Your Thoughts Determine Your Destiny

Your Thoughts Determine Your Destiny

We've all engaged in the battle of the cookie, haven't we? It's there, the aroma calling out to me, reminding me of its chewy gooey goodness, and how I could have just one to satisfy my craving. So I agree, yes, I could have just one chocolate chip cookie. After all, it's just a cookie, it's not the whole batch, hot from the oven, right?

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Proverbs 8: Listen to Wisdom

Proverbs 8: Listen to Wisdom

When I learned of Scott's affair, I had decisions to make...and I could make them using the immediate information I'd just received and the feelings associated with it, or I could pray and get wisdom. It is so easy to make quick, rash decisions in the heat of the moment, especially in the midst of emotional situations, letting feelings make decisions. Instead, with the guidance of good, godly friends, I sought understanding and wisdom, seeking to know how we got in this situation. What path did we take in our almost thirteen years of marriage to arrive at this place, with my husband in a long term affair?

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Showing Respect for the Separated Husband

Showing Respect for the Separated Husband

There are times, of course, when it feels easier to respect your husband. Such as when he is being loving, is well rested and polite, meeting your needs and being understanding. I know first hand how challenging it can be when your life and marriage are not living up to even basic expectations. Or worse--you are estranged or separated from your husband and he isn't exactly behaving respectable.

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How did I not know?

How did I not know?

"I feel like such a fool!"

We hear that all the time from spouses who have found out that their husbands or wives have been having an affair and they didn't know about it. And they feel like such a fool because they feel they should have known about it. They beat themselves up with the question "how did I miss all the signs?" They feel like everyone in the world knows except them.

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Are You Paralyzed With Fear?

Are You Paralyzed With Fear?

Are you being attacked with paralyzing fear? Maybe it’s your marriage, job, health, finances, depression, struggles with a prodigal child, attacks of gossip, and you feel as if you are going under. Hold on! My God has heard your moanings and your groanings and He has seen your tears! Keep your head above the waters, kick with all you’ve got! Help is on the way!

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Created to Wait

Created to Wait

We’re all waiting for something aren’t we? Whether it’s for the coffee to brew in the morning, the pounds to melt away, to check out at the grocery store, a teenager to return home one evening, a positive word from the doctor, or a breakthrough in our marriage, everyone can make a list of the things for which they are waiting. And I know I don't like to wait.

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How To Change Your Spouse

How To Change Your Spouse

Before you say anything, I want you to know that I am not taking him back if HE doesn’t change this, this and this…” I proceeded to call off the things on my list, things that aggravated me to the core!  “I mean how dare my husband not show me any affection, I feel like he always put his job before me, he never lets me help with making decisions, he is never affectionate, I am a people person, he loves staying at home, I love a clean house and he, well, let’s just say we are totally opposite…..”

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Comparison: Who Had I Become?

“You don’t love me anymore, do you?” I could hear the frustration in my husband’s voice as he shouted loudly above the vacuum cleaner. Refusing to acknowledge his question, I continued to proceed with the cleaning. Then with tears flowing down his cheeks, he approached me and asked once more. “Please answer me, I have to know. Do you still love me?“

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True North: Truth about God and You

True North: Truth about God and You

Some days life feels overwhelming, like you can't even win for losing. Days when every obstacle seems insurmountable, and God seems far away, like He's on the horizon instead of holding you in His loving arms. The enemy takes moments like these, agrees with you by giving you reasons that God is so far away, which satan intends to send you to a place of despair because the mountains before you- in your life, your marriage, your children, your faith, your family, your work- seem immoveable.

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FATHERS DAY PRAYER BLITZ: Legacy

Every man, every father leaves a legacy of some kind. What if we prayed for the men in our lives to realize this, and live every moment to build a godly legacy for their children?

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Each day this week, we will post specific scripture references pertaining to fathers/fatherhood/heavenly Father for us to intentionally focus on in prayer. Let’s HONOR the fathers (biological, step, adoptive, spiritual)  in our lives by standing in the gap for each of them.   If you missed the preblitz prayerhusband prayerparenting prayerheart prayer, or abandoned children prayer, be sure to go back and read/pray them!

Today we focus on the legacy as fathers the men in our lives pass on to their children.

Day Five Scripture Focus: Legacy

He did what was right in the eyes of the LORD, just as his father Amaziah had done. ~2 Chronicles 26:4 (NIV)

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. ~Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)

Day Five Prayer Focus: Legacy

  • Pray that fathers will embrace the desire to pass along a Godly legacy to their children by training them up to love and serve God.
  • Pray (wives) that your husband/children's father will remember and embrace the Godly wisdom and healthy behaviors his father taught them.
  • Pray your children will accept and embrace the Godly wisdom passed on to them from their father and not depart from it.

Repentance & Forgiveness Pray and ask God to show you times you have disregarded your father's godly and wise instruction and ways and repent for it. Repent for times you have disregarded your Heavenly Father's wisdom and plan for your life. Fathers: Repent if you have neglected your God given responsibility to train up your own children in the fear of the Lord.

Forgive your own father/father-in-law for times they have not embraced Godly fatherhood, disappointed you, led you along the wrong path or turned away from God's plan for their life. Pray and ask God to show you how to be a Godly father if you have not had a good example in your own life. Pray for a humble heart to follow God's instructions for fatherhood from His word and a desire to pass along a Godly legacy and example to your own children.

Pray a blessing, (even if in faith) over the fathers (your own/children's father,/father-in-law) in your life and praise God for their divine wisdom, desire to lead their children along the way they should go so that they will not depart from it. Praise God for His perfect example of Fatherhood and unconditional love and acceptance. Declare that you are loved, wanted and accepted in the beloved. In Jesus name, Amen.

 

LOOKING FORWARD TO THE NEXT ART OF MARRIAGES! Join us September 5-6 at Faith Fellowship in Kinston! 

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Enjoy Al Mohler, Crawford & Karen Loritts, Dennis Rainey, Chris August, Andrew Peterson, Shaunti Feldhahn, Ron Deal, David Nasar, Jimmy McNeal, Kerri Pomarolli and Ron McGehee...and Intentionally Yours' Scott & Sherry Jennings at I Still Do, a one day marriage event that will strengthen your marriage and rekindle the romance!

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We're linking up with some AMAZING bloggers…check out the links at the bottom right of the page.

Intentionally Yours is a 501(c)3 organization committed to sharing God's truth, hope and vision for marriage until every home is a godly home. Will you partner with us in this mission? Thank you for your support!

Father's Day Prayer Blitz: Abandoned Chidren

Children get their first glimpse of God and form their first ideas about God from what they see in their fathers. In this crazy world where so many children grow up without fathers in their lives, we're raising a generation of children who don't know what to think about God. abandoned

Each day this week, we will post specific scripture references pertaining to fathers/fatherhood/heavenly Father for us to intentionally focus on in prayer. Let’s HONOR the fathers (biological, step, adoptive, spiritual)  in our lives by standing in the gap for each of them.  If you missed the preblitz prayerhusband prayerparenting prayerheart prayer, or the legacy prayer be sure to go back and read/pray them!

Today we focus on the children who are or feel abandoned by their fathers- maybe that is you? Or your husband?

Day Four Scripture Focus: Abandoned Children

A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families... ~Psalm 68:5, 6a

Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me. ~Psalm 27:10 

I will proclaim the LORD’s decree: He said to me, “You are my son; today I have become your father." ~Psalm 2:7 

Day Four Prayer Focus: Abandoned Children

  • Pray for fatherless children to receive and be comforted by their Heavenly Father.
  • Pray for the fatherless to understand and accept their God given identity as children of God.
  • Pray for abandoned children to be placed in stable, intact homes.
  • Pray for fathers and children who have felt abandoned by their earthly fathers, to realize the love of their Heavenly Father, and the security that He has not nor will He ever abandon or forsake them.

Repentance/Forgiveness

Repent for any unforgiveness or resentment you have held toward your own father, if you were or ever felt abandoned in any form.

Repent if you are a father that has abandoned your own children or behaved in any manner that caused them to feel abandoned. Ask God to restore, heal and bless your relationship with your children and even future grandchildren.

Forgive your father if you have ever felt abandoned, alone, unprotected, unloved or unworthy of your father's love and affection.

Wives/mothers: Pray for your husband, if he was fatherless or felt abandoned, that he would be surrounded by Godly father figures and that he would seek God's will and instruction on how to be a loving and involved father to his own children. Pray that he will release any bitterness or unforgiveness and embrace the freedom that God-inspired forgiveness can bring.

Pray for your children to have a heart of forgiveness toward their own father if they have ever felt abandoned or rejected by him. Pray they would truly know their identity in Christ as a child of God, loved and accepted by their Heavenly Father.

Husbands/fathers: Pray and ask God to surround you with Godly, fatherly figures and mentors. Pray to release any unforgiveness or resentment and embrace the freedom that God-inspired forgiveness brings. Pray for healing of any father-inflicted wounds upon your heart, rooted in rejection and abandonment. Pray to know God's love and acceptance for you, deeply, as the perfect Father He is.

Prayer Declarations

Thank you God that my father chose to give me life. I praise you Heavenly Father that I am your child and you call me your son/daughter. I praise you for choosing to be my Father and always being there for me. I pray blessings upon my own father and that he may know your perfect Fatherly love. I pray my own children will feel loved, protected and cared for. I pray restoration of all the father-child relationships I am associated with. Thank you God for the family I have and am a part of. In Jesus name, Amen.

 

 

Father's Day Prayer Blitz: The Heart

When God asked King Solomon what he wanted, King Solomon replied he wanted a heart. What if we prayed for the men in our lives to have that same kind of heart Solomon asked God to give him? Here’s what I want: Give me a God-listening heart so I can lead your people well, discerning the difference between good and evil. For who on their own is capable of leading your glorious people? ~1 Kings 3:9 MSG

Each day this week, we will post specific scripture references pertaining to fathers/fatherhood/heavenly Father for us to intentionally focus on in prayer. Let’s HONOR the fathers (biological, step, adoptive, spiritual)  in our lives by standing in the gap for each of them.If you missed the preblitz prayer, husband prayer or parenting prayer, be sure to go back and read/pray them!

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Today we focus on the heart of the father for the men in our lives.

Day Three Scripture Focus: The Heart

And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction. ~Malachi 4:6

Day Three Prayer Focus: The Heart

  • Pray for your self/husband to have a heart for your/his children.
  • Pray for your own father/father-in-law to have a heart for his children, regardless of age.
  • Pray for your children to have a heart for you/their father.

Repent/Forgive

Fathers/husbands: Repent for moments that you may have neglected your child or not attended to their needs in an appropriate manner. Pray for God to give you divine parenting wisdom, restore divine order in your family and relationship with your children. Repent for times you may not have heeded your earthly or heavenly father's attempts at having a relationship with you.

Mothers/wives: Repent for any way you may have stood between or hindered your children's relationship with their father or your husband's relationship with his/your children. Pray for God to restore relationships and divine order in your family. Repent for any ways you have rejected your earthy or heavenly Father's attempts at relationship with you. Forgive your father for any ways you felt rejected or not cared for.

Forgive your own father for moments he may not have attended to your needs or you felt like he neglected you, in any way.

Pray and declare in faith:

As a son or daughter: Thank you God that my father's heart is turned toward me and my heart is turned toward him. I pray my own father will feel loved, cherished and cared for not only by his earthly father but by our Heavenly Father as well.

As a father: Thank you that my heart is turned toward my children and their heart is turned toward me. May I love and provide for them. May I have the divine wisdom to understand them and be attentive and understanding to their individual needs. May I enjoy my children whole heartedly. May my children feel loved, cherished and cared for by me.

As a mother/wife: Thank you that my children's hearts are turned toward their father and his heart is turned toward them. May I do nothing to stand in the way of my children's relationship with their father. May my children feel loved, cherished and cared for by their father.

Lord Jesus, give the men in my life eyes to see, ears to hear, and hearts that are engaged in You and the battle around them, that they will know who they are, where they are, and the good You are up to in their lives. In Jesus name, Amen.

 

LOOKING FORWARD TO THE NEXT ART OF MARRIAGES! Join us August 15-16 at Living Waters in Pikeville or September 5-6 at Faith Fellowship in Kinston! 

AOM

Want to unplug on FamilyLife's Fifth Annual Love Like You Mean It Cruise 2015? Book with our group and sail away with us! 

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Enjoy Al Mohler, Crawford & Karen Loritts, Dennis Rainey, Chris August, Andrew Peterson, Shaunti Feldhahn, Ron Deal, David Nasar, Jimmy McNeal, Kerri Pomarolli and Ron McGehee...and Intentionally Yours' Scott & Sherry Jennings at I Still Do, a one day marriage event that will strengthen your marriage and rekindle the romance!

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We're linking up with some AMAZING bloggers…check out the links at the bottom right of the page.

Intentionally Yours is a 501(c)3 organization committed to sharing God's truth, hope and vision for marriage until every home is a godly home. Will you partner with us in this mission? Thank you for your support!

Father's Day Prayer Blitz: Parenting

Every dad is the family role model, whether or not he wants the job. ~Dennis Rainey

Welcome to Day Two of the Father’s Day Prayer Blitz! Be sure to go back and read the preblitz prayer and day one.

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Each day this week, we will post specific scripture references pertaining to fathers/fatherhood/heavenly Father for us to intentionally focus on in prayer. Let’s HONOR the fathers (biological, step, adoptive, spiritual)  in our lives by standing in the gap for each of them. Today we focus on the role of father for the men in our lives.

Day Two Scripture Focus: Parenting

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. ~Ephesians 6:4

Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.  ~Colossians 3:21 

Day Two Prayer Focus: Parenting

For Your Father/Father-In-Law: Pray that your father/father-in-law will demonstrate love and patience toward your/your husband even as an adult and be a Godly and encouraging influence on your/your husband's life.

For Yourself/your wife: Pray that you/your wife will respect and honor your husband's/your way of encouraging, instructing and disciplining your children and that you and your wife/you and your husband will be in Godly agreement on how to encourage, instruct and discipline your children.

For Yourself/your husband: Pray that you/your husband will demonstrate love and patience toward your children, regardless of their age and will be a Godly and encouraging influence on their lives.

Repentance/forgiveness: Fathers: repent for times you have been impatient and/or discouraging to your children. Ask God for divine parenting wisdom and love to respond to your children appropriately.

For your father/father-in-law: Pray forgiveness for times your father/father-in-law did not demonstrate patience and encouragement for you as their child.

Using the scriptures above, pray a declaration and blessing over yourself, your father/father-in-law and children:

Heavenly Father, thank you that my father is patient with me, and that I can go to him for Godly wisdom, instruction and encouragement. Thank you Heavenly Father for standing in the gap and being the perfect father and showing me/my husband how to be a Godly example to my/our children. In Jesus name, Amen.

Yes, you can pray these words in faith even if you have not experienced this in your own fatherly relationships yet! LOOKING FORWARD TO THE NEXT ART OF MARRIAGES! Join us August 15-16 at Living Waters in Pikeville or September 5-6 at Faith Fellowship in Kinston! 

AOM

Want to unplug on FamilyLife's Fifth Annual Love Like You Mean It Cruise 2015? Book with our group and sail away with us! 

christian cruise

Enjoy Al Mohler, Crawford & Karen Loritts, Dennis Rainey, Chris August, Andrew Peterson, Shaunti Feldhahn, Ron Deal, David Nasar, Jimmy McNeal, Kerri Pomarolli and Ron McGehee...and Intentionally Yours' Scott & Sherry Jennings at I Still Do, a one day marriage event that will strengthen your marriage and rekindle the romance!

ISD-I-Still-Do-Fall-2014

We're linking up with some AMAZING bloggers…check out the links at the bottom right of the page.

Intentionally Yours is a 501(c)3 organization committed to sharing God's truth, hope and vision for marriage until every home is a godly home. Will you partner with us in this mission? Thank you for your support!