let me tell you, I bet there was a whole lot of gossiping and giggling until those first water filled, dark, stormy clouds rolled in! There will be times when we as Christians look foolish, BUT most of those times will be because we are doing God’s will, doing God’s work. I want to be a risk taker, I, Beverly Weeks, want to seize opportunities, embrace uncertainty, and with my dragon slaying spiritual weapons in hand I want to face my deepest, darkest, fears and insecurities head on. I want to be all that GOD has called me to be and absolutely nothing less. For too long, I have allowed the enemy to stifle my God-given potential. I have been guilty in my past of  entertaining that voice in my mind that says, you’re not qualified, this will never work, that pesky voice of doubt that says, are you sure you have been called… Not any longer!!!  I am committed. I am resolved. I am going forth in VICTORY. I am taking a stand  for my Jesus. Just like Noah, I will dare to look foolish!

Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. ~Psalm 37:4

IT'S ART OF MARRIAGE TIME!! We're looking forward to traveling to Poquoson, Virginia June 6-7, will you join us to work on the masterpiece of your marriage? 

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SEX: Keep The Passion ALIVE!

Honeychild, somebody pass the peanut butter and a chocolate bar this is gonna be one tee-totally, eye brow raising, foot stomping, giggling so hard I’m grabbing my belly, YES Christians can have fun, forget reality television, AMAZINGLY REAL blog post!! sex

It's been a weekend packed  with three speaking engagements, a district talent competition for both kids, church, and a hand full of other activities. I am mentally and physically drained! On top of that, when I walk through that door this afternoon after a full day at work, I know that I will be greeted by a sink full of dishes, three unmade beds and two piles of laundry, one dirty and the other funky. Dirty means that in hard times we can wear it just one more time. Funky means you better grab a gas mask and run just as fast as you can while loading it into the washer!

Not tonight, dear, I've got a headache

It seems the cycle of "fast paced" is never-ending. There is work, kids, activities, church, and the list goes on. SOOOOO the last thing I want to feel when my head hits that pillow tonight is a hand crawling up my back like a pack spiders. Just being candid, if I’m not careful I can find myself making an excuse every night of the week for why NOT to have sex with my hubby. From headaches, to earaches, to backaches, to “Not tonight, honey, I have a toe ache!” Yet, I know without a doubt that sex IS a fundamental part of our marriage covenant and I am determined to keep the passion ALIVE!!

Kind of reminds me of a story I heard  of this one old couple who were at a coffee shop one night and the husband leaned over and asked his wife, "Do you remember that time 50 years ago we went behind this same building where we leaned against the back fence and we… you know?" “Yes,” she says, "I remember it well."

The old guy got a twinkle in his eye and said, "How about we take a stroll around back to it again for old time’s sake?"

"Oh Charlie, you old devil, that sounds like a crazy, but fun idea!”

Now, a police officer was having coffee and happened to overhear this conversation and chuckling to himself, he thought: "I’ve gotta' see these two old-timers just to keep an eye on them so there’s no trouble." So he follows them.

The elderly couple walked out slowly, leaning on each other and with the help of their canes. Finally, they got to the back of the building and sure enough, the old man made his move and the lady leaned against the fence. The policeman was about to turn away, when suddenly it turned into the most unexpected display of marital fireworks the policeman had ever seen. This went on for minutes with loud shouts and screaming!!

Finally, they both collapsed on the ground. The policeman was amazed. He thought how all these years he had underestimated EVERY senior citizen he’d ever met. How did they keep the passion alive so long? After giving them a chance to pull themselves together, the policeman decided, “I’ve got to ask them what their secret is."

So, as the couple passes, he says to them, "Excuse me, but I have to admit, I just saw that, and I’m wondering what the secret is to keeping that kind of passion in your relationship."

Shaking, the old man was barely able to reply, "Fifty years ago, that wasn’t an electric fence!!!" Now that’s one way to keep the passion alive!

SEX: Keeping The Passion Alive

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not shamed.  ~Genesis 2:24-25

S- SEDUCE Your Husband: Or for all my brothers in Christ, SEDUCE your wife!! Have mercy, I’m gonna need a pedicure by the time I am finished. I’m stepping all over my hot pink, polka dot painted toes today.

If you don’t  take care of the sexual needs of your spouse, it is like throwing him or her into a pack of foaming at the mouth wolves in an immoral, ungodly sexual culture! You heard me right. We live in a world filled with pornography, women and men who have no respect for their bodies, x-rated Hollywood movies and magazines being flaunted on the screen, on our electronics, and even in the check-out lines.

I mean of all things, I passed by a local billboard for a plastic surgeon the other day and thought I was going to have a heart attack! The model was barely clothed while stretched out in a provocative position. I wanted to cover my husband's and my fourteen-year old son's eyes to protect them from that filth! I REFUSE as a godly wife to give the enemy a foot in the door in my marriage!!!  Listen up ladies it is time we make our husbands our first priorities. They need to feel desired, loved, and like they are the most valuable thing on this planet!! So in other words, forget the laundry, instead seduce himTurn Him On & Get Naked!

E-Examine Your Heart:  Sista' believe me, YES, I know all about exhaustion, being drained and all the drama that comes along with a typical week. As a matter of fact, I am the momma of all drama! Madea ain't gotta thang on me!!  Yet, there are times I have to examine my heart. I have to put aside my selfishness, my lists, my wants.... I am called to minister to my husband in this area. I am not going to lie. Sometimes I have had to pray: Lord, change my heart.

You may have to jump in the shower, take a nice warm bath, dab on your favorite perfume, grab something pretty or you may even have to schedule a time for sex! BUT, you keep this in mind, this intimacy with your spouse, this sexual oneness, this transparency,  this gift from GOD, this highest form of worship with your spouse, is a VITAL part of the marriage relationship. It is the ONE thing you can’t do with anyone else.

X- Xperiment (experiment) with NEW ideas! Say adios, so long, farewell, sayonara, to ho-hum, can only be done in one position, don’t mess up my bangs, BORING sex! It’s time to spice it up. Light the candles, add the romance, turn on the music, bring on the strawberries and whip cream, read Song of Solomon together, grab the scented oils, forgo the oversized jogging pants, grab something pretty to wear, flirt, giggle, laugh, yell, and laugh some more! You may even want to add fresh insight such as godly resources and books or speak to a qualified Christian mentor or biblically based counselor.

Above all COMMUNICATE to each other your likes and dislikes and always  KEEP THE PASSION ALIVE!!

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Act Like a Husband and Wife

Act Like a Husband and Wife

On the way to an Art of Marriage event we were facilitating a couple of years ago, the drive was long enough for Scott and me to get to a point in the conversation where we heatedly disagreed and misunderstood each other. Yep, we had car-itis, a condition where driving brought out the worst in both of us, and we didn't have enough time to resolve the issue before having to meet with the hosts of the event and get set up. So we put our unsanctified emotions aside, put on our best smiles, got out of the car, and acted like the husband and wife God created us to be...shelving the conflict for resolution on the drive home.

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Isn't marriage supposed to make me happy?

When Scott and I married back in 1991, it was the next step on my list of what you do in life. Graduate college- check; get a job- check; get married- check. It was the logical step to reach the next steps- buy a house, get a dog, have a child, live happily ever after. This check list and my understanding that marriage was supposed to make me happy were not enough...we divorced on our 14th wedding anniversary. Read more about that here. marriage

When we do not know the purpose of a thing, we will ultimately misuse it and break it. ~Voddie Baucham

As we look around in society and see almost fifty percent of marriages failing and ending in divorce, it is clear that as we allow society to determine the purpose of marriage, we misuse it and break it. This hits close to home as we see couples around us struggling in their marriages, and because of our own experience, it is part of what drives us to share God's truth, hope and vision for marriage.

At the core of everything we do for marriages, we must go back to the purposes for marriage. If you don't know what marriage is for, you will be perpetually unhappy and unsatisfied as your marriage doesn't meet our expectations and the purposes YOU have for your marriage. After all, when you use something for an unintended purposes, say a screwdriver to change a sparkplug or pliers to pluck your eyebrows, you'll be frustrated, disappointed, aggravated, and likely damaging the screwdriver, the pliers, the sparkplug and your forehead.

So if marriage isn't to make you happy, what are the purposes for marriage as ordained by the Creator?

Purpose One: Mutually Complete Each Other. Right there in the garden in Genesis 2, God created man and said it wasn't good for him to be alone. In God's perfect timing, He sovereignly chooses to bring a man and woman together in marriage for them to be greater together than they would have been apart. It's the Rocky theology- "I got gaps, she got gaps, we fill each other's gaps." Your spouse, by divine design, completes you. Have you considered the ways that you and your spouse's weaknesses and differences make you stronger as an interdependent team?

Purpose Two: Multiply a Godly Legacy. Next, God tells us in Genesis to be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth. Why? Because it is God's plan for the family to be a nurturing place where children grow up learning character, values and integrity; how to live and relate to their God. Raising our children to become strong men and women of God is the first, most personal evangelism mission we have! When we raise them as godly men and women, they will reach people for Christ that we never could have.

Purpose Three: Mirror God's Image. God chose the marriage relationship to reflect His character to the world. It is only with God's love that we can love. It is only with His forgiveness that we can forgive. It takes God's patience to be patient. Through the marriage covenant of "til death do us part", we reflect God's Word- "I'll never leave you or forsake you." The people around us should be able to see our marriage and get a glimpse of what God is like. What does your marriage say about God?

These purposes of marriage are light years away from what Scott and I thought marriage was about when we first said "I do." Knowing these purposes and walking them out changes everything. When we said "I do" the second time, we made that covenant understanding why this marriage would look very different than our first one together. We broke the first one because we didn't know it's purpose- we are determined, with God's help, to use this marriage for the purposes intended by its Creator.

Is there happiness in marriage? Absolutely. And better than happiness is joy. Marriage isn't sunshine and roses and the instant gratification of sprinting, but the deep joy of choosing God and each other every day, doubling joy and halving sadness as you walk through life together.

Are any of these purposes a surprise to you? Why did you get married? 

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