Relationship: Vertical & Horizontal

Relationship: Vertical & Horizontal

Christian or not, we've all been exposed to the images of a cross. Whether it's the "Old Rugged Cross" or simply a picture of a cross on a hill, we all know what a cross looks like. Think about that cross for a moment. Think about how it is constructed. Now think about the horizontal part of the cross, the part that goes left to right or east to west. Now think about the relationships in your life. Your relationships with the people who matter: your spouse, your friends, your family, your co-workers. Those are the "horizontal" relationships around you, the people you interact with as you go through your life. The people who are within your sphere of influence.

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FATHERS DAY PRAYER BLITZ: Legacy

Every man, every father leaves a legacy of some kind. What if we prayed for the men in our lives to realize this, and live every moment to build a godly legacy for their children?

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Each day this week, we will post specific scripture references pertaining to fathers/fatherhood/heavenly Father for us to intentionally focus on in prayer. Let’s HONOR the fathers (biological, step, adoptive, spiritual)  in our lives by standing in the gap for each of them.   If you missed the preblitz prayerhusband prayerparenting prayerheart prayer, or abandoned children prayer, be sure to go back and read/pray them!

Today we focus on the legacy as fathers the men in our lives pass on to their children.

Day Five Scripture Focus: Legacy

He did what was right in the eyes of the LORD, just as his father Amaziah had done. ~2 Chronicles 26:4 (NIV)

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. ~Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)

Day Five Prayer Focus: Legacy

  • Pray that fathers will embrace the desire to pass along a Godly legacy to their children by training them up to love and serve God.
  • Pray (wives) that your husband/children's father will remember and embrace the Godly wisdom and healthy behaviors his father taught them.
  • Pray your children will accept and embrace the Godly wisdom passed on to them from their father and not depart from it.

Repentance & Forgiveness Pray and ask God to show you times you have disregarded your father's godly and wise instruction and ways and repent for it. Repent for times you have disregarded your Heavenly Father's wisdom and plan for your life. Fathers: Repent if you have neglected your God given responsibility to train up your own children in the fear of the Lord.

Forgive your own father/father-in-law for times they have not embraced Godly fatherhood, disappointed you, led you along the wrong path or turned away from God's plan for their life. Pray and ask God to show you how to be a Godly father if you have not had a good example in your own life. Pray for a humble heart to follow God's instructions for fatherhood from His word and a desire to pass along a Godly legacy and example to your own children.

Pray a blessing, (even if in faith) over the fathers (your own/children's father,/father-in-law) in your life and praise God for their divine wisdom, desire to lead their children along the way they should go so that they will not depart from it. Praise God for His perfect example of Fatherhood and unconditional love and acceptance. Declare that you are loved, wanted and accepted in the beloved. In Jesus name, Amen.

 

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Father's Day Prayer Blitz: Parenting

Every dad is the family role model, whether or not he wants the job. ~Dennis Rainey

Welcome to Day Two of the Father’s Day Prayer Blitz! Be sure to go back and read the preblitz prayer and day one.

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Each day this week, we will post specific scripture references pertaining to fathers/fatherhood/heavenly Father for us to intentionally focus on in prayer. Let’s HONOR the fathers (biological, step, adoptive, spiritual)  in our lives by standing in the gap for each of them. Today we focus on the role of father for the men in our lives.

Day Two Scripture Focus: Parenting

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. ~Ephesians 6:4

Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.  ~Colossians 3:21 

Day Two Prayer Focus: Parenting

For Your Father/Father-In-Law: Pray that your father/father-in-law will demonstrate love and patience toward your/your husband even as an adult and be a Godly and encouraging influence on your/your husband's life.

For Yourself/your wife: Pray that you/your wife will respect and honor your husband's/your way of encouraging, instructing and disciplining your children and that you and your wife/you and your husband will be in Godly agreement on how to encourage, instruct and discipline your children.

For Yourself/your husband: Pray that you/your husband will demonstrate love and patience toward your children, regardless of their age and will be a Godly and encouraging influence on their lives.

Repentance/forgiveness: Fathers: repent for times you have been impatient and/or discouraging to your children. Ask God for divine parenting wisdom and love to respond to your children appropriately.

For your father/father-in-law: Pray forgiveness for times your father/father-in-law did not demonstrate patience and encouragement for you as their child.

Using the scriptures above, pray a declaration and blessing over yourself, your father/father-in-law and children:

Heavenly Father, thank you that my father is patient with me, and that I can go to him for Godly wisdom, instruction and encouragement. Thank you Heavenly Father for standing in the gap and being the perfect father and showing me/my husband how to be a Godly example to my/our children. In Jesus name, Amen.

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God Wants Me to be Happy!

"It might seem crazy what I'm 'bout to saySunshine she's here, you can take a break I'm a hot air balloon that could go to space With the air, like I don't care baby by the way

Because I'm Happy...

...Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth"

This song by Pharrell Williams is a pretty catchy tune. I can't hardly NOT clap along (click the link & take a listen while you read...it's almost infectious).

But...

It might seem crazy what I'm 'bout to say...

Not that God doesn't want His children to be happy, but our happiness is not God's highest priority.

Not even close.

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There are many things God wants for us more than being happy.

God desires obedience from us (1 Samuel 15:22) - and despises our sacrifices to Him when we are not obedient (Amos 5:18-24). In fact, it would seem He's more pleased with brokenness than happiness (Psalm 51:17).

He has good plans for us (Jeremiah 29:11), but those plans might include some pretty humiliating circumstances - as was the case for the Israelites who were in captivity when God declared His good plans to Jeremiah. I'm thinking they weren't really too happy.

And He promises to work everything for good, for those who love Him and are called according to His purposes (Romans 8:28). But "everything" could include suffering, groaning, weakness and pain (Romans 8:18-27).

He even promises blessing to those who are faithful, and who persevere under trial (James 1:12) - but typically those blessings are more heavenly in nature than earthly. And yeah, to persevere under trial, that means there would be, well...trial. I don't know too many people who can be happy in the midst of trial.

Isn't my marriage supposed to make me happy?

I wrote in a previous blog, I Deserve It, that the enemy has a small bag of tricks that he just keeps using over and over - because they work. They are lies he uses to confuse. And then with them he will steal our passion, kill our commitment, and destroy our lives and legacies. That's what he is here to do.

Too many marriages end up in crisis or destroyed altogether because of this lie that "God wants me to be happy." This becomes justification for all sorts of behavior that is clearly against scriptural teaching, clearly not in the best interest of the marriage. Sherry Jennings writes about God's purposes for marriage very well in her blog titled "Isn't marriage supposed to make me happy?"

Paul David Tripp recently came through where I work and shared a morning devotion with us. Now there's a man who can rightly divide the Word of Truth in such a way that you're likely to have an "Ah Ha!" and a "Duh" moment simultaneously! Or at least that was my response. During his time sharing with us, Paul taught from Mark 6:45-52 to explain some pretty cool truths. He shared how Christ will "take us where we don't choose to go in order to produce in us what we cannot achieve on our own."  If you take me where I don't wanna go, I'm not likely to be very happy about it. But according to Tripp, when Jesus does that to His followers, that's what the Bible calls grace.

Not the grace of release or relief, but the grace of refinement.

Have you ever heard it stated that way? Paul said this form of "uncomfortable grace" is a sure sign of God's redemptive love. He also said something I've often stated - we give the enemy too much credit. Much of what we experience - the difficulties as we see them - are gifts from a glorious God, and are His evidence of grace in our lives. Not some punishment or attack of the enemy at all. But are they designed to make us happy? I don't think so. They're designed, as Paul says, to refine us. Or in other words, to make us holy.

And that's just what scripture confirms in 1 Peter 1:13-16.

But I guess maybe that doesn't fit so well into a catchy tune...not that there's necessarily anything wrong with a catchy tune. Or being happy.

Sing it with me now!

Clap along if you feel holiness is the truth... Because He's holy...

 

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Isn't marriage supposed to make me happy?

When Scott and I married back in 1991, it was the next step on my list of what you do in life. Graduate college- check; get a job- check; get married- check. It was the logical step to reach the next steps- buy a house, get a dog, have a child, live happily ever after. This check list and my understanding that marriage was supposed to make me happy were not enough...we divorced on our 14th wedding anniversary. Read more about that here. marriage

When we do not know the purpose of a thing, we will ultimately misuse it and break it. ~Voddie Baucham

As we look around in society and see almost fifty percent of marriages failing and ending in divorce, it is clear that as we allow society to determine the purpose of marriage, we misuse it and break it. This hits close to home as we see couples around us struggling in their marriages, and because of our own experience, it is part of what drives us to share God's truth, hope and vision for marriage.

At the core of everything we do for marriages, we must go back to the purposes for marriage. If you don't know what marriage is for, you will be perpetually unhappy and unsatisfied as your marriage doesn't meet our expectations and the purposes YOU have for your marriage. After all, when you use something for an unintended purposes, say a screwdriver to change a sparkplug or pliers to pluck your eyebrows, you'll be frustrated, disappointed, aggravated, and likely damaging the screwdriver, the pliers, the sparkplug and your forehead.

So if marriage isn't to make you happy, what are the purposes for marriage as ordained by the Creator?

Purpose One: Mutually Complete Each Other. Right there in the garden in Genesis 2, God created man and said it wasn't good for him to be alone. In God's perfect timing, He sovereignly chooses to bring a man and woman together in marriage for them to be greater together than they would have been apart. It's the Rocky theology- "I got gaps, she got gaps, we fill each other's gaps." Your spouse, by divine design, completes you. Have you considered the ways that you and your spouse's weaknesses and differences make you stronger as an interdependent team?

Purpose Two: Multiply a Godly Legacy. Next, God tells us in Genesis to be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth. Why? Because it is God's plan for the family to be a nurturing place where children grow up learning character, values and integrity; how to live and relate to their God. Raising our children to become strong men and women of God is the first, most personal evangelism mission we have! When we raise them as godly men and women, they will reach people for Christ that we never could have.

Purpose Three: Mirror God's Image. God chose the marriage relationship to reflect His character to the world. It is only with God's love that we can love. It is only with His forgiveness that we can forgive. It takes God's patience to be patient. Through the marriage covenant of "til death do us part", we reflect God's Word- "I'll never leave you or forsake you." The people around us should be able to see our marriage and get a glimpse of what God is like. What does your marriage say about God?

These purposes of marriage are light years away from what Scott and I thought marriage was about when we first said "I do." Knowing these purposes and walking them out changes everything. When we said "I do" the second time, we made that covenant understanding why this marriage would look very different than our first one together. We broke the first one because we didn't know it's purpose- we are determined, with God's help, to use this marriage for the purposes intended by its Creator.

Is there happiness in marriage? Absolutely. And better than happiness is joy. Marriage isn't sunshine and roses and the instant gratification of sprinting, but the deep joy of choosing God and each other every day, doubling joy and halving sadness as you walk through life together.

Are any of these purposes a surprise to you? Why did you get married? 

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Raised Hands

I will be honest here; I am not a “raise my hands” person in church. I clap, and I sing my heart out, but I have rarely raised my hands. Let me say…it is encouraging to me and a witness to me when I see people in complete worship to their Savior with “raised hands.” So, there is nothing wrong with this at all! Hey, if you want to dance, that is fine with me. David danced when he worshiped, so can you.

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There is a story in the Bible about a man that raised his hands to the heavens, and this was a demonstration of intercessory prayer.

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Moses was getting very old, and he was in the process of mentoring Joshua for taking charge of the Israelites. The Amalekites attacked, and read what happened….

The Amalekites came and attacked the Israelites at Rephidim. Moses said to Joshua, ‘Choose some of our men and go out to fight the Amalekites. Tomorrow I will stand on top of the hill with the staff of God in my hands.’ ~Exodus 17:8-9

First, Moses chose Joshua to be the leader of a group of men. He entrusted him with the lives of others. Then, Moses made him aware that he was going to be on a hill in plain view. While Joshua was fighting, he would be able to see Moses with the staff of God.

So Joshua fought the Amalekites as Moses had ordered, and Moses, Aaron and Hur went to the top of the hill. As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on one side, one on the other – so that his hands remained steady till sunset. So Joshua overcame the Amalekite army with the sword. ~Exodus 17:10-13

What an amazing sight for Joshua to see! This only solidified Joshua’s faith in God. He knew that he may have beaten the Amalekites with the sword, but it was only because of the intercessory prayer by Moses which called on the POWER of God to beat the Amalekites. If it wasn’t for God, the Amalekites would have won.

Then the Lord said to Moses, ‘Write this on a scroll as something to be remembered and make sure that Joshua hears it, because I will completely blot out the memory of Amalek from under heaven. ~Exodus 17:14

Every day we face “Amalekites” of our own. The question is, are you trying to fight the adversities that Satan throws at you by yourself, or are you relying on God?

Battle for Marriages by Prayer

This weekend, Bethany and I are serving at the Weekend to Remember marriage conference. Marriages in America are under attack every day, and more and more Christian marriages are failing. One of the best parts of this weekend is volunteering time in the Intercessory Prayer room. If you have never volunteered to “battle” in the name of Jesus by prayer, I encourage you to do so. It will change the way you pray and will only build your faith in God.

We will come together this weekend with raised hands, not fighting with a sword, and not fighting with our fist, but God will win this fight.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. ~Ephesians 6:12

For those that are struggling in their marriage, or personally, know today that your enemy is not your wife; your enemy is not your husband. Your enemy is Satan and sin!! If you have a specific prayer request, send it to Intentionally Yours in a private message or email scott@intentionallyyours.org. It will stay confidential, and we will “raise hands” for you!

 

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I Was That Prodigal Wife

I Was That Prodigal Wife

The drive on the way home was somber an unusually quiet.  There were no sing-alongs, no laughter, no music, only grim silence.  It was  if my two young children were in mourning and had just left a freshly dug grave.

As I turned to reach for his hand, I could see the tears flowing uncontrollably from my young son’s eyes.  He forcefully pushed my hand away and with his voice breaking, he yelled out,” I can’t take this anymore. Why did we have to leave dad? Mom what have you become? I  want my family back!”

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The Unfairness of Grace Part 3: Expose' of the Gracious Heart

How much more of this grace stuff is there? You can't possibly understand what I have gone through. The pain, disappointment and betrayal I have experienced. I mean, when is enough, ENOUGH?

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I'll show grace after...when...or not until...

Well, maybe after you have paid your penance, that I have determined will suffice. Perhaps, after you have put in your time. Wear that sack cloth just a little while longer.

All of this adult 'time out' seems an appropriate price to pay, doesn't it?

Until we are asked to pay it. The thing is, with Christ, we aren't ever asked to pay it.

How grace responds

We experience true freedom when we realize that as we have received, we can give. God is the one who doles out justice. He promises we will reap what we sow. It is a law of the universe. We don't have to go looking to make others pay for their mistakes. They will have their own consequences to deal with, naturally.

When the prodigal son returned home and his father threw him a party, his brother was a bit perturbed. He didn't understand how his brother could 'get away' with how he had treated his father and their family. What he was not aware of were 1. the consequences the prodigal had already faced while in the 'far country;' and 2. his father would have thrown him a party if he had run away too.

Grace is available for everyone, not just the good brothers and not just the prodigals...because we are all shameful prodigals and we have all been self-righteous 'good brothers'.

This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. ~Romans 3:22-24 

The prodigal son, essentially, wanted his father to die. Isn't that usually when you receive an inheritance, after someone has died? He asked for it while his father was still alive.

Heart Check

The older brother wanted his prodigal brother to pay. He was jealous. The grace their father showed exposed his own heart. He was focused more on what his brother had done wrong, than the fact that he had finally done something right and returned.

A son tells his father he wants him dead and the father throws him a party? That is how we often want to view this story. That's not really what happened.

A son told his father he wanted him dead. A son ran away with out another word to his family. A son rebelled and went wild. A father didn't know if his son was dead or alive. A son lost everything. A son was humiliated. A son was broken. A son came home.

A son came home...and a father rejoiced.

The gracious heart is filled with compassion and wisdom. The resentful heart is immature. The resentful heart doesn't realize its standing before the Father.

The gracious heart operates with understanding.

Do a heart check. Have you forgotten where you stand with the Father? He wants to throw you a party too.

 

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How to Raise a Son...Singlehandedly

“I will NEVER be like her!”  I was judging the thirty-something single mom with a half-grown child.  Because of my own actions, I was a single mother at twenty-three, cocky and naïve, thinking my story would be different.  Well, here I am on the edge of thirty-two with an eight year old little guy and Prince Charming has yet to swoop in and save the day, so I'm learning how to raise a son...singlehandedly.

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How to Raise a Son

Worried about raising a boy on my own, I spent many years of my son’s life treating dating as if it were an interview for his future father.  I wasn’t thinking about finding someone that shared my interests.  I was focused on finding someone I wouldn’t mind my son growing up to be like.  And the sooner I found this man, the better.  My son was getting older and noticing the absence of a dad in his life.  Every way that I tried to be both mom and dad, that I tried to fill the void of the missing father figure in his life, was an epic fail.

When I got my life straight with God and finally started living for Him I thought this would fix my predicament.  Surely God was going to send a matrimonial blessing my way and all my worries about raising a boy alone would go away.  My desperation to find this man didn’t stop, it just became the center of my prayer life.

My son’s desire for a dad grew stronger and he began to pray every night for God to send him “a nice dad that would play with him and keep us safe.”  Every night I would listen to his earnest prayer, then I would go in my room and cry.  I didn’t know how to tell him that God might not have a dad out there for him.  How do you explain to a child the reasons why God says “no” when you don’t even understand yourself?

 

Equip me

I kept hearing pastors quoting Psalm 68:6 “God sets the lonely in families,” and would pray this verse continuously.  But then I started paying more attention to the hearts of the women around me. Many were not that different from me.  They were raising children on their own because their husbands worked long hours or out of town, were deployed overseas, or were just emotionally absent in their homes.  These women had men in their lives, their family was the definition of “traditional,” yet they were still struggling.  It hit me then that God had already placed me in a family, a family of just two, this amazing little boy and me!

I finally stopped praying for God to send a man into our lives to teach my son how to be a man, and instead to equip and help me to raise a Godly man on my own.  It’s amazing the changes I began to see when I finally started praying the right prayer.  My son’s nightly prayers for a dad stopped and one day he turned to me and said “Mom, when you hear me talk about my daddy, I’m talking about Jesus; He is the one I talk to every day, He’s my dad!”

He started talking to me about how he wanted to pray like the men in church and how much he loved Jesus and wanted to see others saved.  Every time that I would bow my head and clasp my hands in prayer, his little eyes were watching and his little hands were copying mine.  Every time I cried out to the Lord in pain or in joy, praised and worshipped him, and stood firm in my faith, my son was watching and he was learning what it meant to set his heart and his eyes on God.

Jesus fought for your heart...and won

Single or married, many women carry the burden of raising a Godly child on their own.  I see married women every day that not only fight for the hearts of their children but carry their husbands spiritually as well.  You may be carrying this burden today, wondering if anything you are doing is making a difference.  Just because you don’t have a strong male leadership in your home doesn’t mean that the fate of your child is doomed.

Let go of your own ideas and desires about what your “family” should look like.  Evaluate your prayers, are you asking God to change a circumstance or hearts?  A changed circumstance will pass on by, but a changed heart will give life for as long as it beats.  When your situation seems bleak and you don’t know how to change the hearts closest to you, just remember the promises of the Lord when we trust and follow him.

God’s love...is ever and always, eternally present to all who fear him, making everything right for them and their children as they follow his Covenant ways and remember to do whatever he said.”  ~Psalm 103:17 MSG

 

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Your Marriage Won't Save You

It can't. Your spouse won't save you either. They aren't your savior.  We are often told, "You can't save your spouse, only Jesus can." This is true. Your Marriage Can't Save You

Then we turn right around and behave as if all our concerns, hurts, worries, childhood issues, wounds, sadness, depression, and loneliness will be magically cured if only...our marriage was restored, our spouse came home or just did this or that. Right? If you could save your spouse or them you, if your marriage could save you both...there would be no need for Christ, no need for His death.

Your spouse and/or their return home, will not cure you. It won't heal the pain. It certainly won't save you. There is only one man, one God that can do that, Jesus Christ.

Luke 19:10 For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.

Being separated from a spouse, when it isn't your choice, is hurtful, to put it mildly. It can create soul wounds that only Christ can heal. Their return, however much it is wanted, will not heal you or solve all your problems. Actually, upon their return, is a whole new set of issues to work through.

Jeremiah 31:25 I will refresh the weary and satisfy the faint.

We need to understand this longing within us. Nothing will satisfy it. You can have the best marriage in the world and still feel unsatisfied and empty. God created us with a longing that only He can fill. We must go to Him daily, if not moment by moment, to satisfy the emptiness in our hearts. Psalm 145:16 You open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing.

The desire toward our spouse is only a symptom of our emptiness. Our soul poverty can only be filled with the richness of Christ.

Philippians 4:19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus. 

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My Two Dads: A Double Portion

As I pray for restoration of one area in my life, I am reminded of how much God desires restoration in all areas of our lives.  Before my husband and I separated, over a year ago, I had not set foot in my dad’s house for three years. After my mother (the love of his life) died, he remarried. It was not a good situation and my brothers and I became estranged from my dad. We rarely saw him, which was a complete change of how close we used to be as a family. Restoration When I started this restoration journey for my own marriage and family, I began to see God work in all the other fractured parts of my life. Soon after my husband and I separated, my dad re-entered our lives.  I hadn't even realized what a profound affect this was having in my heart and marriage. As my heart was filled with love from a father to a daughter, I felt myself begin to ‘grow up’.  As I began to experience healing in this area, I was able to begin to relate to my husband less as the ‘wounded little girl’ and more as a ‘grown woman and wife’.  As my relationship with my earthly father improved, so did my understanding of my Heavenly Father.

There was going to be more to God’s amazing redemptive power and desire for wholeness in my life than just this though. You see, the story of the relationship with my father goes beyond three years of estrangement. It starts with my birth. For the first half of my childhood, I thought I was brown. My dad is of Latino descent, my mother is white. One evening, my mother shared with me that my dad was not my biological father. They began dating when my mom was pregnant with me, at 17 years old.

It would take me decades to realize how much the technicality of my biological origins impacted my soul and every other aspect of my life. I was in denial for years that there was a deep ache in my heart and unanswered questions about my identity. Again, during this marital separation, God would show me, how much He desires restoration and wholeness for every part—even the parts we swear never affected us, the parts that seem impossible to reconcile.

I turned 40 this past April. Maybe a week later, I received a message on Face Book…from my biological father, Alan. He offered condolences on the passing of my mother and indicated a desire to be in my life. God had been working on my heart, all this time, in such a way, that I was ready and willing to accept this man into my life, ‘As Is’.  A man, a father, I never knew, suddenly here, like the missing piece of a puzzle that I didn’t even have the picture to compare—that I would never have known how to put together. But God knew. He knew the timing. He knew what I needed, even before I did.

I never would have, nor could have, imagined I would ever meet this man. My dad (who raised me) was enough in my life. He is an awesome dad and did his best. Suddenly, there was this healing. No longer was my identity of one who was ‘rejected’ but one who was ‘chosen’. My dad chose to raise and love me as his own, regardless of biology. Now, no longer was I ‘forgotten’ but ‘remembered’. My biological father never forgot me or my existence and he sought me out. God has given me an opportunity that I know many never have.

double portionHow could I reject it? There was no feeling of resentment or bitterness or anger. Only healing, forgiveness and openness to what God wanted to do with this. I still can’t believe it when I look at it myself. A life time of inner struggle and striving to figure out and be who I am meant to be, and here I am.

How blessed am I to have not one, but now TWO dads in my life. TWO men that both claim to love and care about me. Prayers for restoration are never only about a situation or just a marriage or one relationship. Restoration goes beyond that. God desires to restore our very souls. The deep hidden places we sometimes can’t even admit exist. But He knows.  He keeps His promises and He is always working...above and beyond what we could ever possibly imagine. I know it won’t stop there either. I can’t help but be excited and look forward to the day my marriage is made whole too. Keep praying.

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Hey, Dad! Where did you go?

Hey, Dad! Where did you go?

Father's Day is fast approaching and this year is going to be different. Yes, I'm still a Dad, but our son turned eighteen this year and he's striking out on his own, working at a summer camp until August. I'll spend this coming Sunday afternoon (if all goes well) floating around the pool, scaring the neighbors with my farmer's tan (even though I don't claim to be a farmer.)

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Becoming the Father I Hated

"SON! DO AS I SAY AND NOT AS I DO!" I thought: here we go again, as the bitterness toward my dad began to rage inside me, overflowing through my mouth with words that would kill. For years, I saw my dad say one thing and do another. My father demanded respect from me, but I was bitter, angry, and disappointed in him and swore that I would never become this man. Little did I know that I would head down the same road and become the man I hated. Twenty plus years later, I still battle with the unwanted training I received. becoming the father I hated

Twelve years ago I received Jesus as my Savior, yet I still found myself in the same rut as my father. I found myself raising my children under the same controlling power my dad had raised me. I had become what I hated most in my life. I often examine my childhood to learn what not to do now. My dad tried to lead his family with power. He always had something in mind that he wanted to accomplish; unfortunately, he was a very selfish man. He always used his power to accomplish his will and I saw it destroy my relationship with him and many others.

Controlling power is the ability to force someone to do your will, even if they would not choose to, because of your position or your might. DO IT OR I WILL BEAT YOUR TAIL! DO IT OR I WILL FIRE YOU! This kind of power does work and it will get the job done for a season but there are deep consequences: controlling power erodes relationships. My dad always used his power over me to get his will done. If I can be totally honest with you today, I have forgiven my father, and I love him, but the relationship is far from being what I desire. Why? Because controlling power erodes relationships and it takes time to heal and build those relationships. This is why many teenagers are in rebellion because parents have taken a power trip on their children.

I found two different scriptures that altered the way I live my life, forever changing my view of life as a husband, father, and pastor.

Train up a child in the way he should go, And even when he is old he will not depart from it. -Proverbs 22:6 

Notice it says that when he is old he won’t depart from it... this is why many adults are lost. Because the way they were trained as a child, many adults are not rooted in Christ. Note that doesn’t say sending children to church on the local bus route will lead them to follow Christ. What children see and how they are being trained at home will determine where they end up in life. This is the reason I had become the man I hated: I had been trained by my dad to be just like him, because I lived under his controlling power everyday.

Whoever wants to be a leader among you must be your servant. -Matthew 20:26

Husbands and fathers we must become a servant to all, not a slave but a servant. We must lead like Jesus, he never led with power but authority. Authority is the skill of getting people to do your will because of your personal influence. Jesus said if you are going to lead, then you must become a servant not a slave. A slave does what others want. A servant does what others need.

A dad will try to take care of his children, but a Father will win his children by influence and leave a legacy of love, grace, righteousness, authority and service.  The key to becoming a great father is accomplishing the task of caring for your family while building and maintaining relationships.

A husband/father is a man who identifies and meets the legitimate needs of his family, removing all barriers so they can serve one another. To lead, you must serve. Today is the day to become the dad the Father created you to be, let's step up!

 

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Remembering Battles Fought

Walking around Washington, DC during Memorial Day weekend is a powerful experience. The city is alive with people from all over the world, coming to a place which symbolizes freedom to the entire world, while honoring those who paid the ultimate price for it.

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As we were walking along the mall, from one monument and memorial to the next, we saw so many people of all ages and from all walks of life. We saw so many veterans, returning to honor their fallen comrades, alongside whom they fought for freedom. Their freedom and ours.

I stopped looking at the jackets, hats, and other indicators of their affiliation with different military branches, clubs, and wars in which they had fought. I started to notice their faces and their hands. I wanted to sit down next to each person and ask them their own story. I wanted to ask them what they had experienced in their lives and what drew them to this honored place, on this very solemn weekend.

Every person has a story, a story of a great romance set amidst a great battle. In each story there is a very real enemy, who utilizes anyone, anything and any circumstance to leverage his ability to take you out. Sometimes the enemy will lie in wait, letting circumstances wear you down before pouncing on you. This enemy is relentless.

But our God is the greater relentlessness. He pursues our hearts and fights the battles in our lives for us, when we let Him. When we visit places like Washington, DC, to remember the wars fought and won, to remember and memorialize the sacrifice made by so many; we need to be intentional about remembering and recounting the wars and battles fought and won in our own lives. Every battle fought affects the generations that follow.

We share our story frequently- it reminds us of where we've been and how we got there, serving as a reminder to not tread that path of isolation again. Every person has a story of battles fought. Ask someone theirs. Or share yours....we'd love to hear it!

 

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When Everything Falls Apart

I will never forget the day my whole world fell apart nor the hurt and irrational emotions that followed and the scars they left behind.  I should have known…I had suspicions, yet I refused to entertain the thoughts that HE could FAIL in such a devastating way! when everything falls apart

My grandfather, my Spiritual advisor, had failed everyone, and messed up BIG time!  Are you ready for this?  He committed adultery……with a member of the CHURCH he was PASTORING.  To make matters worse, my grandparents had been married longer than this woman had been alive!  Ultimate betrayal!  How could he do such a thing? 

For eighteen years, Granddaddy was my world, the apple of my eye.  I loved and trusted him so much! Suddenly I found myself in a difficult situation.  I began questioning my whole life.  Was my life a lie?  Where was God at now?  Had he abandoned us all?  I had seen people healed, heard and experienced God’s delivering power only to now question its total existence.  Is everything I have ever known and believed a lie?

Questioning God is never a comfortable place to be and as a college student, I RAN far away from God and my crumbling family.  I remember feeling so ashamed because of all the gossiping of the “Christians”.  I couldn’t even go to church without receiving glares of disappointment towards my entire family.  I felt abandoned and unloved to the point that thoughts of ending it all entered my mind. 

Why live if my whole life was a lie?  Who was I anyway?  I even dropped out of college…well, sort of; I actually purposely flunked out so my parents couldn’t make me go back!  No one understood why my life was affected so much from this situation.

May I be open and honest with you?  Emotional or physical affairs, constant fighting, and divorce affect your family and your legacy in ways you can never imagine.  Your children, grandchildren, friends, church, and everyone in your circle of influence are affected by your decisions and reactions to what is going on around you.

No matter the struggle, your actions and responses matter! When times get rough and everything seems to be falling apart around you, your decisions speak volumes.  When you decide to run away, you are saying to everyone around you that your circumstances are too big for God to handle.  You are teaching that when times get rough, the solution is throwing up your hands in defeat and running away.  What kind of legacy does this leave?  What kind of hurt and confused emotions are you passing down to those in your circle of influence?

We are called to be Christ-like.  Christ freely gave His life so that we can be forgiven and he freely gives that forgiveness with no strings attached.  We should display the beauty and love of Christ in every situation.  Christ has never thrown up his hands and walked out on us when times got rough.  He comes along side us and shows us grace, love, and understanding.  We just have to trust in Him and His Divine plan.

When everything is falling apart and the only answer you see is to run away, I urge you to focus on these things:

Rest in the arms of God and His promises.  Instead of questioning Him in these times of heartbreak; take refuge in Him.  Stand tall and allow Christ to be your DEFENSE.  Trust me, He has great things in store for you.  Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

Guard your heart and your actions.  Everything you do flows from your heart!  Proverbs 4:23 says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

Think before you speak!  Ask yourself these questions:

Am I speaking life or death into this situation? Proverbs 18:21  says, "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit."

Are my words and actions displaying the image of Christ?  Philippians 4:8 says, "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."

Remember, your life affects many and we are all leaving a legacy.  Is your legacy positive or negative?  Are we showing those around us the image and love of Christ?  We are the only Jesus some people will ever see.  We are ancestors of those to come, we are shaping our family, our community, and our world with each decision we make!

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What Are You Giving Your Kids?

What legacy do you want to leave your children? I remember hearing this question in a sermon. It really resonated deep within me. So, I began to think about the things I prioritized in their lives, how we spent our time, the rules of our home, and much more. I tried to put myself in their shoes to see what they would likely remember when I was gone. Well, I quickly realized there were some things I needed to change.

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Let me share my journey to motherhood. As a young girl at the age of 15, I started to have lots of female problems and complications. I had four surgeries by the age of 22, and the doctors found cervical cancer by the age of 23. For years I was told it was highly unlikely I would ever have children ....... BUT GOD!!!!

I had an intense desire to be a mom more than words can describe. So, I began to quote Mark 11:24 daily and stand on God's word. I had a wonderful christian woman who prayed with me regularly. One day when I was still in high school, she shared a vision that God gave her. She told me to stop worrying and trust God with all my heart because He had a beautiful son He would send. Soon after that she also said that the little boy would have a little brother, and they would be like John and James in the bible. It was like God immediately spoke peace to the storm raging within my hear

 

t. So even when the devil tried to throw a monkey wrench into my life, I trusted that He had it all under control.

Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. ~ Mark 11:24

Well, fast forward to the depths of motherhood, and you would find two great boys that God blessed me with just as He promised many years before. The reality is that I have been far from perfect as a mother. I have made lots of mistakes on this journey. The biggest mistake was running from God for many years and not having a Godly home and marriage.

Admitting that is so embarrassing, after seeing how mightily God moved in my life time and time again. However, part of me was confused, upset, and even angry because my youngest son had numerous medical and special needs. I had a hard time taking him to church. I didn't feel like I could leave him with others because they didn't understand him. You could have described me as a "helicopter" mom.

My husband and I dealt with parenting very differently. He pretended the problems didn't exist, and I was fighting to find answers and get our son the help he needed. Unfortunately, neither of us turned to God. So our boys also witnessed an unhealthy marriage and divided parents.

Thankfully in 2008 I ran back to Jesus, and He welcomed me with open arms. Soon after, I began to think about the legacy I would leave my children. At one point, my boys probably would have said I kept a clean house or I worked really hard at my job. Well, I realized that those things were not what I wanted them to remember. Most of all I wanted them to remember they were raised in a Godly home with a mother that loved them and Jesus with her whole heart. So, I quickly began to re-prioritize things.

You see, at this point in my life I don't care if the house is perfect or about my "to-do list". I want to spend as much time as I can loving my boys, sharing the love of Jesus with them, making wonderful family memories, and teaching them to become mighty men of God. That is the legacy that I aspire to leave my boys. It is also important to note that although my boys are growing up in a single parent home right now, they are not from a "broken home" because God has mended our home with His love. It is built on His SOLID rock.

What legacy will you leave your children?

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Move Heaven & Earth

Move heaven and earth. That is what we urge couples to do when they ask for counseling, and one of our first encouragements/requirements is for them to attend The Art of Marriage. It doesn't fit into your schedule? MOVE HEAVEN AND EARTH. GO!

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Yesterday, Craig talked about Learning the Hard Way. There's a better way to be married, and you know there's a better way. The couples who reach out to us for guidance know that, too, or they wouldn't be seeking counseling. So why, if they are asking for counsel, do they NOT take the first counsel we give...to go to The Art of Marriage? We find ourselves asking: Do You Want To Be Well?

This clip from The Art of Marriage is near and dear to our hearts for so many reasons. Most powerfully, he mentions Let's Make a Deal's fourteen season run...and at the hands of our selfishness, our marriage had a fourteen season run. But when the Counselor (GOD) got a hold of our hearts, we listened to His guidance and direction, we went to FamilyLife's Weekend to Remember, and came away with the tools we needed to build a new marriage on Him. Because we listened to our Counselor. Take a peek:

How would you rate your marriage? A six? A three? Are you happy with it? What are you willing to do to change it?

If you want different results than you've got in your marriage, do something different. Get desperate like the woman with the issue of blood, who was willing to pursue Jesus like her life depended on it. 

The Art of Marriage isn't the cure all. We think of it as intense chemo for the cancer in your marriage. Or, if your marriage is healthy, it's like the flu shot. After the weekend of intense treatment, you've got to follow up with courses of treatment to continue to work you started at the event. You can never walk away after an event or teaching and say "it didn't work." When you are confronted with the truth, YOU have got to do the hard (heart) work with God. What Will You Do with the Truth?

What happens to most of the couples who do as we've asked, they move heaven and earth to get to The Art of Marriage or FamilyLife's Weekend to Remember? 

  • Changed. God meets husbands and wives at these events with His conviction, healing, promises, encouragement, love, grace, and mercy. Couples come away from the events changed. 
  • Healed. The teachings lead couples through conversations to peel back layers and encourage productive communication. Couples leave the event having talked about things they didn't know they needed to talk about, in a healing way.
  • Redeemed. Of the 1,400 people we've seen at The Art of Marriage events we've facilitated, we've seen 130 people choose to make Jesus Christ Lord of their lives. Yes, at a DVD driven marriage event. Lives, marriages, families and legacies are redeemed.
  • Teachable. We get to see the condition of their hearts, to see how teachable they are. Because really, if you aren't going to take the first counsel we give, are you going to take any counsel we give?

What have you got to lose? Find a FamilyLife Weekend to Remember or The Art of Marriage event near you. Email me at sherry@intentionallyyours.org if you need help finding an event. Know that we are praying for YOU right now to move heaven and earth to go to an event.

Lord, speak to the hearts of husbands and wives, call them up to something greater. Open their ears to wise counsel, lead them to find the event nearest them, then move heaven and earth to get them there! Provide what each couple needs to make it happen, whether the need is financial, help to watch the kids, aligning of schedules, a compassionate supervisor at work, helpful neighbors and friends to empower the couple to GO! You are our Jehovah Jireh, You see each couple, You know their needs, and You are their provision! Clear their paths, Father, tearing down any obstacles. Give them ears to hear and soft hearts to understand. Our hearts are broken for couples who are settling for marriages that are like scraps on the floor instead of pulling up to the marriage banquet You have set for them. Press on their hearts to COME, Lord, regardless of their marital status, bring the separated, the divorced, the marginally married, the happily married, the struggling, the thriving, so they can learn Your plan for marriage in a fun and engaging way. And Lord, thank You for meeting each husband and wife there with Your compassion, love, grace and mercy, that each couple will walk away from the event changed! In Jesus' Name, AMEN!!

DON'T WAIT. If you had cancer in your body, would you wait? Would you choose to NOT pursue treatment? 

 

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Learning the Hard Way

"I pledge to you today that, with God's help, I will . . . for His sake, the sake of our family and the generations that will be affected by the choices we make this day." These were the words that we spoke to each other that cool October day 2012. It was there in a local church on an old country road in session six of the Art of Marriage that I felt like I had said my marriage vows for the first time and meant every word of it.

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Rewind a year and a half before that day and it was the day that I let my anger take control of me (which it did very easily in those days) because I found out about the affair. If the holes in the sheet rock from punching the walls weren't bad enough, I held our little girl in between us and asked my wife, "Was it worth losing this? Were you not thinking of how this was going to affect the children?" That is the edited version, anyway.

Is it okay for children to see their parents have conflict? YES! Children need to know how to resolve conflict in a healthy way.  If you want to see an unhealthy way, go back one paragraph.  One of the most important things they can see is that even though their parents have conflict they still show each other love and respect.

However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. Ephesians 5:33 AMP

Because I was dealing with hurt as a result of my wife's betrayal, I did not realize that my own choices over the years had been affecting my children negatively, even though I thought I was doing "good" by providing for my family. Fast forward now to December 2012 Charleston, SC at a Weekend to Remember:

God: "Craig you do realize you were having a work affair right?"

Me: "Ouch!"

God used this painful situation to reveal to me how the decisions we make don't just affect us, the sins we commit have consequences that could affect our children, their children, and their children's children...

...I lay the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations of those who reject me. Exodus 20:5 NLT

So, right about now you are saying "Yeah, but what about that verse in Deuteronomy, you know the one that says specifically that children are not held responsible for the sins of their parents?"

“Parents must not be put to death for the sins of their children, nor children for the sins of their parents. Those deserving to die must be put to death for their own crimes. Deuteronomy 24:16 NLT

It is correct that they are not being punished for your sins.  But you see, our children are going to model our behavior and make decisions based upon how they see us make decisions.  So when a father has a consistently sinful lifestyle, his children are more likely to lead a similarly sinful lifestyle.  As a result, they are not being punished for the sins of their parents but their own sins which happen to be the same.

What decisions will you make today that will leave a Godly Legacy for your children or generations to come? Don't learn the hard way like I did.  Men we are called to be providers- it is in our DNA but don't forsake your family so your children can see what a hard working man looks like. If you have not done so already, take the time attend The Art of Marriage and learn how your marriage can be what God intended it to be.  It might not change just your life it could also change the lives of family members you never know!

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