Dangers of Discontentment

Dangers of Discontentment

Discontentment is one of the enemy's favorite tools. Remember in Genesis 3? Satan approached the sinless woman in the perfect world God had created just for her and her husband. She had everything she could ever possibly need, but he convinced her by planting a seed of doubt that the one thing she couldn't have (because God was protecting her) was the one thing she couldn't live without. Even though in reality that one thing God kept from her would kill her, break her world, strain her relationship with God and her husband, and create a legacy of brokenness for her children.

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I Can't Forgive Myself

I Can't Forgive Myself

Forgiveness is not easy but it's also not optional. Our partner in ministry, Beverly Weeks, has shared before so eloquently about forgiveness and how it can be hard to let go of the pain that has been inflicted by others through their harsh words or unkind actions. As I was reading I thought, what about all of those folks who are struggling with not being able to forgive themselves?

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Father's Day Prayer Blitz: The Heart

When God asked King Solomon what he wanted, King Solomon replied he wanted a heart. What if we prayed for the men in our lives to have that same kind of heart Solomon asked God to give him? Here’s what I want: Give me a God-listening heart so I can lead your people well, discerning the difference between good and evil. For who on their own is capable of leading your glorious people? ~1 Kings 3:9 MSG

Each day this week, we will post specific scripture references pertaining to fathers/fatherhood/heavenly Father for us to intentionally focus on in prayer. Let’s HONOR the fathers (biological, step, adoptive, spiritual)  in our lives by standing in the gap for each of them.If you missed the preblitz prayer, husband prayer or parenting prayer, be sure to go back and read/pray them!

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Today we focus on the heart of the father for the men in our lives.

Day Three Scripture Focus: The Heart

And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction. ~Malachi 4:6

Day Three Prayer Focus: The Heart

  • Pray for your self/husband to have a heart for your/his children.
  • Pray for your own father/father-in-law to have a heart for his children, regardless of age.
  • Pray for your children to have a heart for you/their father.

Repent/Forgive

Fathers/husbands: Repent for moments that you may have neglected your child or not attended to their needs in an appropriate manner. Pray for God to give you divine parenting wisdom, restore divine order in your family and relationship with your children. Repent for times you may not have heeded your earthly or heavenly father's attempts at having a relationship with you.

Mothers/wives: Repent for any way you may have stood between or hindered your children's relationship with their father or your husband's relationship with his/your children. Pray for God to restore relationships and divine order in your family. Repent for any ways you have rejected your earthy or heavenly Father's attempts at relationship with you. Forgive your father for any ways you felt rejected or not cared for.

Forgive your own father for moments he may not have attended to your needs or you felt like he neglected you, in any way.

Pray and declare in faith:

As a son or daughter: Thank you God that my father's heart is turned toward me and my heart is turned toward him. I pray my own father will feel loved, cherished and cared for not only by his earthly father but by our Heavenly Father as well.

As a father: Thank you that my heart is turned toward my children and their heart is turned toward me. May I love and provide for them. May I have the divine wisdom to understand them and be attentive and understanding to their individual needs. May I enjoy my children whole heartedly. May my children feel loved, cherished and cared for by me.

As a mother/wife: Thank you that my children's hearts are turned toward their father and his heart is turned toward them. May I do nothing to stand in the way of my children's relationship with their father. May my children feel loved, cherished and cared for by their father.

Lord Jesus, give the men in my life eyes to see, ears to hear, and hearts that are engaged in You and the battle around them, that they will know who they are, where they are, and the good You are up to in their lives. In Jesus name, Amen.

 

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Can God Forgive My Broken Past?

Her voice began to break, and the tears began to flow swiftly down the side of her face. I placed her trembling hands within mine and began to squeeze them tightly. I could sense the pain, anguish, the shame as she began to fearfully share with me how she had chosen to end her pregnancy by aborting her child. “I feel so ugly, so sinful. I took my child’s life and it was all because I wanted an easy way out. I was so selfish. How can God ever forgive me?” forgive

She then went on to describe to me how she had awaken from the  procedure at that stale, cold, clinic and felt so all alone. Her story was filled with so much grief as she spoke about the remorse and sadness she had felt. I found myself as her counselor becoming bitter, frustrated, and teary eyed as she recounted the harsh, apathetic tone in her nurse’s voice whose only advice had been , “Here take this heat pad and sit in that chair until you get yourself together. Everything will be just fine…..”

Yet, everything had not been just fine. This young mother had been haunted by her hidden, past sin, she had awaken many nights to the false cries of a baby, she had been attacked by lies from the enemy of how she was worthless, would never measure up, and how God could never forgive her from her broken past. For years, the sorrow and guilt from this unmentionable secret had weighed so heavily upon her, until all the joy had been sapped from her young life.

God Offers Restoration

I found myself sitting in that office chair thinking back to some of the decisions I too had made in my past. Sinful decisions and poor judgement that at one time in my life had wounded friendships, almost destroyed our marriage, grieved my family, and nearly cost me everything. Regrets that for so long caused a deep constant pain, and overwhelming shame.

You see the fact is we are all just one poor decision away from changing the rest of our lives. There are times that the enemy will come at you like a howling wolf, with sharp fangs, just foaming at the mouth with his one intention to attack your mind, create confusion, scar your memories with shame, and make you believe that you cannot break free from the dreaded bondage of your past.

The truth is we cannot break free from our sin on our own, but in Christ there is healing, freedom, forgiveness, and restoration for you no matter what you have done!

I waited patiently for the LORD; he turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the LORD.    Psalm 40:1-3

Breaking Free From The Guilt of Your Past

There are some of you reading this right now, and you have been trapped in the guilt of your hidden past sin for so long. You have allowed that scum bag, pathetic, scally wag Satan to convince you that you can never be forgiven.  Adultery, coveting, pornography, addictions, a past abortion, a hidden sexual sin, harsh words, stealing… It is time to remind yourself to rely on the grace of GOD and the POWER of the Holy Spirit, and rest in the assurance of knowing that GOD loves you and wants you to be forgiven. NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING you have ever done can cause God to love you any more or any less!

The Word of God tell us that when we repent and confess, that our GOD is FAITHFUL to forgive us. No matter how bad your situation may have been, no matter how much pain or anguish you may have caused someone else, no matter how bitter the words or how hurtful the gossip was that leaped from your tongue, God’s love and Jesus death covers it all. If you have turned from your sins to follow Jesus, then honeychild, glory to GOD, those chains have fallen, you have been set free! You have been FORGIVEN for what happened days, months, or even years ago!

Hallelujah! I praise my GOD, because I have been tee-totally forgiven of my past. By his wounds, I am healed. In Christ I am a new creation. SO don’t judge me, Beverly Weeks by my past, I no longer reside there!!!!

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death. ~Romans 8:1-2

 

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I Deserve It

In the early stage of developing an affair relationship with the other woman (OW), a thought became firmly planted in my mind - like leaven in bread. My marriage wasn't going like I wanted. I was lonely, isolated, and "needed" the attention I was getting. The thought that just seemed to mushroom:

I deserve it.

 

I firmly believe this is just one of the lies that the enemy whispers into the ear of the wayward spouse to lure them into the snare of seduction, and then to trap them there as well. I have also become convinced that the enemy's bag of tricks is only so big, but he doesn't really need a big bag. The tricks he uses just keep on working - over and over again. This lie has got to be one of the worst, most-often employed tricks in his arsenal.

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I soon gave in to my desires. After all, I deserved it.

 

But, like many - if not all - other wayward spouses, I set myself up for further failure. As our "relationship" developed, the OW confided in me how she'd been hurt in relationship after relationship in the past. I vowed that I would be different. I would be the one person to never hurt her. I would be her Knight in Shining Armor. And she - she was exactly what I needed! She understood me on a new and exciting level! She knew just how to make me feel really good about myself. I deserved her.

(Notice how self-focused all that really is? And how delusional! What starts in secrecy and lies can never be healthy or good!!)

But in time the fog of fantasy began to wear thin. I started to see the OW as the broken person she was (we're all broken people, I just didn't want to see her that way). And I started to see the futility of the fantasy. There's a reason it's called fantasy. And honestly, all the secrecy was getting old too. Living the dichotomy that was becoming my life - or more precisely, my two lives, was just tiring. I began to want out. And I wasn't really sure I cared which life I got out of (my marriage or the affair), just so long as one of them ended.

But then the lie - the trick 0f the enemy - became my snare.

I deserve it.

Staying involved with the OW became a burden. But a burden I felt like I had to shoulder. I saw no choice in the matter. I didn't want to "let her down." Hah! Ludicrous, I know.

Only Jesus never fails.

That shining armor I'd donned so confidently turned out to be made of garden variety iron. It was getting heavy and beginning to rust. And let's face it, I was no prince. But, I'd made my bed and...well, yeah...now I had to lie in it. I was either going to stick it out at all costs, or become just another one of those guys who discarded the OW - another relationship gone bad. I did NOT want to be one of those guys. So, I tried to stick it out - for a while.

I still feel a pit in my chest when I think about this part of the story. The incredible pain I caused in the end because I couldn't see past my own selfishness in the beginning. The needless, wasted emotional destruction!

Some wayward spouses, I think, just decide it's easier to inflict the damage on their (already hurting) spouse and destroy the weakened marriage relationship rather than risk "hurting" the affair relationship or the other person. It's the attitude of I've come this far, there's no turning back now.

But that would be a road that could NEVER lead to integrity, or to a godly legacy. I simply couldn't live with myself. I decided that even though a divorce was what I deserved and would likely have coming, even though my wife would be hurt even more deeply than the wounds already inflicted and I may very well end up separated from her and our children, the only way to even have a chance at godly living - at a good life - would be through truth. A painful truth for all involved. But truth at any cost was better than living a lie for the rest of my life. So I chose truth. It was (and always is) the right path.

If you are even considering becoming involved in an affair, I encourage you to carefully consider where the whole "I deserve it" lie will take you. It IS a lie - from start to finish. And nothing less than a trap designed to ensnare your soul!

Is your spouse involved in an affair?

If your spouse is currently involved in an affair, I encourage you to pray that many holes will be poked into the web of fantasy, such that the full light of truth casts that web off entirely. And that this "I deserve it" lie will become incredibly burdensome to your spouse, just as it did to me, so they will desire to break free from it and choose to walk in truth. I also encourage you to be ready for that truth - and the pain it will bring.

It's not too late- God can bring life and healing into your marriage.

You can work through the damage and the pain, together - using God's blueprints for your marriage and for your future. You can build a worthwhile legacy based on mutual trust and integrity. It's never too late! The same God who raised Christ from the dead can - and desires to - bring life and healing into your marriage. It is the right path.

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I Saw Mommy Hissing At Santa Clause

Somebody pass the double stuffed Oreos and a jar of crunchy peanut butter. This girl is about to step all over her hot pink, polka dot painted toes, and I'm gonna need a pedicure by the time I am finished! Seriously, could I have Ebenezer Scrooge’s DNA in my genes? It never fails, about this time of year I get me a little Grinch ATTITUDE.  You know I  have been known to pucker up that bottom lip, sway those hands in the air and do some  momma mania shouting. Need I remind you, NONE of my actions honor the King!

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There is the stress of the parties, functions, plays and events, the traffic, the endless search for the last minute gift (that you NEVER can find), and even the infamous throwing of the bathroom scales, after weighing in almost four pounds heavier in one week! Of course, I guess the weight gain should come as little surprise considering I devoured a whole sleeve of my favorite white chocolate- covered Oreos and ate more than my share at a local buffet.

Blame It on The Time of The Month

Ladies, just being candid, my Christmas stress always comes along at the wrong time of the month! You know, that one time when you cannot get enough of anything, chocolate or deep-fried.  It is that one time of the month when you feel you weigh a ton and your hormones are so out of whack that you cry even at coffee and dog food commercials. Heaven forbid you turn on It’s A Wonderful Life or Little House on the Prairie……pass the Kleenex! Seriously, last night, while watching The Waltons I felt like I was having an emotional melt down...

The Part Where I go to Hissing

Honeychild, I ain't gonna lie, it is during these times that I have been known to lash out at my husband. Yes, you heard me right. No matter how spiritual you are, we all have sinful selfish desires because we are all sinners and sometimes when we don’t get our way, a quarrel is sure to follow.

There have been occasions that I have had to remind myself to take the focus off of me and my wants, and through God’s power, I have to pray for what is best for me, my husband, and our family.  You see God’s word clearly tells us in the book of James that when we don't handle our words and thoughts in a gracious manner, trouble is sure to follow.

What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. ~James 4:1-3

Humbled & Seeking Forgiveness

Just being candid, I had to do something this weekend that was very humbling. I called a family meeting and in front of my husband and the kids, I just had to say “I am sorry.”  You see, anger is inevitable. Anger itself is not wrong, but as a child of God, I have to choose: Will I  handle that anger and hurt with bitterness or will I  handle it in a Christ-like manner?

There are times when I just have to  pour out my heart to God. I have to seek forgiveness where I need to, and ask  the Lord to help me to seek Him first during the Christmas season.

This Christmas season when I start to feel sad, I will start counting my blessings. When I begin to feel myself getting down, or depressed, I will count more blessings. Believe me, my life and your life, my friend, are filled with plenty of blessings! I want to be intentionally thankful and grateful!

Trading In My Hissing For A Little Kissing!

This Christmas season when my kids sneak down the stairs, I want to hear  them  singing, “I saw mommy kissing Santa Claus underneath the Mistletoe last night.”  Better yet... hmmm...I am thinking  there is a verse coming on that says "I saw mommy tickle Santa Claus…"

Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out. ~Colossians 4:6  MSG

 

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I Was That Prodigal Wife

I Was That Prodigal Wife

The drive on the way home was somber an unusually quiet.  There were no sing-alongs, no laughter, no music, only grim silence.  It was  if my two young children were in mourning and had just left a freshly dug grave.

As I turned to reach for his hand, I could see the tears flowing uncontrollably from my young son’s eyes.  He forcefully pushed my hand away and with his voice breaking, he yelled out,” I can’t take this anymore. Why did we have to leave dad? Mom what have you become? I  want my family back!”

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Releasing the Prodigal

In that first meeting with a godly man, friend and counselor, God reminded me that I was allowing guilt to control my life, and that guilt does not come from God but the enemy of our souls.

So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. ~Romans 8:1 (NLT) 

I was feeling was guilt, not conviction. I was then reminded of the prodigal son and his father. Remember the prodigal son story? That father gave his son what he wanted, and more, advising his son that the path he was pursuing was not the best choice, yet willingly giving him everything he asked.

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I realized that the father did not chase after his son! While it hurt the father to see his son leave, he would not allow himself to be part of his son's prodigal lifestyle.

My dad is the prodigal son. While every son needs to hear from his dad "I'M PROUD OF YOU," I can’t expect to receive something my father can’t give yet. While I want my dad to be part of my life, his grandchildren, daughter in law’s lives, I can’t force him to do the right things, only God can change his heart.

As the protector of my family, I must guard my heart and theirs.

3 things I see the Father has done (and is still doing):

    1. #1 He released his son to make choices
    2. #2 He protected the rest of his family
    3. #3 He waited patiently for his son's return

Where am I?

I’m releasing my father into the hands of the heavenly Father, because he can’t give me what I need until he gets what he NEEDS, and only the heavenly Father can give him that.

I’m releasing him from my life and letting him know when he is ready, I’m ready, because I must STEP UP and MAN UP to be the man God has called me to be, whether or not my dad ever tells me he's proud of me. My heavenly Father is proud of me. And I will protect and love my family. That is my godly duty has a husband and father!

3 things to pray for the prodigal:

    1. #1  He will come to place of desperation...I'm going to die if I don’t get back to my Father.
    2. #2  He will come to his senses
    3. #3  He will realize that, not only has he sinned against his father, but also against God

Until then I wait patiently for my dad’s reunion with the Heavenly Father.

Are you waiting on a prodigal to return to the Father? Are you the prodigal? As long as you are breathing, there is hope!

Read Dwaine's wife April's story, and the power of the prodigal son story in her life.

 

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The Unfairness of Grace Part 2: Extravagant Injustice

Grace is unfair

So you tell me; Your spouse has left, running around with someone new, living the high life. Suddenly, extreme grace doesn't look so attractive anymore. Maybe it's not revenge, exactly...but hey, some form of payment would be nice. Ok, let's call it a "consequence." Surely, God won't let them get away with hurting YOU like this. Will He?

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I've been in those moments, of being more concerned with having my hurt validated than trusting and watching the amazing power of grace. How can you forgive something like that? How can you forgive it again? How many times are you going to go through this?

Injustice: Grace blesses your enemies

The truth is, I can't forgive anything. God can. He did. He is the one who sacrificed, not me. That is grace. I don't have to wish ill upon my spouse or anyone else. In fact, the Bible clearly instructs us to BLESS our enemies and not to curse them. If consequences were so important, why would God ask us to bless our enemies? Bless the source of our pain and heart ache? Bless those that curse us?

We have this twisted idea of grace and consequence. We want grace but we want others to experience consequences. Not just any consequences, but the consequences we think they should have to endure. We want to see people miserable for a set amount of time so that they learn their lesson.

There is something wrong with this way of thinking. It exalts ourselves above God. Suddenly, we know what is best for another. We know exactly what they need and how they learn. Somehow, we begin to believe that we know this person better than the creator of the universe. Better than the creator of their soul does.

We become not only the prosecutor but the judge and jury. The same thing happened to a woman who was caught in adultery. The law declared the consequence for her sin was death. The jury declared her guilty and was ready to exact the consequence upon her. We know that Jesus stepped in and saved her life.

Grace in the Love Triangle: A Bold Risk

What we rarely hear about is the other man involved in this scandalous 'love triangle'. John 3:8 states she was caught in adultery. Well, that had to have been embarrassing. If she was caught, the man must have been there too, right?

Their love triangle of shame is transformed into a real LOVE triangle of grace when Jesus enters the scene. The man involved is not seen, sought after, or even mentioned. What grace Christ exhibits for him. Do you think He didn't know who he was, his name, his habits, his identity down to his core?

God not only saved this woman, he saved an anonymous man. He saved a coward, who was allowing his lover to take the blame, unto death, for him. Christ stepped in, became the consequence, as the lover of his soul and paid the literal price of death, for a shameless man. Christ is the lover that takes our blame.

Christ did not expose, nor did he tell the jurors (scribes and pharisees) to find the man and bring him to justice. There was no justice. Again, the point? Grace is unjust. It is given when undeserved. It is the act of shamefully allowing another to pay the consequence of our dark deeds.

But he got away with it! What if he doesn't learn his lesson? What if he does it again? Gasp!?! It's a bold risk. What if...Christ had not paid the price? Are we then, putting ourselves in the position of being teachers and guardians of the law?

Perhaps, Christ is calling us to be guardians of grace?

The scribes and pharisees 'got it'. The adulterous woman 'got it'. Grace makes me hope the secret male lover 'got it'.

Christ thinks you, and he, and she, and they and us...are worth the risk.

Did you miss The Unfairness of Grace Part 1: Indiscriminate Access?

 

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Top 5: #2 & A Giveaway!

As we celebrate the first year of Intentionally Yours, we can't help reflect on another catalytic tool from FamilyLife- The Weekend To Remember. It is THE weekend where Scott and I learned God's blueprint for marriage back in 2005, only a few short months after our divorce. We left that weekend knowing that we had to tell the WORLD what God had for husbands and wives, because we knew the world wasn't. How did we start reaching out to couples to share that as long as you are breathing there is hope?

  • By sharing our story of brokenness and redemption to share hope with others.
  • By becoming group coordinators. YOU can become a group coordinator, you'll get a discount code to share so people can save $120 on their registration, and you'll earn free registrations to gift to couples who need it. It's a powerful, grassroots way to help people around you!
  • By becoming part of FamilyLife's Homebuilder movement. FamilyLife is creating tools for people like YOU (and us!) to share God's blueprint for marriage in our sphere of influence. Right now, small group kits are 25% off!

It's been through sharing our story and FamilyLife's tools that we've met every single person on the Intentionally Yours Team. We're so grateful for what God is doing...and how He may be calling YOU to share!

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To celebrate, this week we’re going to share the TOP 5 posts of our first year and host our first giveaway! Everyday this week you’ll be able to enter to win a FREE REGISTRATION to FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember (a $300 value!) or a set of MY WIFE ROCKS/MY HUSBAND ROCKS shirts (a $30 value!). Just follow the instructions below, and then we’ll announce the winner on Monday.

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What amazes me every day about Scott Jennings is that if you'd told him back in 2004 that he would be a pastor of marriage and family life, he probably would have beat the snot out of you, then thrown you out of the bar...because that is where he was spending so much of his time. When Scott surrendered his life to Christ back in 2005, he became a man after God's heart and mine. He was truly transformed and being transformed everyday. He's not perfect by any stretch, but he truly wants to become the man God created him to be, and he knows I'm his partner in that. After reading Stepping Up, he wrote Intentionally Your's #2 most read post 10 Questions to Ask Your Wife.

#2: 10 Questions to Ask Your Wife

10 questions Humility. It’s a word that’s about as popular today with men as the word submission is with women. However, any man who has tried to biblically lead his family for more than about fifteen minutes knows humility is an integral part of leadership.

When it comes specifically to leading your wife, approaching her with humility can be a challenge. It takes an intentional desire to put aside your own selfishness and see the bigger picture. More than anything else, your wife needs the security that comes with the knowledge that you are in your marriage for the long haul. She needs to know you’re committed, not only to her for the rest of your life, but also that you’re committed to growing closer to her for the rest of your life.

We need to be able, with all humility, to look at our performance as a husband and be honest with ourselves. To ask our wives what it is we’re doing well and in what areas we need to improve. Let’s be honest: that’s a hard thing to do. But if you’ll put on the cloak of humility that Christ provides and set aside your selfishness, you’ll see the rewards are worth the effort. I would encourage you to take the following steps in order to bring your marriage relationship to a whole new level.

Read the rest of 10 Questions to Ask Your Wife...

 

Sherry and Beverly have spoken at events throughout the southeast, including our own annual Intentionally & Wonderfully Made women’s event, and we’d love to come speak at YOUR women’s event! We share on topics such as insecurity, sexual intimacy, lies women believe, comparison, discontentment, people pleasing10 questions to ask your husband, and more. Don’t miss Beverly's next speaking engagement- September 13 at Goldsboro Worship Center! Cafe Chocolate

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Questions to Ask Your Wife

Questions to Ask Your Wife

A while back we posted 10 Questions to Ask Your Wife... time to pull it out of the vault. Humility. It’s a word that’s about as popular today with men as the word submission is with women. However, any man who has tried to biblically lead his family for more than about fifteen minutes knows humility is an integral part of leadership.

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Stronger

Stronger. On my way home from work, I found myself thinking about writing a post. Since I have my own blog, I tend to think in terms of "Should I put this in my blog, or send it over to Intentionally Yours?" For this post in particular though, I knew that what I had on my heart was meant for you.

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Stronger

I found myself contemplating YouVersion's verse of the day. I love that app. Recently, I changed the version from The New Living Translation to The Message, to get a different perspective. And I have to say that the verse I read took me aback. And left me thinking "Wow." I mean, it's hard to put it in any other words than that, without a longer explanation, and without sharing the passage first.

"Why would you ever complain, O Jacob, or whine, Israel, saying

'God has lost track of me.  He doesn't care what happens to me'?

Don't you know anything?

Haven't you been listening?

God doesn't come and go.

God lasts.

He's Creator of all you can see or imagine.

He doesn't get tired out, doesn't pause to catch his breath.

And he knows everything, inside and out.

He energizes those who get tired, gives fresh strength to dropouts.

For even young people tire and drop out, young folk in their prime stumble and fall.

But those who wait on God get fresh strength.

They spread their wings and soar like eagles.

They run and don't get tired, they walk and don't lag behind." ~Isaiah 40:27-31

Even though it may be hard to see beyond your present struggles, when you trust in God He will make you stronger.

You may want to re-read that. If you are struggling with the hurt and the pain and the waiting, perhaps this will give you a fresh perspective. Maybe it is something you will need to put in front of you each day. I won't lie. I have realized simply in writing this that I need to write this down and post it on my wall at work.

I have learned, in the past year and a half, that having Scripture in front of me each day is not only helpful, but it is essential. I battle anxiety, especially stemming from memories of my past and my affair, and I NEED reminders of my Father who takes such good care of me and calms my heart.

Sometimes it is easy to focus on the hurt.

On the wrong done to us.

We look at the struggle we are going through, and all we can think about is how bad we feel. How unfair it is, and how far away God seems.

not impossible

But then, when I read what The Bible says above, I can't help but think how mixed up I have been at times. I tend to react to situations emotionally. I think that is typical, for men and women alike. We see the pain inflicted upon us; we feel it all around us.  It's right there, in front of our eyes. It's next to impossible to see beyond it. But that's the thing.

Next to impossible is NOT impossible.

If you didn't love God and serve Him, wanting to grow closer to Him, you wouldn't even be reading this blog. You wouldn't be standing for your marriage. So this tells me that I can be up front with you. I can ask you to look beyond the pain. Look beyond the hurt and the circumstances.

This is gonna make you stronger.

Ask yourself the questions that God asks His people:

Don't you know anything about me and my power?

Have you been listening to what I've been trying to say?

Here is your reassurance, and your answers to those questions:

God doesn't just come and go from one place to another, or even from one person to another.

God LASTS.

He doesn't get tired.  Of you or your circumstances.

He doesn't wear out or have to stop to catch his breath, because he is always present.

"And he knows everything, inside and out."

He will give you energy.

He will give you strength.

When you feel like giving up and you feel like dropping out of this stand, God will refresh you.

He will restore your hope.

But you have to wait on Him.

It has to be an agreement between you and God that you will wait on Him. That you will let Him give you the strength you need to keep standing. And not only will He give you strength, you'll be so strong you will be able to spread your wings and soar.  You'll be able to run, and keep up!

You are stronger!

I'm not a big Mandisa fan, but there is one song by her that I absolutely love. Listen closely to this song. I hope that the message comes through loud and clear for you, as it did for me. Standing on the other side, I can tell you that what you are going through will make you stronger.

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Learning To Fight Fair

I could hear the brakes squealing as the car came to a sudden halt. The impact of the large deer hurling across the front bumper of our car sent me into a state of panic. I glanced over to my husband to see if he was okay.

Fight Fair

Later, as we reached home my husband pulled the car into the garage to assess the damage. The overhead garage lights only confirmed what I had feared, major damage to the front bumper, side panel, and headlights. As I stood there completely frustrated, I will be honest, the first thought that came to my mind was NOT the fact that God had kept us both safe without injury. My mind began to fill with anxiety as I contemplated that  the repairs would probably cost thousands of dollars… money that we just did not have in our already strained budget.

I knew that there was no way I could possibly sleep without checking first with the insurance company to see if the damages would be covered by our policy. The voice on the telephone line offered no assurance as I slammed down the phone and began to yell out. “No comprehensive insurance! We cancelled it to save money. Ughhh!"

Just being candid, I went into a 1:30 a.m. shouting tizzy and although I never actually verbalized it, the disrespectful tone in my voice insinuated that I thought my husband was a  genuine, fortified idiot! Now, you need to know, I think  my husband is one of the smartest men with finances that you will ever meet, but at that moment, in the wee hours of the morning I wanted to shout out “what were you thinking?”…and so I did!

Ironically only hours before, we had been helping to facilitate , of all things a MARRIAGE conference with our ministry partners. Now here we were ending the night with and unexpected horrible ”BANG!" Honeychild, ain’t that just like the stankin’ enemy?

Emotionally exhausted, frustrated and just downright angry, I began to spew words at my husband without giving them one ounce of thought. I knew just what buttons to push to set him off! I went so far as to even resurface old baggage, which in turn caused my husband to clam up, feel unappreciated and it did absolutely NOTHING to resolve our existing conflict.  I began to yell all the more, which escalated into a shouting match that  led to World War III erupting. Eventually my husband retreated to the bedroom, but not before he slammed the door in my face.

I stormed off  into the guest bedroom where I flung myself across the bed and began to cry. I felt embarrassed, ashamed, full of guilt and disappointed in the way we had handled ourselves. It was completely opposite from what we had always taught other couples, and now our conflict was resulting in  the dreaded silent treatment.

The temporary time out allowed me to regain control of my emotions, words and my actions. I knew I had no other recourse but to repent and seek forgiveness from God and my husband. With my voice shaking, I proceeded to knock on that bedroom door to apologize. “Honey, I am so sorry. I acted in a completely sinful foolish manner. I was hungry, tired, sleepy, and frustrated. Did I say I was hungry? We both know I can have an attitude when I am hungry! I love you and I thank you for taking care of our finances. Will you forgive me?"

You see my friend conflict is INEVITABLE. Christian couples will fight. Well, I prefer to call it “intense fellowship.” We are imperfect people trying to do life together. There are even times that we might fuss just because our sinful nature likes it. If someone tries to tell you there is not conflict in marriage, then I can assure you they have never been married! That night, my husband and I had failed to attack the problem and instead in that moment we had attacked each other. That is not the way to handle conflict.

My husband pulled me close to his side and he began to weep and we shared one of the deepest moments of intimacy as we began to pray together and seek forgiveness.  It allowed us to release harbored bitterness, forgive hurtful words, talk calmly about our situation  and later it led to the most passionate wee hour morning of lovemaking we have ever had! Well GLORY!!

Friend, there will be times when you can solve it on your own and then there will be those days that you have to lay aside your pride and turn to a pastor, a Christian friend or a godly counselor for help, but never give up. I had to recognize my spouse is not my enemy. I had to learn to fight fair!

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Stop Defending Yourself

The straw that broke the camel's back when my husband and I finally separated this last time, if I'm honest, was me telling him to leave.  I didn't ask, we didn't discuss it, I made a decision and enforced it upon him. Stop Defending Yourself

The entire time we have been separated, I justified my decision based on behavior he was exhibiting at the time. I can give you a run-down of all my reasons, which would basically sound like this:

He did this... He was doing that... Well, he...and he...then he....so I...

I take no personal responsibility for his behavior whatsoever. Only he can answer for the choices he has made. The problem was, I wasn't taking any personal responsibility for my choices either. I held him responsible for his choices AND my choices.

Every time he would bring up how I 'kicked him out,' I had my long list of reasons, justifications, excuses ready...all based on his behaviors. Round and round we would go. Until one day, once again, the old argument arose...I didn't want to argue with my husband anymore. I desire reconciliation.

I had an opportunity to respond differently. God blessed me with divine wisdom right when I needed it.  Instead of rehashing my same old rebuttals, I simply took ownership; "You're right."

I was surprised by what happened next. Real truth came tumbling out before I hardly realized what the 'real truth' was.

"I was desperate and didn't know what to do. I thought if I told you to leave it would force you to change. Force you to get help or wake up. I was trying to control you and that was inappropriate. I should not have done that. I am sorry."

Silence.

There was no response...and for the first time, in over a year, there was no longer an argument to have.

Again, I was free. Confession sets us free. When we can be honest, about ourselves, there really is no condemnation, there is freedom. There is peace.

The other day, in a quiet moment, God brought to mind another offense I had not recognized. I began to make my defense in my mind. I mentally went through every valid excuse as to why I acted and reacted the way I did. Blaming my husband the entire time. Defending my behavior.

God reminded me of Exodus 14:14  The LORD will fight for you, and you have only to be silent. (ESV) Usually I view this verse as God fighting my battle. This time I interpreted it as God fighting or defending 'my case', like in a courtroom. He already knows all the reasons I have done what I have done. Reasons for my actions and reactions, whether right or wrong, justified or not.

I don't need to defend myself, especially to God. In this instance, all I needed to do, again, was confess and repent. The bottom line was, I had not treated my husband the way God instructs in His word to treat my husband.

It wasn't about how my husband was treating me or how I perceived he was or wasn't treating me. It was a question of whether I had been doing what I was instructed to do. I wasn't. I wasn't being selfless, I was being selfish. I confessed and repented for the specific offenses God held me accountable for.

As long as we keep trying to justify ourselves, there isn't freedom. We're holding on to the offense under a banner of guilt, trying to prove our innocence. God offers forgiveness freely. We don't have to keep defending ourselves because the offense is no longer there. It is washed away. We've become holy and blameless. The cleansing won't happen if we keep carrying around an offense, continuously trying to justify our behavior.

Admitting our guilt, instead of fighting to prove our innocence, ends the 'trial' and our 'sentence', is forgiveness. Christ defended us once and for all, on the cross. Now, go and be free.

Stop Defending Yourself and be free

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Putting the Pieces Back Together

I had run so far away. I had no one to turn to. Making matters worse, I found out I was pregnant. I was abandoned by my boyfriend and had a strained relationship with my parents. WHAT A MESS I HAD MADE! Putting the Pieces Back Together

I felt like God had failed me because my grandfather walked out on us all. I was under so much stress I thought I was going to lose my mind and began to have warning signs of problems in the pregnancy. Being the black sheep in the family and having no one to call, I called my grandfather. We hadn’t spoken but twice during the previous three years and I didn’t know if he would even talk to me.

As I began to tell him what was going on, he immediately said that "we" would be there as soon as possible. I had mixed feelings about the WE, because I knew that included his new wife and child. I still do not know how they got to me so quickly that night! They put their arms around me, loved me, and told me everything was going to be okay. I wasn’t so sure... how was I going to raise a child on my own? They convinced me to move in with them so they could help me.

Granddaddy made the dreaded phone call to my mom letting her know I was pregnant. I will never know what was said during that conversation, but things started to slowly change for us all after that call. We began talking and relationships began to mend. It was awkward at times, but God was at work. When I had the baby, my family was there with me. Several life changing things happened that weekend...

First, I became a mother receiving the beautiful gift of a baby boy. I saw a broken family joined together celebrating this new gift of new life. Hope for a brighter future entered my soul.

Next, my parents asked me to come back home so they could help me.

Lastly, my parents' pastor and his family came to visit me at the hospital. It was their first Sunday as pastor and they had never met me, however, they came and LOVED me. This display of God’s love began to break through the walls around my heart and reminded me of who I really am…a daughter of the King!

Days were not always easy and I felt so ashamed of the mess I had made. I moved back home and began putting the broken pieces back together. People encouraged me, accepted my child and me, and prayed for us. I rededicated my life to Christ and we continued to heal. I felt like the prodigal son in Luke 15:11-32.

Take a look at some of the things shown in these scriptures as it applies to all prodigals.

The younger one said to his father, Father; give me my share of the estate! ~Luke 15:12

The first signs of trouble in our lives come when we focus on ourselves and what we believe we are entitled to have. OUCH, that hurts! For me, it was my grandfather had failed and God allowed it to happen. I deserved better, I deserved to do what I wanted to do. I took what I thought was MINE and ran straight into trouble, just like the prodigal son.

He ran away, lived wildly, began to be in need, hired himself out...no one gave him anything. ~ from Luke 15:13-16

Prodigal living focuses only on yourself and the result is losing everything. I needed something so desperately to fill the void and I sold myself…right into the hands of Satan and he gave me NOTHING but DESTRUCTION. The void grew!

But when he came to his SENSES!!! ~Luke 15:17

Isn’t this what many of us are waiting on in our lives? Waiting for someone to wake up and smell the coffee? If I could only knock some sense into them... Notice, though, that when the prodigal was at rock bottom he began to realize even the servants at home were better off than he was. He had a GOD moment. Sometimes, you have to hit rock bottom before you come to your senses!

When he noticed his son from afar…the father planned a HOMECOMING. ~ from Luke 15:21-24

The father gave his son the best robe and put a ring on his finger. How many times have we acted selfishly when someone asks us to forgive them? How many times do we respond with the attitude of the prodigal’s brother? I encourage you to praise a prodigal on their return. My family encouraged and empowered me to make positive changes.

The father responds with love to the angry son. ~ from Luke 15:31-32.

You see, I was once dead, broken, destructive and wild. I squandered everything that was mine and sat in the pig slops alone… BUT through the love of others, the prayers of the faithful, and the revelation of God’s truth, I AM ALIVE AGAIN! We are blessed to have a father who loves us no matter what and rejoices in our homecoming!

This Father's love helped me put the pieces of my broken life together and gave me the strength to share this life changing love with others. I encourage you today to LOVE everyone…especially the broken. Love the prodigals, show them unconditional love that only comes from Jesus. It’s through Love the lost are found, the dead are raised, and the pieces are molded back together into the beautiful image of God.

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Living in Color

You know the parable-like story of the frog? She goes swimming in water and has a great time until someone turns the burner on under the pot and the water slowly heats up. By the time the frog knows she is in trouble, it is too late to jump out- she is dying. It's like falling into sin...we justify getting into the water. He was so nice at the start. He goes to church. It seemed harmless enough. And that is how I got there. Slowly. In Living Color

Having been a Christian since I was 15 years old, I have had my ups and downs in my walk with The Lord, as do all of us who journey with Jesus. I have been out of His will off and on throughout my years and been restored to the path. But I had never been so far from his will that I thought I was beyond the reach of the father until I felt like Abraham, the rich guy in Luke 16:19-31. I had made sinful choices that led me out of God's will, one tiny degree at a time until I was over my head in boiling water.

I felt like I was in quick sand...where every time I moved, I sunk deeper. I was able to see the place I needed to be with God, but I couldn't get there because I had disregarded all the warnings and signs and redirection and loving guidance that God had sent me. I was feeling eternally separated from my God and knew that I was purposeless and worthless without Him.

My life couldn't get much grayer. I had gone from the woman of God's radiance, that lots of people used to call me, to the woman of blah. I was living in gray. There was no inner joy, just circumstantial and momentary enjoyment of the "feels good at the moment." Life inside my spirit was totally gray. Not black even...just gray. I knew where I wanted to be but had no real clue how to get back there.

I see the expansive array of emotions we have from deep grief to exuberant joy as the most colorful artistic thing about us as human beings. God created us to experience all our emotions with Him. We are to weep with those who weep, and rejoice with those who rejoice (Romans 12:15). We are to live in color. Walk in love, hear the music of the angels and the Father singing over us (Zephaniah 3:17) and to weep bitterly over those who are lost with the Father. Yet I was lost in my gray.

BUT GOD, who knows me and loves me more deeply than anyone ever could, found a way to invite me back into His space. He did so by finding me in mine. I lay before Him with the shattered heart that I totally deserved.

When I had a relationship with a person who clearly didn't put God first (he could not lead me to Christ because he was not heading there himself), and had sex outside of marriage... I deserved to be shattered. How could I be anything else? I chose to be out of God's will. Oh my gosh, can I be this honest about some of my pit falls along the way?

ENGAGED OR SEPARATED, SEX WITH ANYONE WHO IS NOT YOUR SPOUSE IS SIN. WHEN SEPARATED, DATING SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOUR SPOUSE IS SIN.

I am not condemning. I was there in SIN. But it is still SIN. We cannot be truly healed until we reconcile that and repent and then move again toward our Savior and the Lover of our soul who wants more than sex and more than our bodies. He wants it all. SINGLES hear this: if we live in SIN, God will not bless our relationships as He wants to. We are not in HIS will. I was not in HIS will and I felt unredeemable. BE INTENTIONALLY HIS.

BUT GOD...who redeems the unredeemable, invited me to meet HIM and showed me the value HE has placed in my life.

He welcomed me back, put me back on the road of restoration, but did more than that...HE REDEEMED MY LIFE.

I AM REDEEMED. I live in color. I experience the deepest grief and the highest joys. In fact, someone said I am radiant again. THAT IS JESUS!!! YOU, too, can be REDEEMED in Christ. Don't stay in gray, in competition for the attention and the glory in the here and now...lay yourself before God and live in His redemption and beautiful radiance today. I am so grateful for the mercy HE has offered and the REDEMPTION of my ashes for HIS BEAUTY. I pray that HE will sanctify this life that He has painted with beautiful colors of redemption. He restores by setting my feet on the right path again, and HE REDEEMS by making it all worth something.

 

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In Church or In Jesus?

In Church or In Jesus?

As a young boy my parents did the right thing and got me into church at the age of five years old.  By the time I was seven, I had accepted Christ and was baptized shortly after.  Unfortunately, as I discovered later in life, I didn’t really understand what I had done.  For years I thought going to church on Sunday and even hitting some midweek services here and there meant I had a relationship with Christ.

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People Pleasing Syndrome

"It was a one-eyed, one-horned, flyin' purple people eater (One-eyed, one-horned, flyin' purple people eater) A one-eyed, one-horned, flyin' purple people eater... Sure looks strange to me (One eye?)" Several months ago I was walking around my home sulking with tears in my eyes, and I began to change the lyrics to that 1958 classic around just a bit. I found myself singing them out loud, “SHE was a one eyed, one horned, flyin’ purple people pleaser, One eyed, one horned, flyin’ purple people pleaser… And I was directing those words straight at me!  Yes, I have finally admitted it. There have been times that I have been guilty of  wallering in the pit of  what I call the People Pleasing Syndrome.

People Pleasing Syndrome

I don’t know why it was so hard for me to write this devotion. It is the one thing about myself that is so absolutely irritating to me. I have seen it cause fear, attack my self esteem, produce anxiety and unnecessary worry and just being candid, I have seen in the past where I allowed it to bring about sin in my life. Yes, I said SIN! When you believe man’s opinion of yourself over God’s opinion, and you seek to please people more than God, my friend that is just plain SIN.  There goes my hot pink painted toes again. I just stepped all over them and Honeychild, I am gonna need a pedicure!

Can you relate to not being able to say “no” to commitments, committees, volunteer projects…. because you don’t want to cause any conflict or you don’t want them to think badly about you? And then you've allowed all those priorities to interfere with your time with God, your spouse and your family?

I reflect back and shamefully there have been times in my past when I even permitted people pleasing to alter my personality.  I am sure that I have looked one eyed and one horned and every shade of purple!  I remember in particular several years ago, gathering at a restaurant  table with a group of what I would call influential and popular ladies in the community, sharing the fake laugh, listening to their profanity and flirtatious remarks, yet seeking their approval and trying so hard to fit in with the 'in' crowd, ignoring all along that God did not want me to be in that SIN and that place to start with!

I look back and I have even changed things in my life to suit man’s agenda. I was ignoring what the Holy Spirit had planned for my life! For too long, I was enslaved to it, feeding off of the approval and affirmation that I received from others. I have actually tossed and turned in the bed at night filled with anxiety. “Why doesn’t she like me, what can I do to change it, what do they think of me, what does this person think or that person think…" It was not until I began to cry out to God and say Father God, I need you to heal me of this disease, this desire to please others, instead of pleasing YOU, that I was able to break free!

I am Beverly Weeks. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am funny, I have a big trunk, an extra belly roll and a few sprigs of gray on the top. I am spontaneous, creative, have been known to stick my foot in my mouth. I mess up and have been known to cry out to God in rage and fall to my knees and seek forgiveness and I refuse to live nothing less than what my GOD has in store for me!

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.  Galatians 1:10

 

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